Oct/Nov babies - finally earthside! ❤

[MyGrassIsBrowner]

Welcome earthside little ones! 🌍

It’s my third 🤯 and my first two were very quick haha (couple of hours) so I’ve been told to go at the first twinge. Problem is I’ve been having twinges for over a week!!! Thank you though

@Kittyswhiskers Oh my gosh!!! Okay I can understand your anxiety now 🙉 I'm sure you'll make it though, did you go early/overdue with previous pregnancies?

I was a day over with both!

I know they’ve moved me forwards this time by a couple days so I’m hopeful 🙏🏻

Hey ladies, how's everyone doing this weekend?

I had my bloody show this morning but had a little bit of fresh bleeding too so I'm sat in hospital waiting to be checked out by the doctor. I think it probably was just part of my show but the midwife recommended being checked just in case. I can't even get excited about the show meaning anything now after waiting for this baby for forever and a day 😴😂 please send labour vibes!!

@mooloop Omg hopefully it's nothing sinister love and things are on there way FINALLY!!!! Strange I was going to tag you in a message today to see how you were getting on!
Sending labour vibessss!!!!! C'mon baby! X

@MyGrassIsBrowner thank you! All fine and baby is apparently showing no signs of being near according to the doctor 😂🤦🏼‍♀️ unreal at 8 days overdue ffs!!

I'm now getting worried that if my body/baby is completely not ready now, induction on Thursday might fail. I think I'd rather go straight to ELCS than that but I know the doctors are unlikely to want to go with that

@mooloop if I were you and it gets to induction day that you'll try the pessary for 24 hours and if no real progress made after than your want a section . That's what I would do in terms of an induction you know your body and if baby is ready or not x

@mrssunshinexxx thank you, I wondered if something like that was possible. Have you had an induction/CS previously?

It's such a minefield as a FTM, I've had the induction booked in but other than my own research online I've been given absolutely no information at all by any medical professionals about what will happen! I really don't want to put myself or baby through a long induction process just to end up with an EMCS

@mooloop if it consoles you, with my induction baby was not ready at all. Theys truggled to put the pessary in as my cervix was so high in fact. But 12 hours later I had it removed due to complications (not inductionr related) and it has already got me to 3cm and started labour naturally so it can work!
I would just say don't read the horror stories in here, noone goes out of their way to talks about the good labour and inductions so it will onyl worry you. The induction part of my labour was fine - it was the the lack of pain relief becahse of my babies heart rate which made it feel traumatic to me but that could have happened anywhen.

Sending all the labour vibes for you! Can't wait to finally have a complete set of babies 🤞🏻😂

@MyGrassIsBrowner how is Macy and the reflux now hun? any improvement with the new milk

@Juicytoot287 thank you so much for that, it does help! I hate all the unknowns so much!

Wise words from @mrssunshinexxx. You'll read tonnes of horror stories on here regarding inductions, but I would say there is always a higher chance of induction not being successful for first babies.. they can be really stubborn it's as simple as that! If it helps, my planned section was amazing and my recovery has been super fast, granted, first few days you are understandably sore, but by around day 5 you wouldn't have thought I'd just had major abdominal surgery!! Would be nice if things progressed naturally for you though!

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@Juicytoot287 sorry pressed post too fast 🙈
Macy is doing loads better on the Hipp formula now, but she's just not a happy bunny when she's awake, she hates her bouncer and being on her back 😂 she only seems to be happy laid on me! Typical!
How's your little one doing and how are you??

@mooloop I had emc last June with my daughter it took me 26 hours to get to 4cm and was in agony as she was back to back and the epidural failed once it got to that time they started pressuring about putting me on the drip because of risk of infection but as the epidural wasn't working properly and knowing from reading on here that the drip is brutal I thought no chance. So asked for a section and went pretty much straight down for it. I'm 40+2 today and hoping for a vbac I am booked for a planned section on Thursday as I have read the risks etc of going too far overdue with a vbac increasss risk of rupture which I'm already nervous about I am speaking to midwife tomorrow about potentially being induced instead but all they would use on me is the pessary again because it's a vbac labour. I am having my third sweep tomorrow and if there is no change from the last 2 sweeps starting a fortnight ago I will opt for section over induction if my cervix is still closed.
Sorry that was long hope it helped

Thank you for sharing @mrssunshinexxx, I hope you get your VBAC 🤞🏻 x

OK just had a big fat sob in my bathroom. I feel so upset that my body just can't seem to do what it's supposed to, it's really knocked me having the doctor cheerily say baby is "nowhere near" when I'm 8 days overdue already.

I feel doomed to have a bad birth experience and feel like friends and family are judging me for still not being able to go into labour naturally. I know that's probably just me being ridiculous and hormonal but I can't help it!! I'm sick of hearing "oh wow you're really overdue now, X went into labour a week early!" stories and I can't hack the constant "how you feeling? Any signs of baby?" Messages. I actually want to punch them all 😂😩

All of this has really zapped the excitement out of meeting my baby which I'm so ashamed to say and couldn't admit to anyone in real life urgh sorry for the depressing ridiculous rant!!

