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Houndsandbooks · 2023-01-26T10:53:07+00:00

I have been breastfeeding my daughter for 2 weeks and it is making me miserable. I hate the limiting nature of it. I am unable to go anywhere and only I am responsible for feeding. My partner is fantastic and will give her a bottle of expressed milk at night whilst I try to sleep but all other feeds, burps etc are taking on average over an hour. as for the promised oxytocin release, I haven’t felt any such thing. If anything my mental state takes a nose dive whenever she is at the breast. I have spoken to my midwife and she has recommended introducing a formula feed at night but I really want to abandon breastfeeding and solely formula feed. I am also desperate to enjoy this time but the thought of 6 months minimum of this is filling me with dread. any advice would be greatly appreciated

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Cuppasoupmonster · 26/01/2023 19:51

BunchHarman · 26/01/2023 19:06

Ah… could we have a bridge dweller in our midst.

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I actually don’t think so. I think just one of those posters who thinks unless you’re doing EXACTLY what she’s doing at this very moment, you’re doing it wrong; with a bit of FTM self congratulation thrown in. You’re formula feeding a baby? Well, she’s breastfeeding hers! You’re breastfeeding your 2 year old? Hers is only 8 months so that’s gross! You’ve been to Tenerife? Well she’s been to Elevenerife 😉

LuckySantangelo35 · 26/01/2023 20:02

StarsSand · 26/01/2023 11:11

Honestly, you're only two weeks in. I'd give it more time.

The first few weeks are the hardest, and then it gets a lot easier.

@StarsSand

two weeks is a long time when you feel like you’re in hell

LuckySantangelo35 · 26/01/2023 20:05

Emmamoo89 · 26/01/2023 11:55

Honestly it's so much easier to just lob ya baba on ya tit than making bottles of formula.

@Emmamoo89

omg are you being serious??!

niugboo · 26/01/2023 20:05

@AnotherAnother1 its actually hilarious that you genuinely believe you can compare two things when you have zero experience of one of them.

SnappyDragony · 26/01/2023 20:05

If you need to formula feed then do it.
Having a well fed baby is best.
I was utterly miserable breastfeeding and couldn't manage it for more than 2 weeks, once I switched I had a happier mum and baby because feeding was much more stress free.
No one will ask how your little one was fed on their CV.
And go easy on yourself, having a baby is hard enough. Just do what is best for you and your baby.

LuckySantangelo35 · 26/01/2023 20:06

@Karatema

erm my mental health matters to me more than cute outfits for my baby

LuckySantangelo35 · 26/01/2023 20:09

@Emmamoo89

”I was miserable to the point I didn't want to feed him because the pain was horrendous. But I didn't give up and so glad I didn't.”

and….? So….? Your point is…?

Cuppasoupmonster · 26/01/2023 20:11

LuckySantangelo35 · 26/01/2023 20:09

@Emmamoo89

”I was miserable to the point I didn't want to feed him because the pain was horrendous. But I didn't give up and so glad I didn't.”

and….? So….? Your point is…?

Probably that she hasn’t had the praise/payback she feels she deserves for it so she’s boring us with it on here instead

Hoppinggreen · 26/01/2023 20:11

LuckySantangelo35 · 26/01/2023 20:09

@Emmamoo89

”I was miserable to the point I didn't want to feed him because the pain was horrendous. But I didn't give up and so glad I didn't.”

and….? So….? Your point is…?

She’s a bloody hero, I think that’s the point

AnotherAnother1 · 26/01/2023 20:16

niugboo · 26/01/2023 19:49

@AnotherAnother1 oh dear.

I didn’t know it would be less hassle in the long run because I was already combi feeding. Obviously. I found out breast feeding was easier in the long run with child 2 because I did it. A comparison. Doing something first doesn’t make it easier. It just makes it first.

I clearly said breastfeeding is easier in the long run. You didn’t breast for a long time, you breastfed for months. If I believe you. Breast feeding for a short period means you aren’t experienced in long term breast feeding and therefore cannot compare the too. You can offer your experience of two things. Short term feeding and combi feeding. That’s it.

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A simple question for you @niugboo when I latch my baby onto my nipple and my baby receives breastmilk what am I doing? Am I ‘combi feeding’ or am I ‘breastfeeding’. Honestly the lack of intelligence is incredible. 🙄

Cuppasoupmonster · 26/01/2023 20:19

AnotherAnother1 · 26/01/2023 20:16

A simple question for you @niugboo when I latch my baby onto my nipple and my baby receives breastmilk what am I doing? Am I ‘combi feeding’ or am I ‘breastfeeding’. Honestly the lack of intelligence is incredible. 🙄

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Well, exactly!

BunchHarman · 26/01/2023 20:20

LuckySantangelo35 · 26/01/2023 20:05

@Emmamoo89

omg are you being serious??!

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Probably best ignore everything that poster has contributed to this thread.

