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Anyone with kids with closeish birthdays?

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Leviii · 29/09/2023 11:01

DS turns 2 at end of Nov, the day after I turn 37 weeks pregnant with his sister.

as he was a bigger baby (3 days early too, ELCS) they do not want to let me go over my due date. So either, sweeps from early as possible, induction or another ELCS.

I am leaning towards trying for a vaginal birth, but if they’re saying they don’t want me to go over my due date Which I get because I’d be scared to give birth to a bigger baby, then DS and DD’s birthdays may be a week / two weeks apart (3 at max but I’m assuming they’d like me to come in earlier and not go right up to Due date)

has anyone got kids with birthdays within a month of eachother? Or few weeks! DD will definitely still be born December, I don’t believe I need to be induced on 37week mark which is day after DS birthday so I’d probably be either 38/39 so will be a week or two from his birthday

i have terrible mum guilt:( even though I. Will do everytning to make their birthdays seperate and special! Always

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momtoboys · 29/09/2023 14:34

You are a very nice mother. I have two sets of twins and could never quite get the hang of the separate parties to make them feel special. I think one year I did buy two cakes. Just another thing to add to the guilt column.

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 29/09/2023 14:38

We have three with birthdays wishing 8 weeks. It’s expensive so I have to be organised, but it’s good.

Tbh at that time of year close together is better as they’ll likely have the same experiences. We have one whose birthday is between Christmas and new year. There were a few years where she was very pissed off that the siblings could have outdoor summer parties, that their friends were always free to meet up etc where as her birthday was just awkward as friends were with family. Even though we always did something at a different time it bothered her.

On the other hand her siblings were miffed that she never had to go to school on her birthday whereas they all did

Close together saves all these (mostly teenage) dramas

mewkins · 29/09/2023 14:48

11 days here. My sister and I have birthdays 20 days apart and we always shared parties (we're only a year apart). I like getting birthdays all done in one go.

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JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 29/09/2023 14:49

3 siblings all in the same week in my family.

Devilsmommy · 29/09/2023 14:51

DH first child and our child together are 3 days apart. Financially stressful obviously but not a massive problem. Joint outings aren't always a bad thing 😊

Nottodaty · 29/09/2023 14:54

My sister and I are 5 days apart. 2 weeks after my Mums!!

I hated the joint birthday parties my Mum would do!! I know it made sense but I hated sharing them with my little sister!

But all the cards looked good :)

Longwhiskers · 29/09/2023 14:55

Mine are six days apart, and I’m three days later. Never been an issue! They have separate parties anyway and a special birthday tea and cake at home with just family and the decorations stay up for about two weeks!

PinkMoscatoLover · 29/09/2023 14:57

My kids are under 3 weeks apart. I don’t see the problem, not like it could have been avoided anyway

CeeceeBloomingdale · 29/09/2023 15:01

Birthdays within 7 days of each other here, within a month of Christmas. It’s never been an issue, they have separate birthday celebrations. Some years they have shared parties, some they have had separate ones, it just depends on their interests at the time.

blimmy · 29/09/2023 15:01

My two eldest have birthdays 10 days apart and I have never considered that one or the other of them had the shine taken off their day! They never had joint parties or anything but we did usually go for a family meal halfway between the two birthdays, more due to financial reasons than anything else. Their day is their day.
My youngest has a birthday 8 days after Christmas which I think is more problematic but even so, not a massive thing.
I think you're really overthinking this!

Throwingpots · 29/09/2023 15:07

My two are a week apart, and literally just before Christmas! It used to get very intense 😁. We’d have a joint birthday party (both girls) then another influx of presents at Christmas. They’re actually the same age for one week, much to the amusement of the younger one. As for having birthdays close together being a problem, it really isn’t, just a bit tiring 😊

dearcleo · 29/09/2023 15:07

1 week apart here! I see it as a good thing rather than a bad thing. Our second isn’t 1 yet but I’m planning to do seperate things obviously on each of their birthday’s but we will have a joint party on a weekend day in between their birthdays. I’ll never do the joint party on one of their birthdays though, itl need to be on a day that’s neither of their birthdays. They’re both close in age so we’ll only do it for a few years then itl be on weekend for one of them and the next weekend for the other

Notagains · 29/09/2023 15:07

Two of my children's birthdays are within a week or each other. It' was great when they were young as they didn't get jealous because it's the others birthday because they knew they had either just had theirs or theirs was to come soon. The other has a birthday 6 months away. That was much more problematic.

