NHS now say you can cosleep safely.

[Emmamoo89]

The never sleep with your baby has now been removed and updated to be safe if you share your bed with your baby.

Isn't that awesome 👏 😊

Any noice I instantly wake up 😅 I just sleep on my side/back and curl my arm around him. He never moves either

It is 😌

One of the midwives in hospital less than 2 years ago encouraged cosleeping but it was very “hush hush”; my health visitor advised it too, but in a “I’m not supposed to suggest this but” kind of way. I think it’s much better to advise how to do it safely than to make it an open secret as it was.

I’ve co slept with all of mine from birth.

Oldest two until they were 4 and they decided to sleep in their rooms and still co sleeping if you can call it that the child does not sleep with my 2 and a half year old.

My eldest is 20. I remember being treated like I had two heads if I told anyone. I was told he would never go in his own room, that my husband would leave me, even though he was fully on board.

I still get looks of horror now from other parents but I’m in my 40s now and couldn’t give a shit.

It's good that they did 😊 it's just nice it doesn't have to be anymore.

I’ve always woken at the first move - always, always woken a few seconds before they woke properly to cry for a feed when they were tiny.

Best way to be to not give a shit. When I've co slept it's not stopped my son sleeping in his own room. Like I assumed he would be clingy and not want to be in his own room. Hasn't been one issue. I get shit for putting him in his own room at 11 weeks. It was right for both of us.

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Same here. Your instincts kick in.

As a midwife this is great news. Women will be more inclined to do it safely now as opposed to doing it on sofas or with duvets etc. I do slept with both of mine, couldn’t have survived without it

Oh and I formula fed all three of mine.

Same happened to me. Followed all the rules and advice, nearly smothered them. My husband had to wake me up. Scared me stupid.

I did it with mine, it was a big no no 50 years ago but my GP wasn't British, he thought lots of things considered normal here were odd and told me in his country all babies co sleep with parents so I felt OK doing it but lied to the HV.

Yes they will. Won't be as worried and more relaxed. Sometimes you can't help but do it.

It can work. But can understand why its better to do so with a breastfed baby.

Fair enough

Same happened to me. Followed all the rules and advice, nearly smothered them. My husband had to wake me up. Scared me stupid

It's a terrifying experience but according to some on here our instincts should've kicked in

I had DS 5 years ago and was given safer co sleeping guidelines without judgement from both my midwife and health visitor. They recognise people will do it anyway and so it's better to encourage and educate people on the safest way to do so. I have also attended the deaths of more than one baby following falling asleep on a sofa or chair though, so sad.

For some they don't. I believe it was my instincts that woke me up to him needing a feed or him making a noise.

Good. I tried so hard not to co-sleep even though I was so exhausted I was losing my vision at times. The result? I accidentally fell asleep holding DD in a chair and woke up with a start to find her head half-buried face down in a blanket. She was ok, but after that I decided to co-sleep and instantly was better rested and DD was safer for it.

Stupid question but I’m alone and pregnant and ten weeks to go, but I always wanted to do what I think this is but told not to. Now it’s safe (though I’ll give all options good thought first) can someone explain please what this is? As I have a bedside cot thing (bassinet?) that you let the side down. A Moses basket I was told I can put on the bed next to me. (Also told NOT TO EVER- the advice is always so conflicting between professionals and it confuses me terribly) A tiny rocker thing that looks like a mix between a very small pram top and a Moses basket but it’s on a rocker stand, and an actual cot (yes I went overboard and intend to donate what doesn’t get used/ gets grown out of) but I didn’t have anything growing up and now age 35 first time mum no parents and clueless and a bit scared but also sick of health visitor “orders”
ie “you won’t need a breast pump yet as you’ll be breast feeding” erm what will I be doing now? What if I can’t? What if I don’t want to? What if I want to only express? What about the fact that pumping extra to store will make being alone so much easier for my life if he needs feeding and I’m done in and tired
so I want to breast AND pump? (FYI all- I got the damn pump AND the storage bags etc etc. My body my baby and I was sensibly told that ultimately- FED is best.) So anyway sorry for rant but I thought the bedside bassinet thing that you let the side down was co sleeping? Is it not? Is co sleeping the baby in bed with you? If so how is this done safely? I darent bloody ask the health visitor lady. Don’t need a pump indeed 🤨. Any advice on any of this would really help. I was advised not to google because of my anxiety. And also - experienced and new and soon to be mums are gonna know better when you ask a group of them! Thanks for any advice 🙏

Co sleeping is having the baby next to you. If you end up needing to do it. Go ahead 😊 you can breastfeed and pump. I did so I had some milk in the freezer so his dad can feed him.

@KickAssMumma forgot to tag

@KickAssMumma but don't start pumping till your milk is established. At the beginning the baba will be clusterfeeding. So keep them on the boob but once this passes you can pump x