Feeling utterly inadequate following yummy mummy encounter

[milliec]

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always good to have a rant.

She sounds like a PITA.

Why do people tell you to do things they know you can't manage (time-wise, money-wise)? What's teh point in it?

If you ask me, this woman you met at the park is the inadequate one. Anyone with a tad of empathy, consideration for others or basic social skills knows that if someone is having a rough day then giving them 20 minutes of the benefit of your 'advice' is not helpful or necessary. So she is the inadequate one, not you.

Of course it is easier to keep the household running smoothly if you have plenty of space, money and paid help and a husband who is around all the time.

Don't be jealous - if that is her idea of being friendly then everyone probably secretly hates her

She sounds superlatively silly to me. Surely 'Thou shalt not judge other mothers - or at least, if though dost judgeth thou keeps thy bleeding moouth shut' is the First Commandment of parenting?

I would have tried to unsettle her I think saying, oh we thought about that (your) nursery but we heard so many bad things about it.

But then I am not as nice as you are

Somehow, I don't think the yummy mummy would cope with the number of things that you're juggling.

Maybe she should be the one feeling inadequate?

If it happens again tell her to naff off.

And if she really wants to help tell her to send her cleaner round for a few hours.

Well done you on getting out and doing something. it would of been easier to stay home and hid from the world, think of the positve things you have done today.

Bet your kids are happier!!!!

She sounds a pain. If she'd really been supportive, having remarked on your tiredness, she could have invited you and DD around for a cup of tea and a play.

Don't let people like her get to you. She's not worth it!

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Nothing like feeling under the weather to make you feel inadequate.
I agree with the other posts - if this woman as a SAHM needs a cleaner 3 x a week, then she's not exactly coping is she!!
I wouldnt be surprised if your dd turns out happier and more well balanced too. The danger of the yummy mummy syndrome is that by making their little darlings the entire focus of their lives, they become totally utterly boring people (as you witnessed). Much better to have a life, albeit a busy and chaotic one at times, to be filling up your time with baby yoga. Also, her boys will grow up thinking that women are supposed to sit at home all day, wheeas your dd will grow up realising that women are very capable beings

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LOL milliec! water ballet! Very nice response indeed!

I can't believe she started in on you again. I sometimes struggle to find something polite to say to people like this, when all I really want to say is "Shut up and go away! I don't want your advice!" I hate know-it-all mothers - you just know they're exaggerating - their kids have strops, refuse to go to bed, and demand chocolate too, ya know. But they'd never admit it!

Kids that play up and have lots of uncontrolled fun are more intelligent than ones that look clean and behave all the time.

Oh dont worry you are doing fine.

I met one at dd's kindergarten a while ago, who, upon hearing that I am a single mum, told (not suggested, told) me that I really should consider running toddler craft classes in my front room to make extra money.

WTF? How much room/patience does she think I've got???

I just contented myself with the knowledge that I don't wear a jauntily perched beret and go round telling other people what to do.

do people like this really exist?
I think I must be very lucky in that I've never met one. How silly. It's difficult not to be envious sometimes isn't it but you never know what's really going on at home in her family.

Try and let it pass over you and smile politely while thinking muderous thoughts

WTF is Water ballet , Stripey mama, some people just can't help themselves can they. You should really do blah, blah, blah, because thats what I do to stop myself being bored stupid because I do nothing of any use.

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She is probably secretly on antidepressants and shagging the gardener. And her kids will grow up as druggies just to rebel! Sorry, I know I'm being a bitch but yummy mummies annoy me!

I remember when one set of yummies literally gave a little shriek in horror when I said I regularly give my kids Birds Eye chicken nuggets. "Surely we're not still doing chicken nuggets after Jamie," they cried, and proceeded to give me (in painstaking detail) their recipe for organic, hand-breaded chicken goujons. FFS, what are they on about, didn't people invent Birds Eye to save mummies time on hand-breading nuggets??

She might have a big house and tons of money (earned by her DH and not her) but she has no social skills. I get jealous of people like that too, but if you look what YOU achieve day-in, day-out you're a complete star compared to her. Come on here and rant away but try not to let it get you down. I hope she's a MNetter and reads this thread.

She sounds like a royal stupid cow! She needs to get a life, passing judgement on other mums like that.

Even the phrase "yummy mummy" wants me to scratch her face along a wall!

this reminds me of a book i red - the rise and fall of a yummy mummy.

Said YM in the book was yummy in every sense of the word - it was disovered in the end that she felt insecure and if you shook her she would have rattled with more pills than a chemist!

Ignore people like this - we each have our own ways of doing stuff - yours mostly doing it for YOURSELF like a star.