22 month old swearing “F-ing Hell” - how do we stop it?!

[aimeeeleanor]

Our 22 month old repeats absolutely everything we say

We are ordinarily very good at censoring ourselves when our DC is around. However…. His Dad did slip up & said ‘Fing Hell’ in the car when someone about forced us off the road whilst driving the other day (naughty daddy! But of course human). DC repeated straight away & has now taken to saying it whenever he gets in the car

It doesn’t help that it’s in the most perfect & eloquent english you’ve ever heard in your life, every syllable is so crisp 😅so it is funny, but of course we don’t show him that we laugh

We just completely ignore it & try to talk about something else

Any tips on how to get him to stop / forget it?! My Mum heard him say it for the first time & cried, made me feel very guilty… I mean very dramatic but I get that he shouldn’t be doing it

Any help appreciated :) thanks so much

Ignore it.

And don't swear in front of him any more.

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Don’t give it any more attention. They get a big reaction when they say it and so they will continue to do so. It will fade out, trust me.

Every time you get in the car say something like oh faggots/ oh sausages or something else he’s not used to hearing and hopefully he’ll start saying it instead every time you go in the car

Film it for posterity and then ignore it. Or replace it and gaslight him into thinking it is something else like "duck in a shell".

May not help with this one as he's already saying it but in future if you say something you don't want them to say immediately say a load of words that rhyme with it and they don't remember which one you originally said. Eg "shit!" "Bit, hit, lit, sit, fit!"

Oh god your mums reaction 🥴 That won’t have helped.

Most of the toddlers I know swear. It happens. Just completely ignore it. It does stop. Any reaction will encourage him to do it more.

A friends toddler spent about three weeks saying “For fucks sake!” very loudly. She did in the middle of a very quiet cafe and I don’t think I’ve ever laughed so much in my life. She says it perfectly. You have to just not react. She’s stopped now, haven’t heard her swear in ages. It loses its charm if it doesn’t get a reply or reaction.

and then maybe see if your Mum is okay. She’s going to struggle if swearing makes her upset enough to cry… your toddler will probably do a lot of things she’d rather he didn’t!

Your mum cried? That's very dramatic.

Ignore him and try not to swear in front of him anymore (although accept that you might as we're all human). Hopefully it'll pass soon.

My friend's lad did this for a bit after heating "you prize c*ck!" When mum's car nearly got hit whilst out driving by another car.
Didn't help her husband laughing the first time he parroted it back, but ignoring it worked!

Too late OP. The damage has been done. He's on the path to a life of Satanism, drugs and Jeremy Kyle appearances.

My Mum heard him say it for the first time & cried

Get your DC to tell her to get a fucking grip!

@HyggeTygge you had me triggered up until I read satanism haha. Hilarious! I know I was a bit like errrmmm are you ok 🥴 whilst stood at the other side of the car silently chuckling

@Bovrilla what a specific phrase! Haha

We had success with emphasising a new "swear word" much like previous poster's suggestion of "sausages!"

Happened to me- called a man trying to force us over the edge of a cliff side a ‘stupid wanker’ 4 year old on it straight away. ‘ Oh dad, mum said a naughty word’ we look at each other - ‘ Mummy you mustn’t say naughty words’ I agreed I wouldn’t do it again and he said,’ That’s right mum, ‘stupid” is a naughty word.’
Would suggest you focus on the ‘hell’ in the hope that he latches onto this instead.

My daughter's first word was cock. My mum was driving and had a bit of erm, rage. She said it about 20 times and then never again. Just ignore.

My DD said that when she was about 18 months. I told her we must never say it and she never said it again. Later that day we took her out in the pushchair and DH was walking next to me pushing her and he said it to me and dd turned around and said ‘daddy that’s naughty!’ Never realised she was listening to us 😆

I'm advised, on good authority, that you cannot say 'faggots' these days and 'sausages' MUST be done in the 'That's Life' voice.

Hope this helps. 😋

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I'll just leave this here 😁

My friends kid did this and they told him he's saying it wrong and that the word is 'flipping'. Flipping hell still wasn't ideal but much better than fucking and the whole thing eventually fizzled out

Something similar happened to us. We'd loudly exclaim 'deary me!' All of the time, esp. playing games knocking down stacking cups etc. Took a week or two but she forgot!

Misses the point but I enjoyed the previous poster suggesting the 2 year old say 'oh faggots' as alternative

Just keep ignoring it and it'll pass. It's just a funny story for later. Your mum is mad.

I used to look after a little girl who had a very sweary Irish mum and she'd on occasion look out of the car window sign and say 'would you look at the feckin traffic!', made me laugh every time.

Try "Fudge sticks" 😁. Easy to quickly rephrase when saying "oh fu . ."

Also enjoyed this 😂.

Suppose the OP then has to replace faggots with cunts.

Like a sweary version of 'There was an old lady who swallowed a fly'.

Yes, I thought the same. I’d rather fucking hell tbh, much less embarrassing