Can’t play with sons because I’m the mum

[FeelingDizzy123]

DS1 and DS2 are still young but my husband keeps making continuous jokes to me about how I can’t play with them and how they won’t want to play with me when they are older because I am a ‘girl’. It is upsetting me. I’m being stupid aren’t I? Or maybe they really will want to play with only Daddy and I will be singled out the whole time and need to learn to live with that?

Is he a misogynistic twat about everything?!

Your DH sounds very silly
Of course your kids will want to play with you

He’s the stupid one not you. Why would he say that? Is he usually so thoughtless!!

I mean he sounds like a twat to me.

How strange. What kind of games is he talking about?

What a nob
I have 4 boys and I played with them all. All sorts of games honestly some men are pigshit thick

What does he mean? Why cant you play with your kids?? Hes being weird.

@Nightmanagerfan

Is he a misogynistic twat about everything?!

This.

What is he like with parenting responsibilities and responsibilities within the home?

Please challenge this. The world really doesn't need two more little boys growing up with the message that girls are inferior.

Hope he doesn’t say this in front of them, bad enough he says it to you. Bet he lets you do the cooking and laundry for them though

Thank would start telling him that it’s your job as parents to ensure your sons respect women. He’s clearly misogynistic and his attitude needs to change before he passes it on.

I think he's the one being stupid! I have a 10yo son who loves doing stuff with me like cooking, listening to music, reading, building Lego, going bowling etc. He also loves doing stuff with his dad! Also have a 7yo girl who loves helping her dad build stuff, doing crafts with me and loads of other things. Ridiculous to say they will only want to play with a parent of the same sex. Ignore him & enjoy your boys op

Does he mean that you won't want to play with boys stuff? I have boys and I love playing with cars, dinosaurs, Lego etc.

My boys also enjoy planting, baking cakes and biscuits, shopping, choosing their own clothes, what your DH sees as girls activities maybe?

Of course they will want to play with you, you're their Mum. Boys are very loving and tend to be very loyal and devoted to their Mother's so I've heard.

Both DS1 and DS2 are both very young still, so he is being generic about car games, ball games, indoor games, outdoor games… whatever boys want to play, games! “They won’t want to play with you because you are a girl and so don’t know how to play cars properly” and so on… random things like that being said very often and I’m just wondering if I should be preparing myself to be left out.

Won’t it be great for him when your pulled into school because they’ve been coming out with this misogynistic claptrap to female class mates or even teachers.

I played games with ds(18) more than dh ever did. Still do now, we occasionally play board games or cards together that dh just isnt interested in.

I would tell your dh to stop with the stupid comments as it makes him look stupid and is giving harmful messages to your sons.

So would he let the boys say that or would he correct them that girls are pretty capable of playing those games too. How would he react if one of them wants to play with dolls or other games that historically were seen as ‘typical girls games’.

How are household chores split, is he very much stuck in the 1950s? Does he not watch women’s football etc?

Well its not you who sounds stupid.
Why does he think you can't play cars, or ball games or any kind of games because you have a vagina?

How sad. What a shame you are going to bring up a pair of chauvinists if you don't do something about your husband's sexism. I don't live in the UK but my dgd's best friends are boys

I have a ds. I raised him alone since he was 1yo.

We haven't ignored each other for the last 16years

Call him out for being the idiot he's being.

Is he generally a bit thick or just about this? Luckily if your children are still very young there's time to point out that he's being a bit of a knob and he can stop saying stupid things.

Your husband is a twat.
I've been a single parent for 11 years, since my boys were 3 and 5.
Weirdly enough I've spent a large portion of that time playing with them.

1. They will play with any adult offering.

1. Where would they get the idea that playing with girls is bad from?

1. Why would playing with girls be a bad thing anyway?

1. Why does their father think this way? What is wrong with him?

1. This can't be the only thing he is mindlessly sexist about. What other things does he do?

Don't feel sad or worried that he may be right, feel angry and pissed off that this has even crossed his mind.

I think you need to sit him down and tell him he's a sexist idiot and that he's better not pass this attitude onto his sons or you'll dump his arse and raise them better yourself (only half joking)

Erm - well the only reason you need to be preparing to be left out is because you are married to a woman hating tosser who seems to be intent on turning your sons against you.

He’s already convinced you that you’re stupid, so I’m sure he’ll have your sons thinking that too,

This isn’t normal Op. at all

Either LTB, or tell him he’s a sexist fuck and needs to mend his ways or he’s out.

@FeelingDizzy123

Both DS1 and DS2 are both very young still, so he is being generic about car games, ball games, indoor games, outdoor games… whatever boys want to play, games! “They won’t want to play with you because you are a girl and so don’t know how to play cars properly” and so on… random things like that being said very often and I’m just wondering if I should be preparing myself to be left out.

You should be preparing to call him out on his bullshit.