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Completely lost my sh*t with my toddler. Feeling awful.

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Mybobowler · 15/10/2021 12:01

I'm heavily pregnant, exhausted and struggling.

Took almost-3 year old to dance club this morning, after which she had a very public meltdown because she didn't want to wear her shoes. She was refusing to walk, screaming at the top of her lungs, and kicking me every time I went close. I had several shopping bags and I really can't carry her anymore, I'm going to do myself an injury. In the end, I had no choice and I had to pick her up and carry her. I had to put her down several times on the way back to the car but the tantrum continued, so ended up carrying her the whole way. I've hurt myself.

I started off calm and patient completely, but eventually completely lost my temper. I was rough picking her up (maybe inevitable to a certain extent, when you're trying to pick up a dead-weight, screaming toddler, while heavily pregnant and carrying several bags) and I really yelled at her in the car. Home now, and I can't stop crying. I feel guilty for losing my temper, guilty that I'm still so angry (she's over it now, obviously) and absolutely terrified that in a few weeks, I'm going to have to manage this sort of behaviour but with newborn in tow.

Feeling like a comprehensively shitty mother. God knows what all of our spectators thought, watching that little display. What a mess.

Not sure why I'm posting. Please be gentle.

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Mammma91 · 15/10/2021 20:23

Bless you OP, I’ve been on the receiving end of a screaming toddler in public. My DS has utterly humiliated me sometimes in public! Give her an extra squeezey cuddle tonight and forget all about it. These things happen Flowers

immersivereader · 15/10/2021 20:31

Ouf it's fine, we've all been there. Such a tough age.

immersivereader · 15/10/2021 20:32

Sometimes I think it actually works to let them know when they've massively messed it up

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Embracelife · 15/10/2021 20:51

Of you have a husband let him take her
At least he can do the shopping or do online
You shoukd not need to be doing shopping and toddler
If in no hurry
Wait it out
She won't tantrum forever
Sit nearby and wait silently

moita · 15/10/2021 21:07

You're human. Forgive yourself

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