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Anyone with kids with closeish birthdays?

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Leviii · 29/09/2023 11:01

DS turns 2 at end of Nov, the day after I turn 37 weeks pregnant with his sister.

as he was a bigger baby (3 days early too, ELCS) they do not want to let me go over my due date. So either, sweeps from early as possible, induction or another ELCS.

I am leaning towards trying for a vaginal birth, but if they’re saying they don’t want me to go over my due date Which I get because I’d be scared to give birth to a bigger baby, then DS and DD’s birthdays may be a week / two weeks apart (3 at max but I’m assuming they’d like me to come in earlier and not go right up to Due date)

has anyone got kids with birthdays within a month of eachother? Or few weeks! DD will definitely still be born December, I don’t believe I need to be induced on 37week mark which is day after DS birthday so I’d probably be either 38/39 so will be a week or two from his birthday

i have terrible mum guilt:( even though I. Will do everytning to make their birthdays seperate and special! Always

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Libra24 · 30/09/2023 22:36

Less than 4 yrs between my 3.
Gestational diabetes
10lb @ 39+5 7/12
10.7@ 37+4 11/11
9.2 @ 38 9/11
All vaginal births.
Last two induced x
So as you can see all my kids are born within 4 weeks of each other.
My partners bday is 7/12
Its a busy time of year but it's fine x we manage x

Mariposista · 30/09/2023 22:38

My friend had one child born in Australia and the second in Spain. If the second had also been born at the same moment but in Australia they would have had the same birthday.

GinjaNinja88 · 30/09/2023 22:47

I've got three, eldest and middle are a day between (13th & 15th), so the eldest got a sister for her second birthday 😖, youngest is 3 years younger and the month before (12th), they're fine honestly. I do a big joint bday party, which works for me as I think I only have one kiddie party in me per year. On their actual birthdays they get a few presents, they pick dinner (no matter what, middle once had tuna pasta, carrots, Yorkshire puds and gravy) hey pick dessert and they get a homemade cake with candles. Nanny and grandad come round. They love it as they all get a little special individual bday (I put banners up and balloons) plus they get a big party later.
Chill out, you're overthinking it and stressing yourself out. X

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Battytriker · 30/09/2023 22:48

I had my DD (13 days late) the day before my DS 2nd birthday. We did have joint parties when they were younger or combined days out etc. I think it would have been better to keep separate, which we did as they got older. They are now both adults and don't have any issues with it.

whosaidtha · 30/09/2023 22:52

Me and my sister share a birthday. Never been an issue. No shared parties or anything. But we are 9years apart so might be different if it was a smaller age gp

Chickenpie35 · 30/09/2023 23:11

4 days apart 12th & 16th of the month.

They both get their days on their actual birthdays and depending on what days of the week their birthday falls on eg if the 12th is on the Monday he will have his part sat 10th and 16th will have theirs following weekend but it was a Friday they'd have it the 13th.

Makes no difference to us except 1 month we're super skint. Also my dh bday on the 1st of month and 2024 fathers day is on the 16th always a busy month.

Dc on the 12th their cards & banners come down on the 15th. So the dc on the 16th theirs come down 3 days later aswell they then get the same amount of celebrations & acknowledgement.

Just is what it is and yes all year we save for June it's an expensive month but then it's done in one go.

Suka84 · 30/09/2023 23:15

More poignantly I find it horrible that you are being scare mongered into an induction (even a sweep is a form of induction), babies will come when they are ready which hospitals seem to forget, apparently mummies are incapable of naturally birthing babies 🤷‍♀️ you sound like a lovely mummy so regardless of their birth dates I am sure you will make them special. My oldest is boxing day (5 age) and we make sure that her birthday and Christmas are separate, i am 17th December so emphasise with December babies 🤭🤣😲

mondaytosunday · 30/09/2023 23:22

My sister and I are a week apart. We did have a few joint parties as youngsters but I don't remember it being an issue (my older sister may have thought differently). But really not an issue. Don't sweat it.

Loverofoxbowlakes · 30/09/2023 23:44

3 years 9 days between my dc - going to be an expensive 18th/21st!

My ds is was born the day before my birthday, I was more worried that she was going to be the favourite rather than being close birthdays. It's ace now we're older, always have an excuse for a get-together!

Tambatamba · 30/09/2023 23:45

I've got 3 out of 4 born in December. A very expensive time of year for me 😩

Tambatamba · 30/09/2023 23:50

More poignantly I find it horrible that you are being scare mongered into an induction (even a sweep is a form of induction), babies will come when they are ready which hospitals seem to forget

Inductions are much more common in recent years because they reduce the number of stillbirths. I think that's reasonable. Some babies don't come when they're ready, unfortunately. My oldest daughter is 21 and is severely disabled. A couple of weeks before she was due, a CTG showed issues with her heart trace. But the doctors decided to leave her in. I don't think that would happen, today and I do wonder if she would have been so severely disabled if they'd induced me earlier.

