Feeling utterly inadequate following yummy mummy encounter

[milliec]

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book i 'read' even - was typing too fast

She may have the big house and the amazing life style but maybe the husband who pays for it is dead boring, very unattractive and like a limp rag in the bedroom. I have to say, it's true of most of the yummy mummies i know. I always walk away from them thinking 'My makeup may not be perfect,I'm no longer a size 10 and my house is a bit of a mess but at least i've got a dead cute dh!'There, that makes you feel better doesn't it?!

God just read my post and it sounds like I know about how the yummy mummies husbands perform in bed! I don't - honest!! They just look like they'd be crap!!

Milliec, how old is your DD?

Re potty training, the last person I would be taking advice from is either a YM or GF.

Have just successfully potty trained DD after several previous failed and frustrating attempts. Most important thing is to wait until they are ready rather than being rushed by other people (My health visitor had pressurised me to train earlier).

Great comeback. I can only think of lines like that several days later.

I think I would slap someone if they started lecturing me about yoga classes.

"She doesn't know she's born. She should try working full time with a husband whose away 4 nights a week"

Exactly, just ignore her. She's probably miserable underneath it all.

I loved the water ballet line! - what you do with your lo's is totally none of her business. The last thing you need is someone undermining all your great work by making you feel like you're not doing your best. I know a YM just like the one you described and she's bonkers (in not a good way).

i met a group of 'yummy mummies' today at a baby class and god they were annoying. (i wasnt included in this group, just overhearing from a far)

they spent 40mins talking about their babies and nothing else... it really was very boring [yawn]

These yummie mummies should all be shot IMO! the fact she has nothing in her life other than her kid is why she is so dull and boring. My guess is the reason her hubbie earns so much is he'd rather work than be stuck at home listening to her drone on yet again about her precious cherubs. Bet you a tenner he'd prefer a real women who knows time saved not making nuggets = more time on hubbie!!NEVER feel inferior to these type of women its all a front to make up for their lack of having a life of their own.

but by judging her like this surely you are no better than her? Saying she should be shot is just cruel...and totally unecessary. She may well be irritating and lacking in social skills but you have no reason that I can seeto suggest she is actually being malicious!

Hi,

Just read this and made me think of how self satisfied people can get. Anybody who has to bombard you with the answers to everything obviously knows nothing. Nobody has all the answers, everybody's situation is different and anybody who believes that that is the way to help/ support someone is really not worth listening too.

You don't need to justify your position to anybody and the fact that she has to bulldoze you with everything she knows at the drop of a hat shows her weakness. Some people make themselves feel better about themselves by judging others.

You sound like a genuine, kindhearted compassionate person and in the end she probably deserves your pity more than anything else as your head is obviously screwed on right. Your priorities are your life and your family not making someone else feel bad..

I love this thread! It's given me hope. So I'm not a paranoid, over-tired freak after all! I seem to be surrounded by yummy-mummies, even my so-called friends seem alien these days. I haven't had the money or even the desire to take care of myself since Xmas. My clothes have seen better days, my hair needs serious (professional=expensive) attention, etc, etc. This shouldn't matter & tbh, being a one-income family (I can't work for various reasons), has never really bothered me before but suddenly, it does. I want to be able to send my kids skiing, to plan sunny holidays abroad, start playing tennis again, have some friends round, get the house painted... I know it sounds trite but why should it suddenly bother me so much now? I do live in a very priviliged, high-income area & we're not really in that bracket but doing alright. Why should it matter?

know what you Caribou. A tiddly part of me wants to be organised and not scruffy and have the neregy to do exciting things for the kids and bake cookies but I have to face it that it will never happen. I don't work (I have MS), DH works 2 hours a week as he's full time carer to our very disabled daughter. She requires 24 hour care and hundreds of hozzie appointments plus I have 2 other kids. Our life is always going to be like this. No chance of higher earnings or a break from dd or anything. Feels very depressing sometimes like I've failed.
I am a bit jealous of those neat and tidy yummy mummies braying away in the organic cafe. Oddly enough they never get a fraking brain damagaed child.
Sometimes I wish we had some money to make life easier and that my house wasn't always a mess and that my older kids hadn't had take out pizza cos I was too tired to cook oh and everything.
And when I meet a yummy mummy I feel sad at my crappy life, jealous and rather inadequate

I'm sorry, needmorecoffee. you've got a lot to deal with. Stuff those yummy-mummies! who needs 'em? Wouldn't it be great to be in a society where courage, humour & compassion were the most valued "prizes"? Keep dreaming...

I met a yummy mummy from baby group in the park when DD1 was small. She was telling me the funny things her child was saying - finished up with 'Don't worry, your DD will be saying things like that soon.'

They were exactly the same age!!! Astounding.

(I should say, she didn't know what DD was saying or not saying, just assumed her child was streets ahead...)

I feel this way too sometimes but honestly, the children of these control-freak-everything-is-perfect-lets-fit-in-another-over-achievement-to-bray-about are not the happy ones. They are the insecure, unhappy, future anorexics and addicts. Seriously. Skiing holidays and size 8 mothers mean nothing to a child. And they don't make adults happy either, unless they are already happy.

I had a yummy mummy encounter in a cafe the other day. Her son came to say hello to my baby, and she asked how old he was. When i said he was 11 months old, she asked if he was standing yet. When i said no, she responded with "Well, i'm shocked to hear that - my DS was crawling at 8 months and standing at 10 months. I thought that was normal!"
She might as well just have said "My son is cleverer than yours, ner ner ni ner ner!!"

any yummys want to speak out here?

If I get a yummy bragging about her perfect child I'll listen seriously then say 'is that so? dd laughs when she farts in the bath.'
Just met one in the helath shop about 30 mins ago. She was giving dd horrified looks.

Aye, and she would too

Sorry it's all getting you down, NMC. For what it's worth, you're worth a thousand yummy mummies.

God, that sort of woman gets on my tits.

well, I know I am. I'd like the money and posh house too please

I went for a coffee morning to a friend in her new house. (3 reception rooms, swimming pool etc) And as we were enjoying our tea and cake that she had lovingly driven across london to "this fab little organic bakery in the tonsleys", she was sitting on the floor, her nanny having just handed her baby, saying "Having a baby second time around is just so much easier, dont you think?" Yes, sure, with a full time house keeper and a cleaner and a nanny, why wouldnt it be easy?

thing is, I do know some rich people. Them with a nice house or a cleaner or nanny. Its not compulsory to be smug and make stupid tactless comments. Do you think there's a type that do?
Just wondering how organic it is to belch out fumes (for the poor to breathe in) to go fetch something miles away. tsk.

I think the point was more that she could do this, and did.... Left the baby at home with live in nanny to drive that far for banana loaf.