Feeling utterly inadequate following yummy mummy encounter

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in reponse to OP - next time just say "Or we could just swap lives for a week" and watch her run for it.

Dont shoot me for this but is it that people are taking things the wrong way/being over senstive?

I find it hard to believe that there are gangs of perfectly dressed, wealthy, gorgeous mummies who prowl around trying to make everyone else feel inferior? So many posters seem to have come across these people. I live in abit of London where you would expect to find mums like this and indeed there are those who are rich/gorgeous etc but they seem to be perfectly nice and friendly in the main just getting on with their own (very pleasant) lives. Seems sad that on mumsnet there is so much criticism of those that have a different lifestyle to you?

kerala, shall i let you into a little secret - on mumsnet, it is mostly the alphayummymummy who frequents these boards.

I have no problem with people who have a diffirent lifestyle to me, i just find the whole alpha yummy boden wearing, lets meet at the gym dull dull dull dull. I much prefer my clique of knackered looking women who are honest about the fact that being a mum is bloody hard work - or at least it is if you do it properly

kerala my son's school corridor is thronged with these women.

Mind you they don't look good. They all had their kids in their late 30s and do wear Boden, of course.

However they are hysterically competitive. They radiate anxiety and entitlement.

I was initially unwilling to believe that grown women could devote their lives to childish status-seeking and bitching, but it is so true. I really worry for the generation of kids who will grow up with these ghastly 'professional mummies' breathing down their necks and declaring their genius to all and sundry.

In my very worst moments I do wish upon these women anorexic daughters and drug-addicted sons (shame emoticon)

Domesticgodless - love your name!

"Mind you they don't look good. They all had their kids in their late 30s and do wear Boden, of course."

cheers

you sound bitter btw

bitter about what? them being vile? well yes.
I am in my mid 30s, wear Boden and don't look too good myself I dare say

I truly cannot imagine wishing anorexic dds or druggie sons on anyone

especially people who I dont know, however smug and privileged they seem to you

very very bad karma

"kerala my son's school corridor is thronged with these women.

Mind you they don't look good. They all had their kids in their late 30s and do wear Boden, of course.

However they are hysterically competitive. They radiate anxiety and entitlement.

I was initially unwilling to believe that grown women could devote their lives to childish status-seeking and bitching, but it is so true. I really worry for the generation of kids who will grow up with these ghastly 'professional mummies' breathing down their necks and declaring their genius to all and sundry.

In my very worst moments I do wish upon these women anorexic daughters and drug-addicted sons (shame emoticon)"

YOU ARE CLEARLY QUITE BONKERS - IT'D BE A GOOD IDEA TO GET A JOB OR SOMETHING TO TAKE YOUR MIND OFF ALL THIS UNHEALTHY ANGER

I can almost promise you that those woemn who you despise dont wish anorexic dds on you

you should be ashamed

well, you are clearly morally superior to me. No doubt you'll get your reward in heaven or the next life, while I end up on the karmic dung heap

I did say it was in my very worst moments and I am ashamed of it, but clearly that won't save me from coming back as a worm or somesuch.

i was going to post about my dislike of alpha mums the perfect cowsbut dont think its very nice to wish bad things on people

I THINK YOU ARE GETTING YOUR TERMS MIXED UP

AN ALPHA MUMMY WORKS

YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT UBER COMPETITIVE MUMMIES WHO HAVE GIVEN UP THEIR JOBS AND NOW SEE THEIR LIVES PURELY IN TERMS OF THEIR CHILDREN

I just want to clarify my own status

YOU DIDN'T HAVE TO DO THAT LAPIN

WE ALL KNEW YOU WERE YUMMY

PARTICULARLY IN STEW

oh i just ment those perfect always well dressed,always lookin great mums that bake cakes at 6 am and look as though they never break a sweat as opposed to myself who is disorganised,usually look like ive been dragged through a hedge backwards.wahm and sahm didnt come into it i do apologise.

