Word for vagina?

[ncnewbaby]

Parents of girls, what word do you use for vagina? I have a baby girl and can't remember what we used growing up!

Anatomically correct words. So what you actually see is the vulva.

@Jojobees

Vagina. It’s already got a name. We don’t think of euphemisms for any other body parts.

Don't you? I do. Tummy, bum, bounce, boobs, arse, willy, balls are all words we used. We also used poo, wee, fart. I usually called vulva or vaginas girly bits and I can't think of a single time we needed to be more specific. I don't see the issue as long as the kids know the right word. One of my kids is on their way to becoming a gynaecologist so I presume I didnt make them too uptight by not calling vulvas and vaginas all the time. Incidentally they say that they often use diagrams or 3D models when they are taking with patients.

Fanny

Muff.

A furry tube you put your hands in to keep them warm.

Was always a Minnie growing up!

@Sciurus83

The right words. I mean no one can tell you what to do but there's extensive evidence from experts on why and it's posted here. It's not just another opinion or point of view, it's evidenced expert opinion. Ignore that if you want but it's not the same as saying oh we don't like froo froo in this house so we use minny. It is awkward at first but it gets easier. There's a great word for people who try and belittle evidence and expert views as "wokeness gorrrn maadd", cunts. Now that's not appropriate for children but it sure comes in useful later.

The example of cookie is obviously going to cause confusion though, never heard it called that. Front hottom, bits, privates any adult that a child disclosed to in this country would know to ask for further explanation. If you feel comfortable with the correct name fine, my daughters came up with front bottom themselves ( probably cordoned onto what their little friends said as I'd never really had the need to call it anything when they were little

Surely fanny is a rude word?!

indeed.
Unless they say mammary glands, digestive system, flatus/intestinal gas etc.
Humans are not just anatomical beings. They are also social and political beings. Saying a child not being able to call her vulva is someone a cause of abuse or makes persecution hard is a traditional approach that puts onus on victims not perpetrators

I would like to be pointed to the research that shows using anatomically correct names helps with safeguarding. Does it stop abusers? If police don't know how to investigate a case when a child says someone touched their whatever name they use then it's on the police not parents. Ditto social services or justice system. It will just be an extension of sexual assault victims not being believed rather than a child using the "wrong" name. Just look at the number of unbelieved women with obvious signs of trauma and semen on them. It's not because they didn't say Vagina or vulva. Let those who want to use vulva use that and those who want to use euphemism use them. Neither should stop safeguarding

Clarity is important but it’s ridiculous to assume that only the full anatomical word will do. As PP said we use abbreviations commonly for other body parts - eg/ bum, tummy, boobs - it’s perfectly fine to use a clear, understandable colloquialism for vulva/vagina.

I have a DD and a DS. Both know the anatomical words but we don’t use them. DS was fairly easy - willy and balls works well. For DD, a lot of the common slang words seemed a bit twee so we just settled on “girl bits”. Simple but effective and pretty clear too.

There tends to be a very snooty tone towards anyone who uses anything other than the anatomical words - and it’s completely unnecessary. My child is not at any more risk than yours just because she refers to her genitals as girl bits rather than vagina.

Do you mean for your child to use it? Wee wee...I wouldn't use vagina...unfortunately we live in a world where hearing vagina...people start salivating... I'm talking about abusers...

Fanny is a rude word here!

Call it what it is ffs

30 years ago we called it front bottom and back bottom ..or sometimes I'd day make sure you wash your bits ...
I guess I'd say vagina now ...

FWIW, I always used the correct terminology with my kids, it meant there were no issues if for example they had to explain to a teacher that they were in pain etc. If you have a word that is only used in the family it might cause confusion to others who are in loco parentis.

Actually my son has an ASD and insists on using the correct terminology.

I used vagina and penis because there is nothing shameful or wrong about any of our body parts.

Another reason is when I worked in a nursery a boy said to me his she she hurt. I didn’t understand what he was referring to. I had to ask him to show me and he took me into the bathroom and stood in front of the toilet. I guessed that his penis hurt when he went to the toilet to pee.

After talking to his mum at the end of the day she explained that he called his penis she she because of the sound of peeing.

What if it turned out to be something more serious and I couldn’t figure out what he was talking about?

Some kids hear another person use the correct terminology and are shocked and say that’s a bad word or naughty word. No, it’s not a bad or a naughty word. I think it’s not healthy for kids to associate bad or naughty with any part of their body.

And this has nothing to do with being pc or woke.

@Helpstopthepain why did you teach your dc to use the word “cunt”? That’s awful.

Also, most women in this thread say they’re using “anatomically correct” terms, but they’re not. It’s vulva, not vagina (which is only one part of your vulva). Do these women use words like bum, bottom, boobs and willy? Because those aren’t the “proper” scientific words either. If a girl said her “bits were hurting” then I’d know what she meant.

@Trixiefirecracker

I don’t understand people not calling it what it is. I mean you don’t have another word for nose do you, it’s just a nose.

Do you mean rhinal?

A vagina is a vagina. A penis is a penis. You don't need to give body parts daft euphemisms. Just use the correct anatomical term. It's 2021 for goodness sake. Nobody is going to faint if your child uses the medical term for a body part.

@Mybalconyiscracking

Vulva is an ugly, ugly word. Don’t care if it’s anatomically correct.

As opposed to "front bottom"? I've never heard that anywhere but on here. It's an awful word.

Use the right terminology. Your daughters need to know for reasons already stated on this thread.

I've learnt something new today. I would have had no idea what a vulva was (probably would have thought it was a car). We've always just said bits in my house but can't say I've ever really needed to talk about it.

I'm a grown up and I can't use words like vulva or breasts, let along teach them to my children. It seems so clinical.
So shoot me.

I don't understand what's wrong with vulva, labia, vagina etc..

Not anatomically naming things correctly makes talking about things awkward. The use of euphemisms gives a subconscious message that genitals are difficult to speak about.

Genitals, sex and sexuality should be something we should be able to discuss freely. It's mad that a significant percentage of women can't name their own reproductive organs because of this nonsense.

How can you speak to a healthcare professional about your genitals if you don't have the correct words for them?

This is a good article if anyone is interested.

kidshealth.org/PrimaryChildrens/en/parents/teach-about-bodies.html?WT.ac=p-ra

I've seen my GP recently about a bulge on the posterior wall of my vagina. Which is exactly how I described it to her in a pre-examination consultation. I think she knew what she was going to see before she even had a look (it's a rectocele), it's really important to be aware of your own body. And that includes knowledge about what your anatomy is, what it's called and what function it serves.