Sons height.

[Questions12]

My son is almost 5 and about 105/106cm tall. Is that small?

[SatInTheCorner]

Don't feel sad for him! My lovely DP is 5'7" and I'm over 6 foot. Lots of people don't care about height.

[Questions12]

I hope your boys are OK x

[Questions12]

I hope he is happy and I haven't given him a crap start in life.

[Hellocatshome]

Sorry dont know what happened there.

If your son is unlucky enough yo be around bullies they will make nasty comments about literally anything.

My son is very short for his age and also has trichotillomania so has many ery noticeable bald spots. He is 12 so doesn't necessarily tell me everything but as far as I know has had no nasty comments and he has a good set of friends and a strong sense of self belief so even if he did they would just be water off a ducks back.

My other son has always been exceptionally tall and skinny he has had nasty comments.

My point is if people are going to be nasty they will be nasty there is generally no rhyme or reason to it and nothing you can do about it. You just have to make your son feel happy in his own skin.

[Hellocatshome]

I known

[Questions12]

I know and I'm lucky. I worry about him getting nasty comments.

[Hellocatshome]

@Questions12

I'm so worried for him.

Can you explain exactly what it is you are worried about?

[BryceQuinlanTheFirst]

I don't understand why you're worried.... He's healthy.

It would be unusual if two petite parents had a giant child!

[Questions12]

I'm so worried for him.

[Eggbuttie]

People will always comment.

My 4.5 year old (boy) is 118cm and towers over the rest of the class. My 6 year old (girl) is 117cm and short. People always comment. Shes 9th centile and hes 98th. Same parents, I'm 5'8 and dad is 6'

[FernsAndFlowers]

@smidge80

FernsAndFlowers

Thank you so much for your reply. I would love to ask you more questions but not sure how to message you.

I think I'll be calling the Child Growth Foundation on Monday

Xx

I’ve sent you a DM x

[FernsAndFlowers]

@Thinkbiglittleone

If it was a genetic disorder, doesn't this get passed from a parent/ family member?

Our DS is just tiny, no other reason.

Sorry - need to correct my previous reply a bit…

it normally is inherited (although you can be a carrier with normal height, like I am)

it was passed to DD1 who is affected. DD2 hasn’t inherited the gene.

However, you can have a mutation where you don’t inherit it from anyone but the gene still goes wonky. And then it could be passed down.

[Questions12]

Thank you. I realise I'm being a stress head. I noticed today his 4 to 5 pj's are getting small lol.

[Hellocatshome]

@Questions12

I'm worried about him in school.

At 25th centile he may possibly be the smallest in his year at primary school depending how many classes they have. DS was always the smallest in his year at Primary School but by Secondary school I was suprised how many boys were smaller than him. But its nothing to worry about he isnt off the chart small he is just a little smaller than average.

In the nice possible way you need to try to stop worrying and if you find you can't you need to talk to someone about it. He is not tiny, he was never likely to be tall given the genetics, there is nothing to suggest any sort of growth defect. Please just enjoy him.

[Questions12]

I'm worried about him in school.

[smidge80]

FernsAndFlowers

Thank you so much for your reply. I would love to ask you more questions but not sure how to message you.

I think I'll be calling the Child Growth Foundation on Monday

Xx

[FernsAndFlowers]

@smidge80

Hope you don't mind me asking but can I ask what genetic condition your DD was diagnosed with?

My DD is similar, dropped off the height chart at 18 months, growth hormone fine but bone age is behind. We have been offered genetic testing by testing our bloods and DD having X-rays but im somehow nervous as if there is a genetic condition they won't be able to do anything.
As parents we aren't average height tho unlike yourselves. I'm 5ft 2 and DH is 5ft 7.

How is your DD now? X

The condition is called SHOX deletion or deficiency. Did your DD have the stim test for GH deficiency? We had genetics done at same time as stim test and the faulty gene was found. The good news is that kids with the condition can be treated with GH - they won’t be deficient in it but the extra amount can help them to grow. A few years down the line DD is now average height.

a good place to start for info and support is the Child Growth Foundation - they have a group on fb which has been a great help. And I’m happy to answer any questions.

just wanted to emphasise that what happened to us was relatively rare but concern about a child’s growth is totally valid if you are worried, and growth is so much more than appearing a bit short, although this may be the most noticeable symptom!

[FernsAndFlowers]

@Thinkbiglittleone

If it was a genetic disorder, doesn't this get passed from a parent/ family member?

Our DS is just tiny, no other reason.

Yes it is passed down - both my parter and I were tested and I was the carrier, although I am actually normal height

[HardLanding]

I have girls, with the eldest two being on the 10th, and as teens, are roughly the same height as me (5’2). Their father is 5’6.

Youngest - giant. She’s at the top of the chart, has been since birth. Spend every visit to medical with staff looking at her, then me, then back again. She’s 6 now and 4’2 (127cm). Her father is 6’6 (he’s entirely absent, has been since I was pregnant. Lovely when you’re married and that happens).

People comment on her height constantly in the same way that being short is negative for a boy, being tall is negative for a girl. She’s also very skinny (again, takes after my ex for that - I’m slim, but he is skinny) so that is always commented on.

For the last few years I’ve started to just say “I hope you don’t make a habit of speaking about how someone is built, particularly children, it’s both damaging to their self image and rude.”

Ive not patience for it.

[Dinoteeth]

Op neither you nor your DH are tall. Look at the heights of adults in the red book 5ft 6 for a man is probably about 9th centile, and you'll be about the same so as 25th he'll end up taller than Dad.

Something to keep in mind Shetland Ponies make Shetland Ponies

[Calandor]

@WhoppingBigBackside

I dislike the use of the term petite for a male. It's a feminine adjective.
I dated a man who described himself as petite and it gave me the ick.

On TikTok the teens call men under 5'9 'short kings' 😂 I quite like it

[Calandor]

Nobody knows how tall he will be. My sister was tallest in her class until yr7. She just stopped growing and is 5ft. I was second smallest in my class until yr7 and am 5ft4.

Can't tell at this age.

[Botanicaa]

@DotBall

DS was 2nd centile persistently.
As a rough guide to how tall your DS might be, I’m 5’1 and DH is 5’6. DS as an adult is now 5’7 (and has never had a problem with his height either in the sports he plays or attracting a partner!)

I know its wrong of me but I'd really like my son to reach 5ft7. We are 5ft5 and 5ft 6 but he's not grown for ages. What age did your son stop growing?

[WhoppingBigBackside]

I dislike the use of the term petite for a male. It's a feminine adjective.
I dated a man who described himself as petite and it gave me the ick.

[Botanicaa]

I'm 5ft 6, my dh is 5ft 5. My 15 year old us almost my dh height. When we calculated he is meant to reach 5ft 7 but he hasn't grown for a year or so.
I do worry for him as small men get unnecessary grief. My dh has had the piss taken out of him all his adult life, luckily he really doesn't care but my son is much more senstive 🙃