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Feb/March 2023 Birth Club

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TeddyBeans · 08/03/2023 17:54

Hello my lovelies! I thought I'd make a post birth thread so we can continue our chats now that our little ones are earthside. Feel free to tap out!

20/1 - botleybump 💓 (due 23/2)
10/2 - Amy1303 💙 (due 27/3)
12/2 - Babynum2 💙 (due 5/3)
12/2 - Cams50 💙 (due 2/3)
13/2 - LizziBee 💙
14/2 - BabyNumber3OnTheWay 💙 (due 28/2)
18/2 - Ubbee 💙 (due 27/2)
19/2 - beatingheartbaby 💓 (due 14/3)
21/2 - suchardchoccy 💓 (due date baby!)
22/2 - muminlndn 💓
24/2 - saltandpepperr 💙 (due 6/3)
24/2 - mrs2022 💙 (due 24/3)
25/2 - JTB123 💓 (due 1/3)
25/2 - Splashh 💓 (due 8/3)
26/2 - GreenIsle 💓 (due 7/3)
26/2 - LaForza101 💙 (due 3/3)
27/2 - EastyBaby19 💙 (due 4/3)
27/2 - Katdemar 💙 (due 4/3)
28/2 - TeddyBeans 💓 (due 26/2)
1/3 - Franklin123 💓 (due 13/3)
2/3 - Thirdtimesacharm3 💙 (due 6/3)
2/3 - allthingssparkly 💙 (due 6/3)
3/3 - Blondewave 💙
3/3 - June628 💓 (due 8/3)
3/3 - Noodle20 💓 (due 7/3)
6/3 - Shep21 💓 (due 18/3)
7/3 - MoronikaFaceache 💓 (due 1/3)
7/3 - Room4onemore 💓 (due 17/3)

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havananana · 06/04/2023 18:06

@Perexi yes
I Find it odd there is no actual internal ultrasound after birth offered on nhs

Whydotheyallhaverubbishwheels · 06/04/2023 20:52

@havananana yeh I have really bad pain all over my scar still at 2.5 weeks postpartum. I've got cellulitis though so I think that's causing a lot of the pain.

TeddyBeans · 06/04/2023 20:58

@Whydotheyallhaverubbishwheels ouch, that can't be comfortable 😱

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havananana · 06/04/2023 22:40

Whydotheyallhaverubbishwheels · 06/04/2023 20:52

@havananana yeh I have really bad pain all over my scar still at 2.5 weeks postpartum. I've got cellulitis though so I think that's causing a lot of the pain.

Is your pin inside as well?

My scar or skin doesn't hurt, it feels like the pain is in one of the other affected layers -
Maybe muscle or uterus ?

Ubbee · 07/04/2023 02:08

@havananana internal ultrasounds are offered on NHS, if your history requires it, I had one after my first.

Hope everyone’s doing well. Nearly 7 weeks in now and the tiredness build up is real! Lovely to be getting some little smiles now though 😍

Whydotheyallhaverubbishwheels · 07/04/2023 08:52

@havananana yeh it does hurt internally but hard to tell where from as i also have pain in my kidneys anyway from a kidney infection and all over my body from being so run down and poorly. I had a dodgy canula too so my hand is also swollen and immobile. I'm more broken now than I was by labour/ a C-section 🙈

Just advice if anyone feels a bit ill but can't work out why, definitely ask for help medically. I actually thought my bladder pain a week ago was just from being re-catheterised after birth and because I was slowing down the pain meds but actually I probably had an infection and shouldn't have left it so long. I didn't really realise until when I saw the midwife yesterday how ill I'd got.

AK93 · 07/04/2023 10:51

@Shep21 I really need some help with staying awake too! I fall asleep while feeding (basically jump awake each time) I know that's not safe and so last night my partner had to force himself to stay awake so I could feed and actually get some sleep as I've not had much! My boyfriend falls asleep easier than I do most the time so can't trust him to be able to stay awake every time either! I've asked my mum to come over today so I have an extra pair of eyes!

Rose429 · 07/04/2023 14:58

Need someone to tell me it will get better please 😢 Baby refuses to be put down still at 2 weeks old. We have given up putting her in the crib and resolve to co-sleeping. She basically on my boobs cluster feeding or our arms sleeping AT ALL TIMES. DH is coming back to work in a week - I don’t know what to do with her attached to me all day :(

CristinaNov182 · 07/04/2023 15:38

I co-sleep now and done the same with my first. Just follow the rules for safe co-sleeping and also make sure they can’t turn on their front. We sleep face to face, as well,with no room between us so she can’t turn on her face, and when I turn her to the other side, to feed, I wake up first. I don’t move in my sleep so I feel safe to do this. We’re also alone in bed, sleep separately from my partner.

my first was like this, couldn’t put her down. It gets better but for me was after the first 2 months.

it’s really hard but you can try a few things. Co sleeping is great for breast feeding and getting more sleep than you’d otherwise would. I wouldn’t have the energy to get out of bed! BF is a life saver.

also during the day you can use a baby carrier so you have feee hands

have you tried white noise and rocking too? It works with my second. Also patting and swaddling, while it takes a lot of time now, it will payoff in a few months when it will get easier, faster.

they start to sleep less from 3 weeks old, and every week they will spend more and more time awake. There is a book, your baby week by week (can get it from the library as well, even in electronic format) that tells you how much sleep, feed, etc they need.

it’s hard in the beginning but it only gets easier!

