Feb/March 2023 Birth Club

[TeddyBeans]

Hello my lovelies! I thought I'd make a post birth thread so we can continue our chats now that our little ones are earthside. Feel free to tap out!

20/1 - botleybump 💓 (due 23/2)
10/2 - Amy1303 💙 (due 27/3)
12/2 - Babynum2 💙 (due 5/3)
12/2 - Cams50 💙 (due 2/3)
13/2 - LizziBee 💙
14/2 - BabyNumber3OnTheWay 💙 (due 28/2)
18/2 - Ubbee 💙 (due 27/2)
19/2 - beatingheartbaby 💓 (due 14/3)
21/2 - suchardchoccy 💓 (due date baby!)
22/2 - muminlndn 💓
24/2 - saltandpepperr 💙 (due 6/3)
24/2 - mrs2022 💙 (due 24/3)
25/2 - JTB123 💓 (due 1/3)
25/2 - Splashh 💓 (due 8/3)
26/2 - GreenIsle 💓 (due 7/3)
26/2 - LaForza101 💙 (due 3/3)
27/2 - EastyBaby19 💙 (due 4/3)
27/2 - Katdemar 💙 (due 4/3)
28/2 - TeddyBeans 💓 (due 26/2)
1/3 - Franklin123 💓 (due 13/3)
2/3 - Thirdtimesacharm3 💙 (due 6/3)
2/3 - allthingssparkly 💙 (due 6/3)
3/3 - Blondewave 💙
3/3 - June628 💓 (due 8/3)
3/3 - Noodle20 💓 (due 7/3)
6/3 - Shep21 💓 (due 18/3)
7/3 - MoronikaFaceache 💓 (due 1/3)
7/3 - Room4onemore 💓 (due 17/3)

@TeddyBeans I'm with you on that, absolutely hate exercising 😂

I'm back at my booking appointment weight, body shape is still a bit different mind you but lower stomach is slowly getting back to normal. Definitely want to get back to doing my bootcamp classes and running but will be building up slowly once I can. Walking feels enough right now but looking forward to doing some of these buggy fit style classes in mat leave too.

Im 2 weeks pp today and suddenly my stitches are very painful and almost feel raw and are still bleeding would this be normal? Had episiotomy and 3b tear

@Rainbowbaby23 I’d get that checked. I was told if anything felt/smelt different in a bad way to get it checked.

@Rainbowbaby23 I'd get checked too. I had some greyish tissue clots about 2 weeks after birth and went straight to the hospital for fear of retained placenta. They'll check you out and sort you out if you need anything. It's always better to be safe than sorry

I know I definitely don’t have retained products as they checked this when i was about 8 days pp

Finally joining the birth club! I hope still welcome after an April exit 🙈

Austin - 03/04/2023
3.20pm via c section at 42 weeks 1 day! 7lb2oz.

There was a moment I didn't feel great - blood pressure dropped and baby reacted with his dropping too and his heartrate dropping. Within 30 seconds or medicine all was sorted - extremely thankful for an amazing theatre team they were all brilliant with helping me and all so lovely.

Little man came out with rather wrinkly hands and feet from being "post mature" and some peeling skin but not too sore looking.

Generally all well except mucousy
(common in section babies and also post term babies) so a few moments of worrying about him here and there but midwife said he should clear it himself.

@AK93 of course you're still welcome 🥰 congratulations! He's a dink for being two weeks overdue!

Congratulations @AK93 he's a little cutie 🥰

I'm feeling a bit funny today, like my brain and body aren't in sync...I can't really describe it! Also my bleeding started up again this morning after having hardly anything for a couple of days, cramps included 😭

Heres the list! I got a bit lazy if I've missed you let me know 😅 hopefully some of the regular posters on the pregnancy chat find their way here eventually

