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leaving 5 week old , is it to soon?

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lockdownmummax · 10/02/2023 20:33

My son is 5 weeks 2 days old tomorrow, me and my partner have arranged to go out for Valentine's Day tomorrow, have dinner booked for 5pm and then crazy golf booked for 7pm, planning on going for 1 or 2 cocktails after and to be home for 10ish,
my partners mum is coming over to our house to watch baby and toddler , she is staying the night and will sleep in room with baby and me and my partner will sleep in the other room,
Am I being crazy for doing this?
With my first I actually never had a night out until she was over 1 year old ( covid times)
I'm not going to get drunk just a cocktail or two, and plan on enjoying the nights sleep but if baby is unsettled I will be in the next room, part of me thinks I'm crazy for going out to soon and the other part of me thinks it's only for an evening and I will be in the next room from him through the night?

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Seaweasel · 11/02/2023 19:22

I don't think we mothers do ourselves any favours with this fourth trimester business. I'm glad it wasn't a thing 20 years ago - it seems so regressive to me. Fathers are just as good as caring for a newborn - apart from breastfeeding. DH took both our DCs out from birth, wearing them around the house and for walks etc. Bathing, changing, whatever. My femaleness did not make me a more caring or attentive parent. Ditto grandparents, unless there are safeguarding worries, why shouldn't they play a significant part in childcare if everyone's happy? My lucky friend had parents who had the baby every Friday night from a few weeks old - she's an adult now and helps care for them. It's normal and natural.

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afinishedkiss · 11/02/2023 23:24

Delighted you had a good time OP!

smileladiesplease · 12/02/2023 00:22

Aww lovely

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TimeToFlyNow · 12/02/2023 00:44

That's lovely, is mils aren't all bad 🤣 I think it's good to spend some time doing things for yourself . Little ones were fine with mil and I bet she enjoyed the time too

I had a really close relationship with my gp, also with my great grandmother who died when I was 5. I still remember the time I spent with her.

My dc were lucky enough to have a fantastic relationship with their great gps as well. I think it really benefits children

TimeToFlyNow · 12/02/2023 00:54

Pinkstardust · 11/02/2023 20:44

so true. My dil has never once left my gd with anyone over night . That is her way,
unfortunately my gd can’t go to bed by herself. She needs her mum to go to bed with her , they co sleep . Twice I’ve looked after her in the evening while her parents went out. One of those nights she was crying at the front door for her mum at 11pm . Both nights I could not get her to bed . She wasn’t havnt it . The other time she fell asleep from exhaustion in the living room . She’s never had a regular bed time . She goes with her mum every night . And that’s anytime after 9.30, 10, 10,30 . Rod for back ?? Hmmmmm . She’d 2 and a half . Never has once slept over ours or anywhere else .

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That's awful, if I was you I'd refuse to look after her at night. Totally up to her parents if they don't want to have a bedtime routine and want to sleep with her but with that decision comes not being able to go out at night. I wouldn't want to see my gd so upset

sscc · 12/02/2023 02:15

enjoy yourself! My 5 week old stayed overnight at my parents as we had a hellish week with her and without their help myself and my partner would have lost our minds, ignore the negative comments and do what you feel is needed for you! you guys need to look after yourself and have time too. A few hours won’t do any harm

smileladiesplease · 12/02/2023 10:41

Loving this 4th trimester crap. Yet another stick to beat mothers with snd as ever someone is making a lot of money from this total made up nonsence

Marblessolveeverything · 12/02/2023 13:14

@lockdownmummax wonderful. Now both promise each other to make it a regular thing. Honestly I think a tiny break every now and again benefits everyone. Fair play to MIL.

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