  • my baby was born on the 16th, mentioned it before but saw the list wasn’t updated @TeddyBeans
CristinaNov182 · 07/04/2023 15:38

Above for @Rose429

Babynum2 · 07/04/2023 19:06

@Rose429 baby is 6 weeks old today and I'm finding it hard also as he doesn't like to sleep in his next to me or be put down. I got a sling for daytime around the house and he seems happy in that but night time Is still a nightmare. I'm to scared to co sleep and I'm breastfeeding also and I can say that's got a lot easier as he is faster with feeding now and stopped the cluster feeds.

TeddyBeans · 08/04/2023 08:56

@CristinaNov182 sorry I missed you! Have updated the list and will post it soon

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havananana · 08/04/2023 09:17

Has anyone's post birth bleeding stopped and started? Or been very weak/nothing half the day and then bleeding at night?

When I think it's over (I'm 3w1d in recovery) it starts again

I might ring Mac and ask if such fluctuation and inconsistency is normal

Shep21 · 08/04/2023 10:08

@havananana My bleeding was similar to this (nothing and then medium/heavy flow after exercise or in afternoons) between week 3 and 4. By week 4 it stopped completely and nothing since.

TeddyBeans · 08/04/2023 10:09

@havananana mine stopped completely by 3 weeks and I've only had pink when I wipe a few times since then. Variation is normal, usually depends on the amount of activity you do and whether your body can cope with it

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havananana · 08/04/2023 11:19

Thank you! That seems to be the most common now that I've found some older MN posts about it too. I'll take it easier, did a big walk yesterday

Babynum2 · 08/04/2023 12:21

@havananana it's normal basically if you are active you bleeding more and if you have a full bladder then it can settle snd re start my midwife said.

SammyJay5 · 08/04/2023 13:24

Hope everyone is all doing well and enjoying being mummies - I certainly am!
My little girl was due 3rd March. Contractions started 4th March at 10pm, went in to be checked over the day after but was only 2cm dilated. Contractions still carried on and got stronger and longer but no closer together so Hospital weren’t too concerned. My waters went at 07:40am on 6th March so went to hospital, they weren’t going to check me due to the risk of infection but they eventually did and I was 6cm but still not having regular contractions! Was admitted to the Labour ward and with just gas and air baby Freyja Jayne was born at 01:01am on 7th March weighing 7lb 10oz 🥰

Noodle20 · 09/04/2023 14:18

Does anyone know if you need to wait until the 8 week check (which my GP won't actually let me book yet - I'm just over 5 weeks now) before we can take our lil ones swimming, or if we ourselves can even go swimming?

TeddyBeans · 09/04/2023 19:29

@SammyJay5 congratulations 🥰

@Noodle20 I don't think there's anything stopping you. I'm pretty sure you can take them swimming from birth but in reality I've not been able to actually do it until about 3 months 😭

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Noodle20 · 09/04/2023 19:56

@TeddyBeans
Ooh ok thank you so much

havananana · 12/04/2023 10:41

Hello mummies!

How is everyone doing? It's been very quiet here!

Our baby is nearly 1 month old, can roll to sides, holds her neck strongly, surprisingly since day 3 still only wakes 1x a night for a feed and in general is a total super cute dream.

I'm however struggling with a few post partum issues - lower back pain when walking. Any tips or advice? Or just to book a physio session?

Also still got bleeding and had an infected c section scar, and struggling with the stretch marks and general appearance of my stomach 🥴

How are you doing ?

ChristmasJumpers · 12/04/2023 11:20

@havananana I think our babies were born on the same day - 17th March?
My Rory can hold her head up so strongly too, it's taken me by surprise!! She is starting to go for 4 hour stretches overnight now and sticking with 3 hours-ish in the day.

Are you finding that you can put your little one down to nap in the day? I'm struggling with this as she wants to contact nap all day but will sleep well in her next to me at night!

I'm still bleeding after c section but fortunately my incision healed well with no infections. I hope yours isn't too bad. I'm not letting myself think about my stretch marks right now, I'm hoping I can come to terms with them once my stomach is down and I know what they look like settled. They're hideous atm

Suchardchoccy · 12/04/2023 12:50

Mine is 7 weeks now! She is very chilled compared to my first, sleeps well in the night and in her moses too, although today she just wants to contact nap.

I'm also not trying to think about my stretch marks 😩

I'm having back pain too but also not sure what to do about it? I'm sorry about the infection , I hope it's all sorted now

Blocklynn · 12/04/2023 13:52

We’re just over 5 weeks now.
Little madam can throw herself around violently when she’s having a strop and has good head control.
Still doesn’t like tummy time or lying on her back when awake.
Mainly going 3 hours between feeds.
I have been really lucky and can’t see any stretch marks, my tummy is quite squishy though compared to before pregnancy.