DP wanting to take baby out without me

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Baby is 4 weeks old. A few times DP has mentioned taking him out without me. Example today he wants to take him to his brothers, I suggested he calls in here instead but it's just caused a bit of a row. I am not ready to be separated from him and I have explained this to DP but he seems to think I'm being ott. It's not that I don't trust him, I do 100% and he's great with the baby but I just don't see why he seems to want to take him places without me so much, there's been a few occasions where he has wanted to. He says he wants to be able to parent him without me 'hovering around' all the time. He keeps asking how long before I will allow him to do this, I really can't give an answer to that. Am I being ott?

I understand both of your views.

However don't let this go on so long that he doesn't feel confident to take the baby/toddler anywhere or parent them alone.

Can you compromise and start with the baby and their dad in another room for half an hour or so where he feels he has some bonding time with his baby? Or a 20 minute walk whilst you do whatever you like?

I am a lone parent during the week I don't know if you meant it this way but a partner working away is very difficult. However it isn't comparable with being a single parent at all as you have someone to share the excitement/worry/whatever feelings, finances with. And then you have another parent and partner all weekend.

The way you phrased that almost makes you sound like you resent being alone for so long with the baby. But then you don't want to leave the baby with their father to have a rest either.

@AveryGoodlay she just said she was alone in the week. In the week means not at weekend so why point that out? Also, sounds like she resents that how?

Gosh I’m horrified at how much gaslighting has gone on in this thread. This woman has a brand new baby and is feeling vulnerable, asking for support and she gets an onslaught of vicious replies. It’s disgraceful

I can't be bothered to read all the ridiculous posts here - I have had a flavour, and that's enough!!

I have three children, all grown up now, but there is no way on God's green earth that I would have been separated from them BY ANYONE at a mere 4 weeks old!! I never could understand mums who left their babies for sleepovers at just a few weeks old. Fair play if that's for you, but I could not bear to be parted from my babies in the first few months!!

Trust me, there will be plenty of times to come when you will be glad of a break, and for your partner to take your baby out without you, but OMG at 4 weeks post-partum, you are still full of pregnancy hormones, and NO-ONE, not even the father of your baby, should be allowed to interfere with that!!

Hottbutterscotch I was giving my opinion on how it came across to me. If you don't want people to offer opinions, perhaps consider this may not be the internet forum for you.