20/1 - botleybump 💓 (due 23/2)
25/1 - DaisyRainbow 💓
10/2 - Amy1303 💙 (due 27/3)
12/2 - Babynum2 💙 (due 5/3)
12/2 - Cams50 💙 (due 2/3)
13/2 - LizziBee 💙
14/2 - BabyNumber3OnTheWay 💙 (due 28/2)
18/2 - Ubbee 💙 (due 27/2)
19/2 - beatingheartbaby 💓 (due 14/3)
21/2 - suchardchoccy 💓 (due date baby!)
22/2 - muminlndn 💓 (due 18/3)
24/2 - saltandpepperr 💙 (due 6/3)
24/2 - mrs2022 💙 (due 24/3)
25/2 - JTB123 💓 (due 1/3)
25/2 - Splashh 💓 (due 8/3)
26/2 - GreenIsle 💓 (due 7/3)
26/2 - LaForza101 💙 (due 3/3)
27/2 - EastyBaby19 💙 (due 4/3)
27/2 - Katdemar 💙 (due 4/3)
28/2 - TeddyBeans 💓 (due 26/2)
1/3 - Franklin321 💓 (due 13/3)
2/3 - Thirdtimesacharm3 💙 (due 6/3)
2/3 - allthingssparkly 💙 (due 6/3)
3/3 - BethBeef 💙 (due 2/3)
3/3 - Blondewave 💙
3/3 - June628 💓 (due 8/3)
3/3 - Noodle20 💓 (due 7/3)
6/3 - Blocklynn 💓 (due 24/3)
6/3 - Shep21 💓 (due 18/3)
6/3 - Cdoc 💙 (due 4/3)
7/3 - MoronikaFaceache 💓 (due 1/3)
7/3 - Room4onemore 💓 (due 17/3)
10/3 - Pickles23 💙 (due 7/3)
12/3 - cats23 💓 (due 27/3)
12/3 - pamplemousse 💓 (due 3/3)
13/3 - BabyLimey 💙 (due 8/3)
13/3 - Clarps84 💙 (due 1/3)
13/3 - MrsD0147 💙 (due 10/3)
13/3 - Perexi 💙 (due 29/3)
15/3 - LifeOfRiley1 💓 (due 21/3)
17/3 - ChristmasJumpers 💓 (due 30/3)
17/3 - Havananana 💓 (due 9/3)
18/3 - Choc2022 💙 (due 23/3)
20/3 - iratepirate 💙 (due 10/3)
20/3 - Dreamingof3 💓 (due 19/3)
20/3 - Rainbowbaby23 💙 (due 14/3)
20/3 - NM1819 💓
21/3 - Whydotheyallhaverubbishwheels 💙 (due 24/3)
23/3 - Rose429 💓 (due 21/3)
23/3 - Moonlighting 💙 (due 30/3)
29/3 - firstlittleone 💓 (due 27/3)
31/3 - dmb91 💙 (due 27/3)
1/4 - JB2021 💓
3/4 - AK93 💙 (due 19/3)

💙= 28 💓= 27 so far

3/3 - LittleAcorn20 💛, SammyJay5 💓, Lauren11x 💙, Whatsforpud 💛
5/3 - hopingforarainbow27 💓
9/3 - Penelope_2023, 91mana
10/3 - PeonyPops 💓
11/3 - Chloe1896
12/3 - Katlouise24 💓
13/3 - ToffeeEl 💓, paulinesmithson 💓
15/3 - Hrf1503 💓, TTC24 💙
16/3 - flawless29
17/3 - Cuppasoupmonster 💙, broomfig 💙
18/3 - XjustagirlX 💛, CristinaNov182 💓
19/3 - alotoftutus 💙, hellosunshineagainxxx 💙, Allthegirls3 💓, obabybaby 💙
20/3 - Nettlestea 💙, MillennialMummy 💛
21/3 - FirstTimeTryer93
22/3 - mrshenny 💓
24/3- Charlothevet88 💛
25/3 - Whywhwhy 💙, Missy95 💛
26/3 - purplerain555
27/3 - AGirlsNameIsAryaStark 💛, hol92 💙, Bobduncan 💛, OonMP 💛
29/3 - SenecaFalls1848 💛
31/3 - Baby2iscooking 💛
1/4 - diamondbutterfly 💓

Sorry lovely I missed this! Found it while I was scrolling to see if I could pick out any more births for the list 🤦‍♀️

Please don't feel pressured into leaving little one with anyone you're not comfortable with. As his mum you have the final say, dad lost that right when you broke up. Legally yes he can do what he likes on his contact time but until baby is at least a year old, noone is going to force you to leave your baby with anyone for an extended period of time, let alone overnight, especially if you're EBF.

