Defensive parents - iPads

[Imbarb]

Why do other parents get get defensive whenever I say I don't give my 2 year old an iPad? 🧐

Anyway - note to self - do not buy my child an iPad or you will become trapped in a battle with your own thoughts and get defensive of your choices against parents who chose different paths!!

Oh god OP this is hilarious

@Imbarb

How I 'sound' anything is beyond me because you can't hear my tone. I can only assume despite me telling you that I am not judgemental and you assuming all sorts of scenarios, that you've lived these situations.

Anyway - note to self - do not buy my child an iPad or you will become trapped in a battle with your own thoughts and get defensive of your choices against parents who chose different paths!!

Peace ✌🏼

Yeah, you sound like a twat. Do you do "tinkly laugh" too?

OK, so we’re definitely landing in the ‘completely socially inept’ camp for you then, OP. Oh, and you obviously are as stupid as you look, even though I was trying to give you the benefit of the doubt earlier on that point, too.

Your posts say a lot about people respond to you the way they do. Slight hint but it’s nothing to do with the iPad!

It won't just be about ipads that you'll be getting people's backs up, it'll be your general lack of tact about all sorts of things.

'Peace ✌🏼'

Are you sure you're not the 15 year old? .

It can't be easy having your weak social skills pointed out by lots of people and it's understandable that you are feeling defensive and not wanting to admit it, but hopefully you'll take it on board if you want to get on with people better.

You made a direct connection between your daughter's speech and iPad use. That's being judgmental. Hardly factual!

The fact that everyone who points this out is labelled defensive just speaks volumes of you as a person. It's not even about the iPad anymore, it's about your inability to recognise how rude you are. Definitely makes you the entertaining one 😂😂🤦🏼‍♀️

It can't be easy having your weak social skills pointed out by lots of people and it's understandable that you are feeling defensive and not wanting to admit it, but hopefully you'll take it on board if you want to get on with people better.

Yes, exactly. You are getting defensive in response to criticism, exactly as you say that others do!

OP, on the offchance that you genuinely don't realise how obnoxious you sound, please reflect and learn from this thread. It will help you build better relationships.

You can still judge other parents as much as you like in private - we all do it sometimes, though it's usually best to recognise that everyone's circumstances are different - but it's best to keep those judgments to yourself. You don't have to broadcast to the world what an amazing parent you are. The world doesn't need to know.

Lots of angry mummies online

There's a fair few blinkered smug ones too.

You should try saying you have absolutely no limits on screens at all, that you think they’re a valuable useful tool and both your 2 and 4 year olds have a phone and iPad. That triggers not so much defensive reactions as horror and criticism.

Honestly my only opinion would be that you’re denying your child joy and if you could afford a tablet/TV I’d feel exactly the same as if you said ‘thankfully she’s not into books yet’ or ‘I don’t buy toys because I want her doing something productive’. I’d feel completely differently if she herself was offered iPads as an option and didn’t like them.

OP you are the gift that keeps on giving hilarious. Thank you!

Another one for 'smug'. And I'm bit defensive because I have neither children nor an iPad. You're a job's worth. HTH.

and I replied 'I have nothing to compare it to other than I guess she's not yet glued to an iPad

Hmmmm, you really can’t think why other parents would give you the side eye?

@Imbarb This has clearly been posted because OP somehow mistakenly believes that not allowing her child what other children has, makes her somehow superior! When in reality, when child progresses through primary school, she will be classed as deprived and have the school offering the loan of devices. Especially since Covid, with homeschooling.
DD's school do regular questionnaires to work out which children have what. Children who don't have technology access, are listed as vulnerable

Lots of angry mummies online 😇
Oh my fucking God

@GreyhoundG1rl

Lots of angry mummies online 😇 Oh my fucking God

IKR. Sexist, patronising, smug and twatish all in one short phrase. It really is a great example of English use. Saying so much with so little.

Hi op.. I hope you have a lovely day with your no technology life style and forcing your child to wear a fashionable Boho turban and eating sauté scallops and samphire for your tea... Sorry... Supper...and listening to the sounds of whales and panpipes before bedtime.. Because you're clearly better than all of us...

@MNWorldisCrazy I taught in a primary school until recently and I can assure you we wouldn't class a child as vulnerable because they didn't have an ipad at 2. Thats nearly as ridiculous as what OP is saying. Until covid there was absolutely no requirement or recommendation for under 5s to have access to any kind of devices at home although we do use them occasionally in school in early years. There are far too many children who are genuinely deprived for schools to be classing children as deprived and vulnerable despite evidence to the contrary, just because their parents choose not to give them access to a tablet.

Just to be clear my older kids have laptops and ipads, and I use them in school, and will probably start letting my younger kids use them at around 4 - they have lots of benefits and I'm not against them at all. But what you said is completely untrue in any school I've ever known

Your first comment sounds judgemental and I say that as someone who’s DC didn’t have iPads until 8 years plus. Most of the DC I know who had them younger had additional needs.

@Imbarb

How I 'sound' anything is beyond me because you can't hear my tone. I can only assume despite me telling you that I am not judgemental and you assuming all sorts of scenarios, that you've lived these situations.

Anyway - note to self - do not buy my child an iPad or you will become trapped in a battle with your own thoughts and get defensive of your choices against parents who chose different paths!!

Peace ✌🏼

Oh dear OP 😂😂

Lots of angry mummies online

Jaysus 😂

Anyway - note to self - do not buy my child an iPad or you will become trapped in a battle with your own thoughts and get defensive of your choices against parents who chose different paths!!

I don’t know - it might help you get your head out of your backside if you had something more interesting to look at.

[quote ShinyGreenElephant]@MNWorldisCrazy I taught in a primary school until recently and I can assure you we wouldn't class a child as vulnerable because they didn't have an ipad at 2. Thats nearly as ridiculous as what OP is saying. Until covid there was absolutely no requirement or recommendation for under 5s to have access to any kind of devices at home although we do use them occasionally in school in early years. There are far too many children who are genuinely deprived for schools to be classing children as deprived and vulnerable despite evidence to the contrary, just because their parents choose not to give them access to a tablet.

Just to be clear my older kids have laptops and ipads, and I use them in school, and will probably start letting my younger kids use them at around 4 - they have lots of benefits and I'm not against them at all. But what you said is completely untrue in any school I've ever known[/quote]
All the children at our school without access to technology have had to have laptops loaned to them and live in poverty

@MNWorldisCrazy surely they had laptops loaned to them due to hone learning though, I gave up work prior to the pandemic and it certainly wasn't standard practice then. And there is a huge difference between having zero access to technology and having a tablet for a toddler - pretty much everyone I know is somewhere in between