I don't say anything anymore. I met a beautiful, perfectly made-up stunning and friendly woman a few weeks ago through a friend. She speaks 4 languages fluently, film-star looks husband, huge house,car, three kids- and the two youngest kids were with her and they, of course, were beautiful. So anyway, I go home just wondering why some people seem to have life so easy. She called me up asking me to meet up again, so I did. In the middle of a chat she told me that her eldest son (5 now) came down with bacterial meningitis at 3 weeks old. He was in the hospital from 3 weeks to 8 1/2 month, and now as a result of that he has special needs. I take my hat off to her- to be able to have such a sunny outlook on life after going through something as traumatic as that- I know I'd be even an even more miserable bugger than I already am if that had happened to me.

needmorecoffee, your post on 26th Jan : "am a bit jealous of those neat and tidy yummy mummies braying away in the organic cafe. Oddly enough they never get a fraking brain damagaed child."

I have to disagree - in my ds's school( private, mixed sex), 80% of the mums could be described as yummies or alpha, in a class of 15, ds has an low functioning autistic sister, his best friend has a younger brother with downs, and another has an older brother in a wheelchair and is quad CP. That is in one class, In Year 2, a boy is in a wheelchair because of DMD, I could go on...

I can understand your anger at the hand life has dealt you, but be under no illusion, SN affects people in all income brackets - do you really think it is a curse of the poor? Oddly enough, money can't cure it

If I ever get chippy and jealous about other people I know it is a sign that I am not happy with my life and need to get a grip.

Obviously there are women out there who aren't that nice, or you don't get on with for whatever reason, but that's life. I always assume everyone likes me tbh, its often a bit of shock to realise that sometimes people dont!

"kerala my son's school corridor is thronged with these women.

Mind you they don't look good. They all had their kids in their late 30s and do wear Boden, of course.

However they are hysterically competitive. They radiate anxiety and entitlement.

I was initially unwilling to believe that grown women could devote their lives to childish status-seeking and bitching, but it is so true. I really worry for the generation of kids who will grow up with these ghastly 'professional mummies' breathing down their necks and declaring their genius to all and sundry.

In my very worst moments I do wish upon these women anorexic daughters and drug-addicted sons (shame emoticon)"

The last paragraph is plain nasty. The rest is sadly true. In fact the 'radiating anxiety and entitlement' sums it up.

Sakura your last post is lovely-atleast your looking beyond the label!you gave her a chance and sounds like you got on well.many other posts on here seem a bit jealous tbh.

Domesticgodless -'In my very worst moments I do wish upon these women anorexic daughters and drug-addicted sons'

thats nice.why would you want that?

Gosh. I bet the OP's really reassured to hear how some posters were models, their husbands are loaded and their kids speak mandarin. But obviously they would never tell anyone that - other than thousands of people on the internet obviously. That's really going to reassure her! The original "yummy" is obviously a bit smug and tactless and pleased with herself - but doesn't sound as bad as many posters on here who feel the need to generalise so appallingly. I must be a dreadful tedious smug bragger according to this thread based on the fact that I was a scholarship girl with a working class background who became a lawyer and happened to marry a successful husband. Thanks ladies! Well better be off to Bond Street in my 4x4 while I dump my kids with the au pair.

Think the original tone of the thread was quite a light-hearted pisstake of yummy-mummys designed to cheer up a poster who was intimidated by a particularly patronising one.

IMO dg was entering into the spirit of that slightly tongue-in-cheek apprach. I didn't have a problem with her post, and I must be one of the eldest Boden cardigan-wearing mums at our school. What's more, loads of my friends are yummy mummys of all description. The only thing I can't quite take is people who have that mad competitive edge, which she describes so well.

I'd certainly admit to consoling myself with the thought that someday they'll probably come a cropper with that parenting style, and I can only say I'm impressed by the more saintly of us who never even had that impulse.