NHS now say you can cosleep safely.

[Emmamoo89]

The never sleep with your baby has now been removed and updated to be safe if you share your bed with your baby.

Isn't that awesome 👏 😊

Well roughly 3/4 weeks* don't eat much the first couple weeks. All babies are different.

No need to be an arsehole. I don't need those types on my thread thank you.

If it works its the best thing to do.

😆

Yes miss

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My babies woke very frequently (breastfed) and would wake instantly when laid in a cot. After a few weeks I couldn't keep my eyes open so the choices were

1. Stop breastfeeding
2. Intend to put them in the cot after a feed, but frequently fall asleep sitting up because I was human and extremely sleep deprived
3. Cosleep as safely as possible

This was 10 years ago. HV wanted me to somehow manage not to fall asleep sitting up ever whilst also getting no sleep as baby would only sleep on me.

Didnt you say women who breastfeed past 2 are creepy OP?

MN loves co-sleeping so obviously everyone is delighted this is now 'permitted' under the guidelines that are usually so slavishly followed. For some reason, co-sleeping always got a free pass on any discussion about guidelines as the one 'law' that could be overlooked. I wonder when the NHS changes its mind about putting babies in their own rooms (which it will inevitably) it will be met with such delight?
Because every discussion on here seems to regard any parents who put their baby to bed properly (in their own room, in the dark) as neglectful abusers because it's against the rules, yet approve of co-sleeping, even though this, was also against the rules.

How does it work with twins out of interest? Has anyone done this?

Instincts don't always kick in. I ended up sleeping through crying when I was exhausted. My neighbours told me.

When DS2 was 9 months he was poorly in hospital with a ITI and as we coslept from birth wouldn’t sleep in the cot. Asked for a bed, they wouldn’t give one. Eventually they got out a fold out camping bed for us, then reported me to the HV! HV rang me whilst I was still in hospital the next day to say she had to follow procedures but was embarrassed. Arseholes. Luckily I wasn’t vulnerable or I could have really taken that to heart at a point I was feeling v. Stressed.

I’ve breastfed / coslept with my two older sons from birth and it’s much safer than falling asleep with them in my arms, etc.

Same. I thought mine were pretty infallible- always used to wake up just before he started rooting around for milk, co-slept during naps and sometimes at night and always stayed in the same position. Until one time I woke up completely on top of him, I still feel so lucky he was ok. I never co-slept again but up until then I was 100% convinced i was safe.

Great news! Now young poor mums won't have to lie to their HVs about doing the exact same thing as well off older mums. I did it safely, was a light sleeper, and was always aware of where my baby was, he was never at risk. I was still afraid to tell the truth to the HV.

Nope definitely won't have to lie anymore 😊

I know they don't but luckily mine did. I never rolled over him. Stayed in the exact position and so did baba

Can't do it with twins

Aren't co sleeping & bed sharing different though?

I'm so sorry that happened to you. You had no choice. Was the best thing for you to do at the time x

No same thing

This is great. Less mums feeling guilty and worried. I shared a bed with my two eldest and do so with my little titchy now, since birth. It just takes common sense. I also trained as HV (not practicing or have done in years) and still advocate it. I am, however, a little more organic than your run-of-the-mill HV these days. I think naturally most mums have radar major alertness when bed sharing, even when asleep.

I put my son in his own room at 11 weeks. Was the best decision. Its when he slept through the night.

This is awful. And I think unlawful on their part. I had mastitis earlier on in the year which needed hospitalisation. I told them I would be bed sharing in hospital, so put it on my notes please. She said they advise against but can't stop me.

Each to their own. It's not something I would do. Stopping at 2 seems the right age

Isn't it. Yes I agree. I was on alert to every sound or if baba needed feeding