Told off for baby not wearing hat

[pinacolada22]

Today I was on the bus with my 3 month old, dropping her at nursery, and a woman said, 'Oh dear, baby needs a hat. She will burn. You can't be taking her out with no hat on.' She also said in a humorous tone, 'How you have time do your makeup but not put a hat on baby?'
The irony being that today was the first day in a long time I have worn makeup, I just wanted to do something nice for myself.
I felt so embarrassed that she said this in front of everyone on the bus, I'm sure she meant well but I just feel like she shoulda kept her thoughts to herself.
This morning I was in such a rush, its always a miracle we manage to get on the bus on time. It never crossed my mind that she needed a hat. I get it, its hot. I think around 27 degrees in London today.
I told the nursery when I dropped her that she doesn't have a sun hat, they said not to worry.
AIBU to be upset by this? I'm probably just being overly sensitive, it is cancer season after all...

Most babies and toddlers don't keep hats on anyway no matter what you do. I put on a hat on my little one when she'll tolerate it. But really, I live in a hot country and the majority or other toddlers and babies arnt wearing hats either and the world hasn't imploded. All will be fine.

I live in the Caribbean and my babies never wore hats!!

And I can't tell you the amount of people who'd stop me in the supermarket and tell me he wasn't wearing enough clothes because he didn't have socks on...(in 90oF heat)

Seriously don't give it another thought.

My babies never needed hats. I didn't even own sun hats!

Babies can also catch heat stroke through the soles of their feet, yet the same uppity bus wankers would likely scold you for putting socks on your baby on such a hot day.

In short - some people are dicks.

We never used a sun hat, they never used to stay on. We just used to keep the baby in the shade and keep the hood up when she was in the sun.

I wouldn't have said anything, but babies do need sunhats in this weather.

Mine never wore hats pre crawling because I could keep them in the shade. Wouldn’t even occur to me to put a hat on a baby that small. Baby doesn’t need a hat on a bus ffs.

I would have told her to fuck off and mind her own business.

I would love to know how you keep a hat on a baby who doesn't want to wear one. Maybe babies need a hat, but if they're determined to take it off immediately after it's placed on their head, then what the fuck are you meant to do? DS's head is slathered in factor 50 and he's not out for long so I think that's the best I can do

Do ya'll ever wonder how babies in hot temperature all year round survive? With no hat?

YANBU OP

Surely a baby is not in the sun so doesn't actually need a hat? DD was in a carry cot at that age with a sunshade. We had a fold up sunshade so I suppose someone on the bus might of thought we didn't have one because it was under the pram.

And don't let her make you feel bad about having done your make up. Self care is important.

A 3 month old can't wear sun lotion so they shouldn't be out in the sun (obviously when you're out their skin gets a tiny glimpse but usually buggies have a shade bit?) If they cut be out in the sun, I don't see the need for a hat

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Only if they are at an age where they can be out in the sun. A 3 month old is usually in their pram where it's shaded. They can't wear sun lotion so if in direct sun for long enough to need a hat, they shouldn't be.

DD never had one on. She was in the shade as a baby because sunscreen isn't good and hats don't stay on.

Hats aren't as bad as al the 'helpful' people going on about socks. I bought them. DD never kept one on a foot.

Fortunately at 11 she digs her own hat out when it gets sunny.

These fricking busybodies like to make themselves feel important by making catty comments to parents.

We had: 'Isn't your baby hot in that sling?' as if it hadn't occurred to me that my own body was warm. Baby was fine. I was sweaty. Still the best transportation method, all things considered, thanks stranger.

Dh would often get 'Aw, are you taking baby out to give mum a rest, aren't you good?' No, he was off work for three months to take care of his baby because it was his baby.

Your job is to keep baby out of the sun. You were on a bus. She can naff off.

She was rude, and I would have been upset too, but think of it as a lesson learnt. You won't forget to protect your little one in the sun again!

FWIW I have a 3mo and have had these experiences too i.e. made a mistake, felt shit about it, learnt from it. Conversely one of these involved baby being too cold whilst out and about. I'm now much more careful about what I put him in before we leave the house, and pack options, but it took a very public meltdown to realise this.

I don’t know why people are bleating on about hats. The OP got a bus to nursery. The baby may have been outside for two minutes but it doesn’t sound like this was a day sunbathing. And the OP probably knows how to keep her child alive.

People IME will say anything for an interaction. Don't give it a further thought. Take a hat though, or get a huge sunshade

I'm not from England and like a pp, these sorts of comments aren't offensive to me at all. Just normal.

I would never say it, but the lady on the bus wasn't wrong in fairness. Ideally you'd have a hat on your baby, but shit happens. You forget, they won't wear one, whatever. So you say "oh i know! I forgot today. But luckily they have spares at her nursery" and get on with your day

I don't think a 3 month old baby needs a hat- babies should be kept out of the sunlight and in the shade. A hat isn't going to stop a baby's face burning. Presumably nursery won't be taking babies out in the sun.

My 1 year old loses a hat pretty much once a week at the moment

Her nursery have a big box of spares for when they are outside anyway

I had a woman tell me my babies face was going to be burned by the sun...i had the sun shade on and a snooze shade on the buggy blocking any sun coming in the side - no hat though - but it was thrown out somewhere mid walk

i just ignore tbh - i also get a lot of unhelpful advice on the bus too if she is crying

What a rude and horrible woman. And honestly, a 3 month old baby does NOT need a sun hat. A 3 month old baby needs to be kept out of the sun. I assume that on the bus, in her buggy, she was out of the sun!? And nursery would not be putting babies of that age in the sun for more than a few minutes. Plus a 3 month old is just lying down so a sun hat is almost completely pointless.

I hate interfering old biddies. DH was a SAHD and when he first took over full time when I went back to maternity leave, he was always getting older women coming over and telling him to put a blanket on DS or take a blanket off or whatever. Was particularly infuriating as DH was always running hot (and we now know, has severe sensory processing issues). I think they did try it with me but I have an astonishing ability to ignore such comments or respond with polite but firm somewhat biting answers.

DS was always running hot. Honestly, that made no sense!

Honestly forget about it - an old lady likely has no idea what its like to have to get yourself and a baby ready for nursery and work in the morning - trying to remember everything, get their bag ready, your bag, the buggy sorted, breakfast etc

I forgot my daughters water cup this morning for the commute for example - it happens, you're tired, in a rush, busy!