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What do you make of parents who…

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Tupl · 13/02/2023 00:07

Go away for a week and leave their baby with grandparents when the baby is two months old?

I admit it, I judged. I know I shouldn’t, I just can’t imagine handing over my baby so young for so long?!

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BeautifulDayintheneighbourhood · 13/02/2023 21:38

I was left with mine ( whom I didn’t know) for THREE MONTHS!

BeautifulDayintheneighbourhood · 13/02/2023 21:39

Agree 18 months

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ZeroFuchsGiven · 13/02/2023 21:40

WandaWonder · 13/02/2023 09:16

What harm do you think would happen?

I don't get this "OMG the world will end if my child is not glued to me" like no one else has ever looked after a child before except the women who gave birth to the child

No I don't judge, why would I need too?

Exactly this!

Did the baby starve? was it neglected? Did it die?

Kissedbyfire1 · 13/02/2023 21:41

Friends’ daughter went away to a wedding over a long weekend when her DC1 was two weeks old. Two weeks. She was 200 miles away for 4 days. Yep - judged.

ZeroFuchsGiven · 13/02/2023 21:42

BadHabitsGoodFun · 13/02/2023 10:06

Ooh love a bit of competitive parenting! 🙄

Mine were 25 before I left them for a minute - do I win? 😄

Nope, mine were 30+ with kids of their own.

Beginningless · 13/02/2023 22:01

ZeroFuchsGiven · 13/02/2023 21:40

Exactly this!

Did the baby starve? was it neglected? Did it die?

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Most parents want their child to be secure, loved and thriving, not just ‘alive and not neglected’.

Mumoffairy · 13/02/2023 22:22

People are weir about this. I stayed with my grandma the first time when i was 2months while my parents went on honeymoon. I stayed with them regularly for nights out and holidays. So did their other 14 grandchildren. My grandparents are in their early 90s now and still living at home alone. They have the best relationship with all their kids and grandkids. I visit them 3-4x a week and almost every time one of my siblings or cousins is there too. My grandma is like a second mum to me, its a second home. And i have a great home and a wonderful relationship with my parents.
I love that they gave me this gift of involved loving grandparents.

DS was left the first time when he was 1.5 years, because we lived abroad before that. DD had her first 1 night sleep over with her godmother when she was 2 months old. They stay with my parents all the time. They ask regularly if they can go sleep at my mums house. And its beautiful to see them make the same bond with them that i did with mine.
Just because children connect with other people doesnt mean the bond with the parents is weaker. I believe strong family bonds make happier children, at least that was my experience.

Bibbling · 14/02/2023 08:43

Mumoffairy · 13/02/2023 22:22

People are weir about this. I stayed with my grandma the first time when i was 2months while my parents went on honeymoon. I stayed with them regularly for nights out and holidays. So did their other 14 grandchildren. My grandparents are in their early 90s now and still living at home alone. They have the best relationship with all their kids and grandkids. I visit them 3-4x a week and almost every time one of my siblings or cousins is there too. My grandma is like a second mum to me, its a second home. And i have a great home and a wonderful relationship with my parents.
I love that they gave me this gift of involved loving grandparents.

DS was left the first time when he was 1.5 years, because we lived abroad before that. DD had her first 1 night sleep over with her godmother when she was 2 months old. They stay with my parents all the time. They ask regularly if they can go sleep at my mums house. And its beautiful to see them make the same bond with them that i did with mine.
Just because children connect with other people doesnt mean the bond with the parents is weaker. I believe strong family bonds make happier children, at least that was my experience.

I completely agree with this, my DC similarly have a close relationship with their grandparents. I just couldn’t have left them that young

My2pence2day · 14/02/2023 10:57

Beginningless · 13/02/2023 22:01

Most parents want their child to be secure, loved and thriving, not just ‘alive and not neglected’.

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Exactly this

Andsoforth · 14/02/2023 11:04

I’m surprised by these responses. I’ve always felt I must have an underlying anxiety disorder because I wouldn’t do this, largely due to the prevailing views on MN.

MrNook · 14/02/2023 13:36

Is this about maeva? Yes I judged her because she also left her baby for 10 days at a month old (said it was Covid related but she still went out on a night out!) and has had several weekends away too

Hatscats · 14/02/2023 19:11

Just looked up that Maeva - shocking! He’s 8 weeks and parents have left him for 2 weeks already 😫

2003unbearable · 14/02/2023 22:21

But it’s fine because she writes Instagram captions about how much she loves him.

MrNook · 15/02/2023 07:13

2003unbearable · 14/02/2023 22:21

But it’s fine because she writes Instagram captions about how much she loves him.

And she's said she has lots of holidays planned this year and he won't be coming on all of them because they're not suitable for a baby 😆

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