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Anyone with kids with closeish birthdays?

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Leviii · 29/09/2023 11:01

DS turns 2 at end of Nov, the day after I turn 37 weeks pregnant with his sister.

as he was a bigger baby (3 days early too, ELCS) they do not want to let me go over my due date. So either, sweeps from early as possible, induction or another ELCS.

I am leaning towards trying for a vaginal birth, but if they’re saying they don’t want me to go over my due date Which I get because I’d be scared to give birth to a bigger baby, then DS and DD’s birthdays may be a week / two weeks apart (3 at max but I’m assuming they’d like me to come in earlier and not go right up to Due date)

has anyone got kids with birthdays within a month of eachother? Or few weeks! DD will definitely still be born December, I don’t believe I need to be induced on 37week mark which is day after DS birthday so I’d probably be either 38/39 so will be a week or two from his birthday

i have terrible mum guilt:( even though I. Will do everytning to make their birthdays seperate and special! Always

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Nanasueathome · 29/09/2023 23:18

My birthday is 28th, my sisters is 29th and my brothers is 31st, all January
My 2 eldest children are 3rd and 5th March

RedRusset · 30/09/2023 05:03

My kids's bdays are 9 days apart. They're also only a year apart in age. They're teens now and I've never given the issue a second's thought...
For years they had a combined party, which they loved, till they didn't want to anymore. They just do their own thing now, usually on consecutive weekends. Their actual bdays are two separate occasions, both given equal weight and celebrated.
As they're just before Christmas, it just means a lot of expense and a lot of cake and party food, but we plan for it... and cut down on the rich food afterwards!

mehtivation · 30/09/2023 06:32

9 (turned 8) & 12 (turned 13) august, 21 September (turned 15).

Mine is 20 August, husband 22 September. We're 46

It's an expensive time 😂

When dc 2 & 3 were little, like 7 and 2, we did a shared family party as it was too much to have all the in-laws trooping over twice in a week

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Luckyducky10 · 30/09/2023 21:38

My 2 boys share the same day 3 years apart they had the same due date and both came 2 days late 🫣 they hate sharing a birthday 🥳

Changethenamey · 30/09/2023 21:39

Mine are 2yrs 2days apart. They love it and know no different. It’s worse for the third sibling who has to wait a couple of months for their turn 😂

Thinking back (mine are pre teen now) it sometimes annoyed them if people bought them joint gifts, which would never happen if they were further apart. I also find still now a lot of people visit on the first child’s birthday, and drop off gift for second child at the same time so her birthday is always a lot quieter as no one bothers to visit on the day. I think this is quite unfair but I can see why you wouldn’t think anything of it (if one person did it, fine, but they all end up doing it!).

Flumpsareyummy · 30/09/2023 21:42

my 3 are all in the same month. There’s 11 days between the first and last birthday. The eldest wasn’t keen when he found out my due date with my second was the day before his 9th birthday as he was worried they’d have to share a day. Once he realised he didn’t have to share he was ok with it. It’s an expensive month but kids all get a day out of their choice on their birthday (well… we chose for the baby but in future he can pick 🤣)

GemluvsCoco · 30/09/2023 21:47

My girls are 12 months and 6 days apart. Both January birthdays. Both born by c section. My first was an emergency and the second was elective. I have a blood disorder in pregnancy. It has honestly been lovely. They both shared parties when they were little.
They are soon to be 15 and 14.
They don’t get on at the moment but I’m hoping they will again as they get older.

EcoCustard · 30/09/2023 21:48

Dc1 & 2 had the same due date 12 months apart. Both early and have a birthday 5 days apart. It’s never been an issue yet, everyone loves the run of birthday cake. We make sure they don’t do joint stuff, separate party, days out or whatever they go for. It’s trickier though as they share a class and friendship groups. DH shares his birthday with Dc4 as he was early, it’s a bit of a joke with DH as he isn’t keen on a fuss or celebration and it’s become more of a thing now.

thecrowshaveeyesbebe · 30/09/2023 21:51

My sister & I’s birthdays are 18 days apart and close to Christmas too! I’m the eldest and never gave a second thought to it, it has never bothered me at all

cadburyegg · 30/09/2023 21:54

Yes 3 weeks apart in February and March. It's always given us something to look forward to after Christmas, as Jan/Feb can be quite miserable months, so that's nice. That being said, I found having 2 home parties immensely stressful this year- as soon as one was over the next one was imminent. And the mess!!!! And noise!. I'm definitely having parties out of the house next year. 😂

I think the key is to budget and plan which is what I'm trying to do from now on.

They do get jealous of each other in general but their birthdays being close actually helps that, because they know they've just had a birthday / theirs is coming up.

Kaz7779 · 30/09/2023 21:55

12th and 15th December 3years apart, you get used to it, just do different things for each birthday, kids always like different things so it works ok, I leave the banners up though just change the balloons 😜

Otiswillet · 30/09/2023 21:55

My two have a birthday a day apart with 3 year age gap.

