Threads

See more results

Topics

Usernames

Mumsnet Logo
Please
or
to access all these features

Sons height.

94 replies

Questions12 · 21/09/2022 06:49

My son is almost 5 and about 105/106cm tall. Is that small?

OP posts:
Report
Please
or
to access all these features

HardLanding · 22/09/2022 22:53

I have girls, with the eldest two being on the 10th, and as teens, are roughly the same height as me (5’2). Their father is 5’6.

Youngest - giant. She’s at the top of the chart, has been since birth. Spend every visit to medical with staff looking at her, then me, then back again. She’s 6 now and 4’2 (127cm). Her father is 6’6 (he’s entirely absent, has been since I was pregnant. Lovely when you’re married and that happens).

People comment on her height constantly in the same way that being short is negative for a boy, being tall is negative for a girl. She’s also very skinny (again, takes after my ex for that - I’m slim, but he is skinny) so that is always commented on.

For the last few years I’ve started to just say “I hope you don’t make a habit of speaking about how someone is built, particularly children, it’s both damaging to their self image and rude.”

Ive not patience for it.

Please
or
to access all these features

FernsAndFlowers · 22/09/2022 23:48

Thinkbiglittleone · 22/09/2022 21:21

If it was a genetic disorder, doesn't this get passed from a parent/ family member?

Our DS is just tiny, no other reason.

Yes it is passed down - both my parter and I were tested and I was the carrier, although I am actually normal height

Please
or
to access all these features

FernsAndFlowers · 22/09/2022 23:58

smidge80 · 22/09/2022 21:35

Hope you don't mind me asking but can I ask what genetic condition your DD was diagnosed with?

My DD is similar, dropped off the height chart at 18 months, growth hormone fine but bone age is behind. We have been offered genetic testing by testing our bloods and DD having X-rays but im somehow nervous as if there is a genetic condition they won't be able to do anything.
As parents we aren't average height tho unlike yourselves. I'm 5ft 2 and DH is 5ft 7.

How is your DD now? X

The condition is called SHOX deletion or deficiency. Did your DD have the stim test for GH deficiency? We had genetics done at same time as stim test and the faulty gene was found. The good news is that kids with the condition can be treated with GH - they won’t be deficient in it but the extra amount can help them to grow. A few years down the line DD is now average height.

a good place to start for info and support is the Child Growth Foundation - they have a group on fb which has been a great help. And I’m happy to answer any questions.

just wanted to emphasise that what happened to us was relatively rare but concern about a child’s growth is totally valid if you are worried, and growth is so much more than appearing a bit short, although this may be the most noticeable symptom!

Please
or
to access all these features

smidge80 · 23/09/2022 19:30

FernsAndFlowers

Thank you so much for your reply. I would love to ask you more questions but not sure how to message you.

I think I'll be calling the Child Growth Foundation on Monday

Xx

Please
or
to access all these features

Questions12 · 23/09/2022 22:00

I'm worried about him in school.

OP posts:
Please
or
to access all these features

Hellocatshome · 23/09/2022 22:05

Questions12 · 23/09/2022 22:00

I'm worried about him in school.

At 25th centile he may possibly be the smallest in his year at primary school depending how many classes they have. DS was always the smallest in his year at Primary School but by Secondary school I was suprised how many boys were smaller than him. But its nothing to worry about he isnt off the chart small he is just a little smaller than average.

In the nice possible way you need to try to stop worrying and if you find you can't you need to talk to someone about it. He is not tiny, he was never likely to be tall given the genetics, there is nothing to suggest any sort of growth defect. Please just enjoy him.

Please
or
to access all these features

Questions12 · 24/09/2022 08:33

Thank you. I realise I'm being a stress head. I noticed today his 4 to 5 pj's are getting small lol.

OP posts:
Please
or
to access all these features

FernsAndFlowers · 25/09/2022 17:44

Thinkbiglittleone · 22/09/2022 21:21

If it was a genetic disorder, doesn't this get passed from a parent/ family member?

Our DS is just tiny, no other reason.

Sorry - need to correct my previous reply a bit…

it normally is inherited (although you can be a carrier with normal height, like I am)

it was passed to DD1 who is affected. DD2 hasn’t inherited the gene.

However, you can have a mutation where you don’t inherit it from anyone but the gene still goes wonky. And then it could be passed down.

Please
or
to access all these features

FernsAndFlowers · 25/09/2022 17:45

smidge80 · 23/09/2022 19:30

FernsAndFlowers

Thank you so much for your reply. I would love to ask you more questions but not sure how to message you.

I think I'll be calling the Child Growth Foundation on Monday

Xx

I’ve sent you a DM x

Please
or
to access all these features

Eggbuttie · 25/09/2022 17:51

People will always comment.

My 4.5 year old (boy) is 118cm and towers over the rest of the class. My 6 year old (girl) is 117cm and short. People always comment. Shes 9th centile and hes 98th. Same parents, I'm 5'8 and dad is 6'

Please
or
to access all these features

Questions12 · 25/09/2022 19:47

I'm so worried for him.

OP posts:
Please
or
to access all these features

BryceQuinlanTheFirst · 25/09/2022 20:35

I don't understand why you're worried.... He's healthy.

It would be unusual if two petite parents had a giant child!

Please
or
to access all these features

Hellocatshome · 25/09/2022 20:36

Questions12 · 25/09/2022 19:47

I'm so worried for him.

Can you explain exactly what it is you are worried about?

Please
or
to access all these features

Questions12 · 25/09/2022 20:44

I know and I'm lucky. I worry about him getting nasty comments.

OP posts:
Please
or
to access all these features

Hellocatshome · 25/09/2022 20:45

I known

Please
or
to access all these features

Hellocatshome · 25/09/2022 20:50

Sorry dont know what happened there.

If your son is unlucky enough yo be around bullies they will make nasty comments about literally anything.

My son is very short for his age and also has trichotillomania so has many ery noticeable bald spots. He is 12 so doesn't necessarily tell me everything but as far as I know has had no nasty comments and he has a good set of friends and a strong sense of self belief so even if he did they would just be water off a ducks back.

My other son has always been exceptionally tall and skinny he has had nasty comments.

My point is if people are going to be nasty they will be nasty there is generally no rhyme or reason to it and nothing you can do about it. You just have to make your son feel happy in his own skin.

Please
or
to access all these features

Questions12 · 25/09/2022 20:51

I hope he is happy and I haven't given him a crap start in life.

OP posts:
Please
or
to access all these features

Questions12 · 25/09/2022 20:51

I hope your boys are OK x

OP posts:
Please
or
to access all these features

SatInTheCorner · 25/09/2022 20:57

Don't feel sad for him! My lovely DP is 5'7" and I'm over 6 foot. Lots of people don't care about height.

Please
or
to access all these features
Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

Sign up to continue reading

Mumsnet's better when you're logged in. You can customise your experience and access way more features like messaging, watch and hide threads, voting and much more.

Already signed up?