Why don’t more people have a bigger gap when it’s got so many positives?

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Not a goady post, I’m just intrigued.

Its very much the norm in my friends and family to have a 2-3 year gap between kids. It’s just the done thing and it’s what I was planning because, well, that’s what people do!

Anyway, it took us 2.5 years to get pregnant and we ended up with a 5 year gap and it’s bloody brilliant!

Only one set of childcare fees at a time, one to one time with both kids, older one much more self sufficient when baby arrives which means they can help and are doing activities/play dates independently.

My kids are very close (5&10 now) so maybe I’m lucky. But I feel like such an outlier in parenting, I’m just interested to know why that 2-3 year gap is considered so golden? Age issues aside, I do get it if you don’t start trying until your 35.

We have a 5 year age gap, baby no2 is now 6 months. Covid was our main contributor to not having a smaller gap, we planned to try in 2020 but when covid hit I wanted things in the world to settle first and then after that I wanted to be vaccinated.

I was never going to be the 2 under 2 or even the 2 under 3 parent though. I get the logic with ‘getting it all out the way’ but I’d have gone insane. I’ve immensely enjoyed having just my oldest for 5 years, she is pretty self sufficient and she dotes on her younger sibling. I get there may be age gap issues down the line (interests etc) and as much as I don’t love the baby stage and the lack of the sleep, I do love that my oldest doesn’t wake me in the night and can wipe her own bum 😂. I’ve really enjoyed having the gap and going back to it, I feel the gap enables me to really take it all in.

Dont get get me wrong though, I have questioned my choices to have a second 🙈😂. One really is sooooo much easier! You just don’t realise until you have two.....!

I wanted a smaller gap but ended up with 5 years, it's worked out fine and they are already so close but I can imagine as they get older it will have its challenges!

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