Chocolatesandroses · 30/09/2023 23:52

Mine are 12 days apart no issues here

ImthatBoleyngirl · 01/10/2023 00:00

Mine are 28th Dec and 30th Dec. No issues at all.

junebirthdaygirl · 01/10/2023 00:06

Mine are both are week apart but in July. When they were small we had a sort of birthday week with a combined party and then a big day out. Smack in the middle of the school holidays it was perfect. Now they are adults and living away they often end up coming home around that time so it's birthday celebration time again. It's been great. Absolutely no issue except an expensive month but plenty of time to plan for.
Actually they were both due on the exact same date but dd came a week early and ds on his due day.

Fizzhead94 · 01/10/2023 00:19

9 days apart here! DS is 27th August and DD is 5th September. They’ve never had a joint party etc, although the next one may be as they both fancy a swimming party etc.
mine just have a more awkward time with it being the end of summer holidays/as soon as they go back so it’s an extra expensive time, but it just requires some good planning! Other than that, no major downsides

lemonsaretheonlyfruit · 01/10/2023 00:35

My DS decided to turn up 2 weeks earlier than his due date and chose my DDs third birthday party to make an entrance. So yes very close! It has never occurred to me that this was an issue (apart from on the sat as I was having a home birth and the doorbell kept going throughout with kids turning up to my DDs supposed birthday party throughout) .

Their birthdays are 6 days apart. It has no impact on anything other than it being an expensive month every year!

FrostieBoabby · 01/10/2023 00:58

Not my kids but we have loads of family bdays in July which makes for super fun but expensive summers.

(Just want to mention, maybe avoid putting your kids full dob on your post if you ever use them for pins or passwords etc, you never know who is watching)

BabyFireflyx · 01/10/2023 03:07

Dsis is about to have a baby 3 days after her eldest's birthday elective C section. Now that's cutting it close.

HMH2407 · 01/10/2023 06:46

My boys birthdays are 6 days apart 18th & 24th
add to that is my birthday on 10th and my 2 brothers are 2nd and 6th of the same month
yes it can be difficult but we have now started doing 1 family celebration for everyone and the boys still get their own celebration each with their friends. Luckily they are summer born so don’t have the Xmas issue too!
there can be a little jealousy on each others day but them being close actually makes this better!

FeloniusGru · 01/10/2023 07:09

2 days apart here, they love it! And so do I, we drag celebrations out over a week so they each get their own special day but also joint celebrations. Have done parties, family meal, day trips and a holiday at one point. Gets it all over with in one go too so only have to decorate for birthdays and wrap presents once then forget about it for another year. It’s like a second Christmas 🙂

NamelessNinja · 01/10/2023 07:12

Yes my two are 3 years and 5 days apart, it makes for a stressful and expensive week (and my youngest isn't even at the party stage yet) but I think you've just got to grit your teeth and expect that and get through it.
I actually think it might be easier as jealousy a little easier to resolve when they can be told it's nearly their birthday.
Now expecting DC3 who's birthday will be 6 months from theirs and slightly concerned they will feel left out that week! 😂
Basically I think it's very easy to fixate on it whilst you're pregnant as it's something easy to worry about (I definitely did!) But it'll all be fine whatever the birthday gap is

Emz15 · 01/10/2023 07:17

Sorry but this is a total non issue. I am a twin so have shared a birthday my entire life (and no, it’s not “different” because we are twins… we are separate people and although we share some friends we have also always had our own friends too). I also have a friend who shares her birthday with her brother - she is 3 years older than him so not twins but same birthday.

Diggersandunicorns · 01/10/2023 07:17

My DC are the same day, two years apart 🤣. Begged for an induction so my DS came before his sisters birthday but he still took 3 days. In all he was 11 days ‘late’.

They're only 4 & 6 but so far it’s been fine. They like it. We did separate parties for the first time this year and that worked fine, one day after another. Only problem is two cakes. I’m still trying to make both myself. It’s expensive too, like a second Christmas.

Dairywairy · 01/10/2023 07:23

My two have birthdays 5 months apart. One is very close to Xmas (within a week) and the other is in May. Personally I find this more difficult as it feels unfair that they wait different amounts of time for presents. So the one with the Xmas birthday if she wants a big ticket item in the middle of the year then she has to wait 6 months whereas the other gets two chances per year to request things. Obviously we let them both request things for their birthdays but there’s only so many things they want at one time.

Im due another in mid Jan so I think this will make me feel less guilty about the one with the Xmas birthday as they will be in a similar boat!

Tessa92 · 01/10/2023 07:42

My sister and my birthdays were 10 days apart -and in December. I never remember a problem. Two of my sons have birthdays 11 days apart and again no problem. The only thing that worried me before the younger one was born was that his due date was actually his brother’s birthday- but like the other two he was days late!

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