What do you make of parents who…

[Tupl]

Go away for a week and leave their baby with grandparents when the baby is two months old?

I admit it, I judged. I know I shouldn’t, I just can’t imagine handing over my baby so young for so long?!

Well 2 months is quite early. I left mine at 6 months for one night

I would also judge, yes. But then mine weren’t left overnight until 18 months and only for one night.
A relative left her 5 month old with grandparents at 5 months and has done since for weeks at a time. She also put them in nursery asap and has a bunch of babysitters (paid) that she uses weekly. I don’t know why she even bothered to have kids, she spends so little time with them. Then complains that her kids don’t respond to her perfectly. I just can’t go there.
If it’s necessary for a hospital stay or shift work overnight, that’s one thing. I don’t think that’s what you’re seeing though.

I wouldn’t do it but don’t really care what others do , I didn’t leave mine over night until 2 as was bf.

I wouldn't have done it (still haven't at 18mo 😬), but baby is being cared for so no problem?

Each to their own I guess

I would judge, because a baby of two months old suddenly not having their primary caregivers around for two long weeks could be extremely distressing for them. Some people are forced into this position (for example if a lone parent had to have major surgery) but in that case it is unavoidable. Choosing to do this and put your own wants in front of the needs of your baby is poor parenting in my opinion.

Couldnt do this at all whatever age!

A family member did this ( only a week ) on their honeymoon and on day 4 cried everyday and didn't enjoy being away as much as they had hoped ) ruined their trip x

@TetherEndOfMy , one long week

At 2 months old, a week is the equivalent of 1/8 (12.5%) of the child's life. To be without their primary caregivers and with no way of understanding why the separation was happening or that the caregivers would come back.

I couldn't do that unless there was absolutely no alternative.

That’s too young. There are quite a lot of parents who do this, generally they have very involved grandparents who support and encourage this.

I left my 10 month old for 5 nights and I won’t ever forget the feeling of guilt, longing and sadness.

I was pressured into doing a trip, didn’t make that mistake with my younger DC

Apologies, got that one wrong. Same sentiment though regardless.

I dunno, lots of people do things with their kids I wouldn't do. I wouldn't be as negative about this as I am about other quite common things I see parents doing, such as overt sexist upbringing or regular heavy drinking in front of kids.

Honestly? I’d think there was some serious problem that I didn’t know about - mother on the verge of suicide with PND, something like that. It’s a very extreme thing to
do when you have such a small baby.

Not with some of the families I know - huge pressure from granny to ‘leave the baby and go off and enjoy yourself’

It wasn’t my bag at all, but it’s what my mother expected

I wouldn't think anything of it.

Mumsnet really deserves its reputation for judging just about anything!!! Really unpleasant.

And no this isn't sour grapes, I don't have kids.

Why are asking OP? Do you think the parents are suffering from depression, do you want some helpful tips on how you can help them? Or are you just looking for a big pile on with others to agree how crappy you think the parents are. Parents these posters have never met.

Are you talking about a certain MIC couple? Who already left their baby for 10 days when he was a month old?

Each to their own, but I admit I was surprised to see they left him again already seeing as he is brand new in the world.

Defo would judge them. In order to do it and enjoy time away I would imagine the bond between parents and baby is poor or non existent

This. Spot on.

What harm do you think would happen?

I don't get this "OMG the world will end if my child is not glued to me" like no one else has ever looked after a child before except the women who gave birth to the child

No I don't judge, why would I need too?

I couldn’t do it but I wouldn’t judge anyone who did. It’s not my business.

Couldnt do this at all whatever age!

You couldn't leave your child for a week, whatever age they were?

The brain development of infants (as well as their social, emotional and cognitive development) depends on a loving bond or attachment relationship with a primary caregiver, usually a parent.

It's not about another adult cannot provide basic care but the absence of the parents will certainly effect the child's development.

im shocked by the amount of “I would judge” comments, mum-shaming at it finest..

I strongly believe if the baby can eat well and can be left with someone who can provide love and care to that baby then as long as the parents feel confident enough to leave them overnight then absolutely.

I can't judge them. My son had a sleepover at 3 1/2 weeks old then every Friday night after that at my mother in laws.

Eat? The baby is 2 months old