Thank you @mooloop I hope you get a smooth birth and soon like tomorrow for both of us ! I would block or put phone on airplane mode honestly you need to try keep oxytocin up. Are you doing all the usual myths to bring labour on ? Sorry if that's an annoying question! I took my toddler to feed the ducks this morn i was literally hobbling down to town my pgp so bad but I want this baby out then I cleaned the bathroom top to bottom and then washed my hard floors on my hands and knees and all it gave me was 5 very mild braxton hicks over dinner 😳 can't be arsed

@mrssunshinexxx I've been doing literally everything I can think of to no avail, so I feel like giving up and slobbing about feeling sorry for myself now til I'm induced tbh!

Trying to hide from DH that I've had a cry, even though he's great and would be lovely about it 🤦🏼‍♀️😂 urgh I just feel so down tonight.

@mooloop I went overdue with my first 6 days, I remember that being the most hideous part of my pregnancy, it was awful. There's absolutely no shame in feeling totally fed up. Now, if you want my honest opinionf I had known more about elective c-sections back then, I'd have gone for a section over the god awful quick labour and delivery I ended up having! I came away with tearing and a prolapse which may require surgery in the future. I do my pelvic floors religiously but when the menopause hits things can change drastically down there. It's so hard to know what to do though as labour is so unpredictable! Xx

@mooloop @mrssunshinexxx have you both tried the ol' hanky panky? 😉 haha I'm not being funny either.. if anything will bring on labour it's sex.

I had two sweeps and then DTD and then I went into labour the next day. I had cramps all throughout the night and I just knew things were happening! Obviously I know it doesn't work for some but if you can face it, puuuuleeeez, give it a go! X

@mooloop Absolutely no reason to be ashamed. All through my labour people kept saying "you'll meet your baby girl at the end, just think " But I couldn't. All i thought was - I just want this to end as it was so painful (again, due to lack of pain relief and being very much a wuss with any pain anyway). But as cliché as it sounds, when she came out I went from caring about my body and my pain to utter bliss and just holding and staring at her. No matter how hopeless or angry you feel right this moment - it can all change in an instant when you get your time!

Secondly, I agree about sex. I am not into anything mythical and what not but there is actual science behind sex inducing labour so definitely worth a go provided your waters haven't gone.

I know it seems forever but labour can change in a flash, especially with our firsts and its hard as we don't knownthe signs our bodies will show us with it being our firsts as well. Your body isn't failing - the opposite actually. It is doing exactly what it needs to so you baby is happy and content. Induction, section or natural - you WILL meet your baby and get your day! Thats what you can cling to. And you know that if you go too far, there is an eviction notice up your sleeve if you wish. You are in control of this, as much as it feels the opposite. Sending lots of hugs virtually x

@Juicytoot287 is absolutely right. Every single word!

@MyGrassIsBrowner yeah we have a couple. Times in the last week but TMI he doesn't finish inside as it's just too fast/ uncomfortable on bump every position to get that momentum up 😂 and I think it's the actual semen you need inside for impact isn't it ?!

Hi, sorry about crashing in on your thread and conversation but just wanted to offer my empathy @moolop and to anyone else in a similar boat.

My son is now 4 weeks old but was born at 42+5 and those last few weeks felt like the longest of my life! Passing my due date gave me all sorts of emotions - disappointed in my body, frustration at others around me giving birth before me, lonliness feeling like the only pregnant woman left on earth, exhaustion from constantly telling friends and family baby is still not here, feeling under pressure to be induced by consultants and midwives.... I could go on.

My best advice would be to remember that firstly, "due date" really should be called something else because a normal pregnancy length can be 40-42 weeks, plus due dates can be off anyway. Your baby isn't really "late" until after 42 weeks. Constantly referring to a due date throughout pregnancy caused me loads of stress and when it came and went and I still had no signs of labour, I felt totally lost and upset. Your baby WILL come at the right time! (Sorry, you've probably heard that loads). I'd just about lost hope after 42 weeks thinking I was never going to go into labour but I did - and baby was completely healthy, only 7.1lbs, no signs of being "overcooked". My pregnancy length was probably longer than usual, most ladies will go into labour before 42 weeks but turns out my family all carry late - my Mum had all 3 of us around 42 weeks and my Dad and his siblings were born between 42-43 weeks. My neighbour was due a month after me and ended up giving birth a month before me - I wanted to punch her at the time 😂😃

Tell your friends and family you'll update them when you have news. Just focus on doing you. Watch some funny films, eat tasty food. Cry, rant and let it all out!

Wishing you the best of luck!

Sweep just the same had a huge cry just can't be arsed got my pre op for section tomorrow midwife said I could ask for induction on wed before planned section on Thurs (they will only give me 24 hour pessary with it being a vbac ) just feel like
If cervix is still completely closed at the top what's the point ?! Do I just go with elective and enjoy the pros of it and cry about the recovery later

Sympathies to anyone overdue! I had my baby 3 weeks ago at 12 days overdue, had to be induced as I had an "unfavourable cervix" and his head wasn't engaged. I had 2 rounds of the gel and then went on the drip. It already feels like a lifetime ago. You'll get there and be cuddling with your little bundle of joy before you know it.

My little boy is 3 weeks old tomorrow, I can't believe it. He's a great little dude, we've had a fair few sleepless nights together (thanks to cluster feeding) but we've had a lot of good nights too so keeping the fingers crossed for another good one tonight!