partner does not accept daughter

[Dom1990]

need some advice my girlfriend who was great with my daughter at first does not want to be around my daughter, her words are i want to be with you does not mean i need to be involved with your daughter.

when i have my daughter ( twice a week ) she used to stay in the bedroom or go out now she's will just watch tv and create an atmosphere.

she does not agree with way i parent and says I baby my daughter acts a bit babyish for her age, may be true i'm
not sure, my daughter has no behavioural issues and i have only received good comments on her behaviour from family and school can not speak any more highly of her.

my parter gets jealous if i sit in my daughters bedroom with her and play and says she always comes first,

there was a time she come out the bedroom and didn't even acknowledge my daughter was here and once she left i questioned her and she said well" she didn't say hello to me either"

when i ask my daughter what she thinks of my daughter she said she likes her she does not notice that she does not enrage with her yet but i'm sure she picks up on the atmosphere.

my daughter is turning 8 soon.

anyone else experience similar situation, my worry is this will get worse not better

As someone who struggled initially with being a step parent you need to let this relationship go. If she can't at least prioritise your daughters feelings and development then it'll never work.

You don't necessarily need to feel love but you do have to understand your responsibilities to make sure that children DO feel safe and loved and act accordingly. She's not doing that.

I take issue with whoever called the Op’s partner a twat.
She’s not. She’s a grade A bitch.
OP, please give her her marching orders!

She sounds vile! Ditch her.

My youngest daughter is 7 and would be heartbroken to be treated in this manner.

Your daughter's welfare takes priority, this woman clearly has no respect for this or for the importance of the relationship between you and your daughter.

She sounds like a nasty jealous immature woman who wants you to put her before your daughter. Dump her before she gives your daughter issues.

Shallow girlfriend who is kissing the opportunity to help shape a child into a young person into an adult.

As a step dad myself, when i learned my gf had kids, i had to decide to take on a family, or not, or at the very least, accept it came first.

Best decision i’ve ever made was to be a step dad.

And that tells me everything about your gf.

Dump her asap.

Wow. Red flags aplenty. It’s partners like this (male or female) who enter relationships with the view it’s just the two of them and will push out anyone else.in this situation it can get dangerous, you only need to read up on child murderers where a new partner starts whispering in the parents ear and turns them against their own child leading to abuse disastrous consequences. Not saying your partner is like this but how can you seriously trust a person who hates or is jealous of your child? It’s despicable and if she needs to know it’s unacceptable. You need to put your daughters needs first.

Time to rethink this relationship and go find a partner that will love your daughter in the way she deserves to be loved.

Your partner does not want to deal with children in a relationship by the sounds of it, so why on earth she has got involved with some one who has children is beyond me, maybe this is her first time dating someone with kids, I would leave and tell her not to date people with children in future even though she will probably get a backlash from saying it to people

Bye

Does she want children? Not that it really matters as it's a LTB from me.

Your poor daughter, you are a sorry excuse for a father.

Ltb

Why do you only have your daughter twice a week, OP? If you don't mind me asking?

Your partner sounds controlling, jealous, manipulative, self-centred, degrading and mean!

There are red flags ALL OVER your post!!!

Get rid and fast, uness you want a miserable life.

And remember - YOUR DAUGHTER SHOULD ALWAYS COME FIRST!!

Hi Op

Your daughter plays up when your boyfriend is around Cause she knows she doesn't feel welcome when he is around,

Children are not stupid ,they can tell ,

There is plenty of fish in sea , best to move on from this one, there is a better out there,
He is not right one for you..

She sounds like she has abusive tendencies and statistics show children are at higher risk around step parents.
Protect your daughter. If you love her, this will be an easy decision. This behaviour is unacceptable and will impact your daughter. It also sounds like your partner is being abusive towards you so you need to end the relationship and get some help because something within you is broken for you to be attracted to this person to begin with. Go find your self respect and never let anyone treat you or your daughter like this ever again.

This is how abuse starts. Get rid asap.

No don't find a new GF

Get rid of your partner asap. Your children come first if she can't Accept that she can f off

Your girlfriend sounds like the baby.

My husbands step mother made it very clear before marriage she had no intention of being 'maternal' but she is human, showed an interest in him and his sister as PEOPLE and they have developed a bond of respectover time. This woman is very odd, no effort. If she was like this with your friends you'd have run. Just because she's making it an attack on your parenting doesn't mean she's right.

Dump her. She's going to spend your daughters life making her feel unwanted and then when your daughter is old enough she will not bother visiting.

She's forced you to chose between her and your daughter. If you're half decent you'll obviously chose your daughter.

Get rid, she is vile. Your poor DD.

This is what OW did to my son. Except it was the day I was diagnosed with breast cancer and we were about to go into lockdown and I had asked his father to have him while I had urgent surgery. The woman was a psychopath. Ex blamed me of course. I am still so angry about it because my son has never recovered from that rejection. He was 8 years old. These people are fucking despicable.

Well it's not going anywhere is it. Get the new

I’m so sorry. Your poor son. And I hope you’re out of the woods. These people are despicable. I’m a step parent and I just cannot imagine treating a child like that ever. Or the person who would stay with me if I did.