Word for vagina?

[ncnewbaby]

Parents of girls, what word do you use for vagina? I have a baby girl and can't remember what we used growing up!

Minge.

Not really.

We use the anatomical names.

Oops posted too soon, there are loads of body parts we nickname, it’s part of development. Absolutely teach them the proper terms, but nicknames are fine for day to day

@WorraLiberty I think vulva actually does sound pretty twee when you get used to it

Why would you need another name for it, it has a name already?

What will you be naming her arms and legs?

Why is that area any different?

You're not doing your daughter favours by calling her vulva/vagina a random nickname.

How very strange

It was "front bottom" when I was a kid

Vulva is an ugly, ugly word. Don’t care if it’s anatomically correct.

We had the same discussion when DD was a toddler. Went with vagina in the end because everything else just gave us the creeps.
DD shortened it to 'Gina' (pronounced as in vagina, just without the 'va') when she started to talk, though, which has stuck

@ncnewbaby

I just used the generic bottom until they were ready for more detailed information, one of mine was non verbal until 4 anyway, we hardly needed complex terminology! They learned other proper names for body parts arts at school age eg stomach not tummy.

@ncnewbaby - Blimey! Bit of a hard time! Front Bottom is what I used with my girls when they were younger.

god forbid something happened to your child (sexual assault or inappropriate touching) and they tell a teacher that they've been touched on a insert childish name for vagina how do the police or you know exactly where the touching has happened? Muffin could mean anything etc

Because the story of the child telling their teacher that uncle so and so licked their cookie, and the teacher did nothing are obviously true.

Not that I have any objection to children using the correct terms, but I think the police would figure out the context if needed

We say fanny

Front bottom is so strange imho, would you call your back your “back chest”?

I confess I didn’t do it with my daughter, but now know more, and wish I had.

I think vulva is actually a rather beautiful word. Certainly compared to minge!

I can't even remember what I or my Mother called it maybe it didn't come up in conversation that regularly.

The more I think about this the more cross I get.

Why are we fucked up about talking about our genitals? The men don't care. We can say what we want and use the proper names but we don't with our little girls, and then they grow up and become big girls who can't deal with the sexualisation of their bodies.

The boys are so sure of who they are and their identity, our girls are hiding behind cute names for their cunts.

Waiting for the outcry against that one! But mine is a vulva, vagina or a cunt and not in a derogative way, we should own this.

It is OURS!

We use "tinkle"

@ncnewbaby

Oh God. I already anticipated the 'vagina' replies. I get there's nothing wrong with the word but I would rather use a more childlike term when they're babies/toddlers. Looking for any other terms.

My 2yo calls it a vulba. Because she can't say vulva. That's child like.

You obviously think there's something wrong with the word if you don't think it suitable for a child to use. Examine why you feel that way.

Children in families who use anatomically correct words and are open about age appropriate sex information and talking about their bodies are less likely to be victims of sexual abuse because they're harder to groom.

Bottom or bum isn’t anatomically correct either surely yet most of use would use that? I say ‘bits’ but I have friends who use almost all variations with kids of a similar age.

Nobody needs to use the word "vagina" for babies and toddlers, even if you are using "proper" terms, why would you need to? If you want to use vulva, then go for it.

@kierenthecommunity

god forbid something happened to your child (sexual assault or inappropriate touching) and they tell a teacher that they've been touched on a insert childish name for vagina how do the police or you know exactly where the touching has happened? Muffin could mean anything etc

Because the story of the child telling their teacher that uncle so and so licked their cookie, and the teacher did nothing are obviously true.

Not that I have any objection to children using the correct terms, but I think the police would figure out the context if needed

It's to reduce likelihood of the abuse occuring in the first place. Children who's families talk more openly and use the correct names are less likely to be victims of abuse. Surely we all want that.

Are you referring to the outer vulva (the bits you can see) or the internal vagina though (the tube the leads to the womb)? You need to make sure you at least get the twee daft name attached to the right bit.

There’s a thread on AIBU right now about what you call farts (as apparently one can’t say fart in front of a child).

We use the anatomical names, just vulva so far as she doesn't need to know what a vagina is at 2.
Not only does it ensure your daughter knows exactly what her body parts are called and lessens embarrassment about her own body, it actually helps from a safety aspect and as a preventative method for abuse.

It's willy and fanny in our house.
I'm factual with what everything does though.

I think you mean vulva. Unless you are truly referring to something that is internal and can't be seen (vagina).

I struggle with this because I know the importance of using the correct anatomical terms and I loathe euphemisms for this sort of thing (see also the maddening parallel thread about farts).

But I hate all the words. I hate vagina -- hate the way it sounds. It sounds like an unpleasant medical procedure and it also rhymes with Regina which somehow makes it even more awful.

I also hate fanny and obviously you can't use cunt with a small child (although actually that's the one I find least offensive). Pussy is so porny. But foof and whatnot are absolute twee and front bottom is so British.

I've told my DD its vagina and she still uses front bum. I know I ought to correct her but the words are all so fucking appalling I can't get past them.