Husband wants to go travelling for three months when DC is five

[Lilyyy]

DH has told me he’s going travelling across South America with friends when our baby is 5, currently she’s 7 months.

He’s given me lots of notice as he says he is going to start saving.

part of me is annoyed because this will cost a lot and will have an impact on things we do as a family, plus that I’ll be expected to be the sole parent for three months. He doesn’t see the problem as he’s given me a lot of notice.
would you be annoyed or am I being unfair?

The notion that it's OK because he's giving plenty of notice is farcical. How about if you say "In a decade's time when you are a bit grey and flabby I am planning on having an affair with a buff young gym instructor". It's OK because you're giving him plenty of notice, right?

I've been thinking about this....I know that for me I wouldn't be happy. This isn't what I saw married life at....but he does / you have choices

Just because he's giving you notice doesn't make it right. For people who have suggested you have the same time away/money for me personally I wouldn't want the time away but what I would say is ok say it cost £8k
Sorry i haven't read all the post and may have seen the costs then he needs you need to save another £8k so that you have that money to do as you please.
Also a cleaner for the time he's away. Someone who can come in twice a week and clean floors, hoover, change beds and prepare meals
The things that take time
You still have to be mum 100% of the time

Because he may well leave and do this anyway ! I honestly think his hearts not in it and he wants a break otherwise he wouldn't be thinking this is an option let alone anything he WANTS

For me this would be a deal breaker and I would be having chats to say if this is what he wants and thinks ok then maybe our relationship isn't

It's going to cost a lot more in childcare and maintenance than a one off 3 month holiday
Still doenst make it right and I would feel sad he wanted to do this

Just my opinion of course

Anyone saying it's ok or another opinion that's up to them and what works but you have to do what feels right to you

It would probably be the relationship done if that were my husband x sorry op

Was there ever an update to this @Lilyyy? It was one of the more staggering threads I’d read for a while.

Yes! My husband has now asked us to come along for some of it. So we are looking at that, he’s also working overtime to do this so won’t affect our family income and pay for childcare. It’s a dream of his to go so i think considering the former jt might be ok.
wondering if it really will go ahead. His friends are all single, things can change a lot in four years so will see