IIRC the risk of sids reduces massively after 6 months. It doesn't disappear completely but the more mobile they get, the less likely they are to get stuck in a position they can't get out of.

@TeddyBeans The thing is I was EBF at the start but since moved to FF and now they are using that as a reason for him to be able to stay with them overnight but I’ve said no, I’ve offered them to take him a full weekend in June but they want sooner but I am no way ready

I am also just away from his house so baby could meet some of his friends and when I got there his new girlfriend and HER DAD were there so Im still in shock

@TeddyBeans Honestly he seems so small to me, his face is the tiniest I think I've seen 😆 definitely wouldn't think he was two weeks overdue! I was expecting him to be 8lb or over!! Still can't believe I actually have my own baby after being obsessed with babies all my life! 😆
@Dreamingof3 Thank you! He is seriously cute!! Xx

@Rainbowbaby23 set your boundaries now lovely and stick to them. If his gf is there and you don't want baby to meet her yet, you're within your rights to leave with your baby. If they think they can walk all over your wishes now you're going to have a hell of a time over the next couple of years. Also no court is going to force a newborn into overnight contact just because they're being formula fed. You're being more than reasonable by letting him have short and regular daytime contact

The sleep deprivation is very much getting to me tonight. Every 2 hours since 8pm he has fed 😔 he's not feeding long enough only 5 mins each time and then falling asleep which is why I think he's waking again so soon.

@Babynum2 my DD is doing the same. She also spends the 2 hours between feeds grunting and groaning in her sleep. My DH is finding it really hard to sleep with a vocal baby in the moses basket next time. He leaves for work in the mornings not feeling/looking too good! Are you BF or Formula?

@Babynum2 @BabyTalbot1 hopefully it's just a phase for you both and your babies start sleeping longer soon ❤️

@BabyTalbot1 BF my DP is sleeping on the sofa downstairs because of it.
@TeddyBeans he's never really been a good sleeper but he used to go 3.5 hours but now it's getting shorter.

@BabyTalbot1 oh the grunting!! My DD does that, DH sleeps through it but I’m listening to every noise!

@Rainbowbaby23 I really feel for you, and I think everyone here would agree with what Teddy said. Do you have someone in your corner - mum/sister/friend for support? If negotiating with them is getting too much, which it definitely would for me, it could be a good idea to get someone you trust to mediate for a while and help you set the boundaries. You decide exactly what you're comfortable with - even cancel the June offer if you don't like it - and get someone to help you repeat it over and over until they get the point so you don't have to deal with it every day.

Yeah I’m trying my hardest to set boundaries and I think I’m being more than fair but he feels he’s entitled to so much just because he’s the father but he wasn’t there at all during the pregnancy or anything.
I’ve offered for him and his family to come to my house to bond with the baby at anytime 7 days a week and they refuse that aswell🤷🏼‍♀️

Stick to your guns, don't let them bully you! Sound's like you are being more than fair and they are being unreasonable expecting more. Sorry you are going through this it's the last thing you need!

@Rainbowbaby23 I'm sorry they're making this a difficult time for you! You're absolutely being fair though...more than fair actually! If they can't be bothered to come to you then I'd say well you don't get to see the baby then! A friend of mine went through similar and it ended up in court and the judge said they wouldn't even consider overnight stays until a year old, and that's regardless of how baby is fed!
Agree with above, if you have someone who can mediate for you it might help. Stick to your guns though, baby is far too small to be away from you for anything more than an hour or two, and even then you don't have to agree to it.

Thankyou everyone, they make me feel as if I’m being unreasonable do your inputs make me feel more sane😂