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Partner hits our child
ToddlersDad · 30/04/2022 15:42
My partner has EUPD / BPD. She had therapy and been stated on medication and it has helped massively to the point she is not a bad mother and the abuse I was getting has almost stopped.
on the whole she is good with our little girl (3) now. She does get frustrated but I work part time so she does not have to take care alone more than a couple of days a week alone.
Anyway we are in the car driving home from the airport a couple of days ago.
Our little girl is a bit hyper active in the car seat due to the long flight and has hit mum a few time so mum grabs her hand and squeezes it until she is crying.
Grandmother (my mum) is also in the back. They never hit us growing up so freaks out and is telling my partner she can’t hurt the baby.
My partner is telling her not to interfere as it’s her child.
I tried to discuss this which her after but she just does not get it’s not ok.
I don’t know what to do. I thought about going to the safeguard teacher in her school but I know she will make me take her out of that school if they know what’s going on.
After the last time It happened I told me self I will not let it happen again. Social services did come to the house a couple of years ago after I was assaulted but they where not interested.
She has made such improvements over the last year I don’t want to kick her out (I own the house) at the same time I don’t want to risk loosing my little girl as I know she is not safe with mum alone.
is squeezing the hand as big a deal as I feel it is?
NativityDreaming · 30/04/2022 15:48
Yes, it is a big deal. If your partner is willing to do that in front of your mum what does she feel comfortable doing when no one is there? Your daughter is not safe with her and you need to report this to SS.
NativityDreaming · 30/04/2022 15:48
Yes, it is a big deal. If your partner is willing to do that in front of your mum what does she feel comfortable doing when no one is there? Your daughter is not safe with her and you need to report this to SS.
GrazingSheep · 30/04/2022 17:42
The poster who posted earlier today about hitting her child got nothing but support. I don’t think any poster referred to her as vile and abusive. She was reassured that the child would forget all about it and no harm was done.
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