BunchHarman · 26/01/2023 20:22

Cuppasoupmonster · 26/01/2023 19:51

I actually don’t think so. I think just one of those posters who thinks unless you’re doing EXACTLY what she’s doing at this very moment, you’re doing it wrong; with a bit of FTM self congratulation thrown in. You’re formula feeding a baby? Well, she’s breastfeeding hers! You’re breastfeeding your 2 year old? Hers is only 8 months so that’s gross! You’ve been to Tenerife? Well she’s been to Elevenerife 😉

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Toseland · 26/01/2023 20:29

I breastfed for 2.5 years and consider it a great achievement, though it was blood, sweat and tears sometimes.
It's painful and uncomfortable at first but this really wakes you up, like a slap round the face, to realising that you are now responsible for the life of another person.
The limiting nature purposefully makes you stay at home (and sometimes in one place!) where the baby needs you and is warm, peaceful, safe and comfortable. Let others support you. It also makes you sit and heal and let everything settle after the birth, a win win. The first 6 weeks were hard but then it became really easy. It's a great journey. Find a breastfeeding support group, take your vitamins and good luck!

niugboo · 26/01/2023 20:32

@AnotherAnother1 a single feed in isolation is irrelevant.

you keep telling yourself they’re the same. I’ve done both. They are not.

Cuppasoupmonster · 26/01/2023 20:33

niugboo · 26/01/2023 20:32

@AnotherAnother1 a single feed in isolation is irrelevant.

you keep telling yourself they’re the same. I’ve done both. They are not.

A single feed isn’t combi feeding is it?! What on Earth are you talking about? What are these differences then?

Cuppasoupmonster · 26/01/2023 20:34

Toseland · 26/01/2023 20:29

I breastfed for 2.5 years and consider it a great achievement, though it was blood, sweat and tears sometimes.
It's painful and uncomfortable at first but this really wakes you up, like a slap round the face, to realising that you are now responsible for the life of another person.
The limiting nature purposefully makes you stay at home (and sometimes in one place!) where the baby needs you and is warm, peaceful, safe and comfortable. Let others support you. It also makes you sit and heal and let everything settle after the birth, a win win. The first 6 weeks were hard but then it became really easy. It's a great journey. Find a breastfeeding support group, take your vitamins and good luck!

What’s any of that got to do with OP?

BunchHarman · 26/01/2023 20:34

Toseland · 26/01/2023 20:29

I breastfed for 2.5 years and consider it a great achievement, though it was blood, sweat and tears sometimes.
It's painful and uncomfortable at first but this really wakes you up, like a slap round the face, to realising that you are now responsible for the life of another person.
The limiting nature purposefully makes you stay at home (and sometimes in one place!) where the baby needs you and is warm, peaceful, safe and comfortable. Let others support you. It also makes you sit and heal and let everything settle after the birth, a win win. The first 6 weeks were hard but then it became really easy. It's a great journey. Find a breastfeeding support group, take your vitamins and good luck!

Read.
The.
Room.

She wants to stop.

LuckySantangelo35 · 26/01/2023 20:39

Toseland · 26/01/2023 20:29

I breastfed for 2.5 years and consider it a great achievement, though it was blood, sweat and tears sometimes.
It's painful and uncomfortable at first but this really wakes you up, like a slap round the face, to realising that you are now responsible for the life of another person.
The limiting nature purposefully makes you stay at home (and sometimes in one place!) where the baby needs you and is warm, peaceful, safe and comfortable. Let others support you. It also makes you sit and heal and let everything settle after the birth, a win win. The first 6 weeks were hard but then it became really easy. It's a great journey. Find a breastfeeding support group, take your vitamins and good luck!

@Toseland

not all women want to sit on the sofa for weeks on end after they’ve given birth

Hoppinggreen · 26/01/2023 20:41

Toseland · 26/01/2023 20:29

I breastfed for 2.5 years and consider it a great achievement, though it was blood, sweat and tears sometimes.
It's painful and uncomfortable at first but this really wakes you up, like a slap round the face, to realising that you are now responsible for the life of another person.
The limiting nature purposefully makes you stay at home (and sometimes in one place!) where the baby needs you and is warm, peaceful, safe and comfortable. Let others support you. It also makes you sit and heal and let everything settle after the birth, a win win. The first 6 weeks were hard but then it became really easy. It's a great journey. Find a breastfeeding support group, take your vitamins and good luck!

Why would someone who wants to stop BF need a Breastfeeding support group?

Toseland · 26/01/2023 20:47

Of course she wants to stop it's week 2, by week 10 she'll be laughing at you all pissing about in the middle of the night with your expensive formula!

niugboo · 26/01/2023 20:50

@AnotherAnother1 its a single feed as part of combi feeding. It’s not the same as exclusively breast feeding.

if it’s the same why did you combi feed? It’s the same eh.

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@Emmamoo89

you been drinking?

Emmamoo89 · 26/01/2023 20:56

LuckySantangelo35 · 26/01/2023 20:05

@Emmamoo89

omg are you being serious??!

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Yes because it is and it's a lot more relaxing

Breastfeeding is making me miserable

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