Scaraben · 29/09/2023 15:14

My birthday is 1st Oct. My DD was born on my birthday. My DH is 2nd Oct.

I'm currently 40+2 pregnant....

My long term plan is joint birthday parties for everyone!

jswawsn · 29/09/2023 15:15

My sister and I are three days apart, it was never an issue!

TalkedTooMuchStayedTooLong · 29/09/2023 15:17

Twins! It's fine... they are now 16 and whilst as a family we celebrate together on same day, parties have been both joint and separate (usually different weekends in that case) as they have different friendship groups and interests in any case... expenses wise, I just have a budget for birthdays/ Christmas that build up all year round so avoids spending all at once...

KatharinaRosalie · 29/09/2023 15:19

2 days apart. They had joint birthday parties until oldest was 10. Never been a problem.

bettynutkins · 29/09/2023 15:22

Mine are 4 days apart. It's fine.
I make sure that the night before the 2nd birthday all decorations cards etc are removed and new ones put up. Like they would get if their birthdays were 6 months apart.
We do joint parties at the moment whilst they are young but don't think that will last too long but again they have their own cakes and decorations for their personalities.

bettynutkins · 29/09/2023 15:23

Scaraben · 29/09/2023 15:14

My birthday is 1st Oct. My DD was born on my birthday. My DH is 2nd Oct.

I'm currently 40+2 pregnant....

My long term plan is joint birthday parties for everyone!

Wow! I'd love you to update when baby arrives! 😄

garlictwist · 29/09/2023 15:23

My sister and I have the same birthday (but two years apart). We used to have shared parties growing up. I quite like it. And we've never forgotten each other's birthdays! Weirdly our husbands also share a birthday with each other too.

BoardTopChair · 29/09/2023 15:29

Mine are within a month of each other, one was late and the other was early otherwise the dates would have been more like 6 weeks.

We have done joint presents in the past but they get some on the birthday that comes first and some on the birthday that comes second. There is no way I would give one child a light sabre and then tell my other child to wait for theirs. We do a family party in the middle for both birthdays and 2 cakes because everyone has to travel an hour to get to us.

They have never had an issue with it and are now adults.

cocksstrideintheevening · 29/09/2023 15:29

I've got twins...it really isn't an issue

mathanxiety · 29/09/2023 15:29

Four of my DCs have birthdays within a span of 24 days.

We were usually completely caked out by the fourth of the birthdays. Even the birthday girl herself couldn't stand the thought of more cake, so we usually had a homemade ice cream cake instead, or baked Alaska that was heavy on the ice cream.

mathanxiety · 29/09/2023 15:40

I never did joint parties. We threw a few all class parties when they were all young and then limited numbers to just a few close friends. As they got older, parties became smaller and less hassle.

The school tradition was that the birthdays child brought in a snack for the class plus the teacher and school secretary.

This was a giant pita because we always celebrated the birthdays on the actual day too (deferring to a nearby weekend wasn't possible as the birthdays were so close together) and it was complicated in the case of one DC by the fact that she and another girl in her year had the same Bday so the other mom and I had to coordinate class snack days if they were in the same class in any given year.

We also had to coordinate with parents of children with summer birthdays as they got to have a class celebration either before school got out for summer or shortly after returning in the autumn. The icing on the cake, so to speak, was the fact that my family's birthdays all fell in the month before the summer hols, so there were lots of other families to coordinate with.

Lovetogarden2022 · 29/09/2023 15:43

Oh yes! Two days between mine 😂 they had the same due date 🫠
When I was pregnant (9 months pregnant!) it was my DD's 3rd birthday and we just took it very easy. No going out for dinner, no big party. We also told her that the baby was her birthday present (when she was late, it was because baby had "got stuck in the post" 🤣). It worked out fabulously! They get their own "weekend" if they want but usually they're happy to share and have one big birthday weekend together

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