He left our 6 week old baby on the bed with 10 year old daughter

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Hi I might just be being overprotective.
My boyfriend and I have a 6 weeks old baby and live separately. He came to stay at mine with his 10 year old daughter.
I was downstairs and he came down without the baby and said he had left her upstairs with his daughter. I went upstairs he had left the baby on the bed next to his daughter. I brought her downstairs as I didn’t agree with this. Am I being unreasonable to think that the baby shouldn’t be left alone with his daughter? I also have an 8 year old daughter and wouldn’t do this with her either.

YANBU. I wouldn’t be happy unless I knew the 10 year old well and could trust them to be calm and responsible.

I left my baby with my 10 year old many times (obvs when I was in the house and for short periods). You are overreacting.

I'm quite shocked at these replies. I have a 9 year old. Not a chance I would leave him alone with a tiny baby, nor should he be given the responsibility. Definitely with you on this.

OP, I’m sorry you’ve had a bashing on here. Your circumstances are very unusual - your relationship with DP and his with his daughter, plus yours with his daughter. Very few posters will have experienced anything like this so won’t be able to relate.

As a new mother, you’re entitled to express expectations and set boundaries with your DP.

You know your own 10yo though. This guy doesn’t. Would you have left a six week old baby with a friend’s 10yo who you didn’t know well?

I'd trust my 7 year old daughter, 10 year old I don't see the issue to be honest? What did you think was going to happen? Unless you're boyfriend left the baby teetering on the edge, in which case the issue is the boyfriend. I guess unless the girl is special needs and thinks the baby is a doll, this is the only reason I'd maybe be reacting like you are, I'd say I'm more at the overprotective end of the scale generally too.

What are you worried about happening?

Op you never said in your first post you did not know the father of your baby’s daughter very well. Most people have not unreasonably assumed you did.

Is he ND? Id be very concerned if I couldn't trust a 9yr old to sit next to an immobile baby on a soft surface.

He knows her though. It's his daughter.

😂

He does know his child, it seems he’s had limited contact with her recently but she’s not a total stranger to him?

I think people have been really unfairly harsh on you OP! I agree with you OP i would not want a 10 year old in charge of a baby!

I really dislike it when parents expect their kids to look after babies/other younger siblings anyhow

so no, you are not being unreasonable!

Am I being unreasonable
yes you are
no I’m not

ok then

No, you’re not being unreasonable. It’s totally unacceptable to leave young children responsible for much younger siblings.

I silently judge parents who can’t be arsed to parent. 😠

If his DAUGHTER is a child you don't know, then you made a very big mistake having a baby with him. I mean, what on Earth?

Unless the child is anything other than a typically developing 10year old you are being v unreasonable.

Just after realising the thread is 9months old. I would love to know if this couple are still together

Yes me too.
Unless the ten year old is strange or badly behaved