It's a busy time of year and was a bit trickier when they were younger with organising birthday parties, but has always been totally fine overall.

It does feel a bit like Groundhog Day doing birthday morning two days in a row but it is also a fun time seeing family etc.

The only negative is feeling pressure to make both of their birthdays equally brilliant 🙈

MamaOfPlenty · 30/09/2023 21:57

3 of my children’s birthdays are exactly a week apart, 17th, 24th & 31st of the same month. I have 6 children and the smallest gap we have is 12 & half months. It’s absolutely fine and they’ve loved it. They’ve had separate birthday celebrations and joint.

stichguru · 30/09/2023 21:58

I've only one kid, but I have a really good friend with kids like yours, mid Aug one year and early Aug 2 years later. So like 1 year and 50 weeks apart. Their kids are like 11 and 9 now and what they try to do is alternate: one kid usually gets an all inclusive something where parents turn up with the kid and the cake - which costs more but is easy (think play centre, trampoline park etc) and the other will get something that takes more time and effort, say a games party run by the parents etc, but is cheaper (maybe even at home). This way the parents only have to put a massive effort into 1 party a year (cleaning, catering, buying equipment or presents), but often save money on this party, and often the more inclusive one is more expensive, but easier - so they get a cheaper and harder work party and a more expensive and easier party, then swap!

Kaz7779 · 30/09/2023 21:58

I find that too but I guess that could be an issue anytime really

Twilightsparkly · 30/09/2023 22:03

Leviii · 29/09/2023 11:01

DS turns 2 at end of Nov, the day after I turn 37 weeks pregnant with his sister.

as he was a bigger baby (3 days early too, ELCS) they do not want to let me go over my due date. So either, sweeps from early as possible, induction or another ELCS.

I am leaning towards trying for a vaginal birth, but if they’re saying they don’t want me to go over my due date Which I get because I’d be scared to give birth to a bigger baby, then DS and DD’s birthdays may be a week / two weeks apart (3 at max but I’m assuming they’d like me to come in earlier and not go right up to Due date)

has anyone got kids with birthdays within a month of eachother? Or few weeks! DD will definitely still be born December, I don’t believe I need to be induced on 37week mark which is day after DS birthday so I’d probably be either 38/39 so will be a week or two from his birthday

i have terrible mum guilt:( even though I. Will do everytning to make their birthdays seperate and special! Always

My niece was born 15th oct, second niece born 16th Oct a year later 🤯 ...

Currently 5&4 years old.

My sister prefers it.

Coop21 · 30/09/2023 22:08

Yip 2 DDs are exactly 2yrs and 3 days apart, I was terrified incase I went into labour on DDs 2nd birthday that day we just had a quiet day and let DD just play with her toys. Now they are 12 and 10. We have had joint party’s for them through the years but this year we celebrated both birthdays separately as they are getting older now so not as easy as they were when they were younger.

Drivingmecrazydizzy · 30/09/2023 22:10

I have 7 children 1 is end Feb, 1 is end April, 1 is beginning of may, I have twins end of may and on the same day 5 years later I had another!! 1 beginning of dec!

Simplehi · 30/09/2023 22:11

Not my kids but my birthday is a week after my brothers, never made any real difference. Some years we had joint birthday parties but that was about it, he had his birthday and I had mine.

Padz · 30/09/2023 22:11

My middle 2 are a week apart (3 years) and absolutely no issues.

ShortColdandGrey · 30/09/2023 22:12

My brothers birthdays are 2 days apart and then my nephew came along and decided to be born the day in-between. My mum always made sure that they had separate celebrations most years but sometimes they had a joint party. My dad always made them each a birthday cake though. So we had plenty cake 😀

Merry05 · 30/09/2023 22:18

My younger brother was born the day after me, it was annoying as my mum would throw joint parties when we were young, but only because I was a sulky preteen - no mental or emotional scarring… we are incredibly close now as adults. I don’t even remember my mum leaving the day after my 4th birthday to have my brother, but we always have fabulous birthday weekends as adults now

Diversion · 30/09/2023 22:20

My second and fourth are 8 days apart, now adults and in January too so I obviously did not plan that very well. One EMCS and one a planned CS. We just needed to make sure that we still had some money in the bank after Christmas. Cards for the first birthday stayed up for a week and taken down just before the next ones birthday. It really was never an issue.

MsSquiz · 30/09/2023 22:22

My SIL has 3 kids:
A - 22nd December
B - 14th December
C - 15th December
(B & C are twins born either side of midnight)

DD1 was born on 18th December! So 4 birthdays in the 10 days before Christmas!

DD2 was born in April and that now feels weird because all the other kids in our bit of the family are December kids

We always just make sure we do something non christmassy on the day and for the twins, they just open half of their presents on the 14th and half on the 15th rather than just B then C (although B delights in telling everyone she is older than C by 30 mins!)

recklessgran · 30/09/2023 22:25

5 DD's here and four of them born in May. I don't understand the problem to be honest. You know in advance when their birthdays are and can plan to make sure they all get their special day OP.

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