Nov/December babies 2020?

[Kj1010]

New thread I've started incase the other one has filled up and no one has started

I think I need to find a group for my lo as I do think he gets bored he is yet to meet another baby lol but where I live I dont think there is any groups like still cant go to have baby weighed as clinics are only open for the vulnerable children as hv told me on phone last week doctors still only doing phone call appointments so to think there might be baby groups open is doubtful I mean I have 4 kids and have never been to one as me and my sisters all had kids around the same ages back then so they always had interaction but this time being 42 and having my gorgeous boy there isnt noone I know really and I must admit I find it hard to make friends and would feel embarrassed going to a class if I'm honest dont no y

@kkr168 she was born 22nd Nov. Time is flying by and I know! I couldnt believe it either she stayed with dad then when I kept saying 'I'm mum, that's dad' she started saying mum. She mainly says it when she's upset and wants me to pick her up.

@Kj1010 the classes are definitely up & running, all the ones near me have to be booked in advance & you have to pay up front for the term. You might have missed out on the current term but the next one should start in 3-4 weeks, it would be worth booking asap to guarantee your spot & by then more restrictions should have been lifted. Don't be embarrassed, there's a whole mix of ages that go to the group I attend.

@tigerbreadandtea we moved our LO at 4 months, but don't have much advice unfortunately, sorry! He was napping in his room since birth, so when he outgrew his bedside crib, we just decided one night to leave him in his room overnight and we've all been having much better sleep since.

We also have the Stokke Tripp trapp second hand (from eBay). We've been using it with the newborn set and it's been great, looking forward to swapping to the baby set soon.

@Asianchick6693 that's amazing she's saying her first words already! My LO was born just a day before yours but I definitely think he's nowhere near talking haha. He has started to roll back to tummy this past week though and now we can't get him to stop! Annoyingly, he can't go the other way yet, so we spend all day turning him back as he gets stuck on his tummy and then cries 😅

How do your little ones sleep longer stretchers of at night? My boy is put to sleep in his cot at 8 pm. Have to go up to the bedroom at least 10 times to settle him until he sleep til his next feed which 11pm. My boy is restless sleeper always moving about I don't think he sleeps. His awake every hour of the night. His is 20 weeks old. I'm exhausted.

His a shy baby doesn't go to anyone he screams bloody murder when someone is interested in catching his attention or picking him up (in laws and parents).

Help :(

Hi everyone, sorry not posted for ages....great to hear how everyone is getting on with sleeping, feeding, socialising etc...where on earth does the time go, Quinn turned 6 months on Sunday!!

We've been weaning for about a month and it's going really well. She absolutely loves her food so we started with some veg purée at lunch (now followed by a small amount of yogurt or rice pudding etc and some fruit purée) and just this last week she's had baby porridge in the morning with a little bit of fruit purée.

She's been sleeping in her own room for 2 weeks now and we've been helping her learn to self settle to sleep as I was feeding to sleep before that and it's gone really well. The past two nights we just put her in the cot, gave her kisses and cuddles and said goodnight and she fell asleep on her own within 5 minutes with no crying. Honestly if you'd have asked me a month ago if I thought this was possible I wouldn't have believed it!

Best of all tho was our first baby massage class this week on Tuesday. She was just mesmerised at seeing all the other babies and being somewhere new and I got quite emotional really seeing her reaction! Our poor lockdown babies have missed out on so much I'm so glad things are opening up now and they can start to experience the world a bit more xx

@SABDELLAHI I was having similar issues with my little one too. I joined a Facebook page called 'Getting Your Baby to Sleep' which has been super useful. It's run by a sleep consultant and she hosts loads of live Q&As and training sessions to discuss sleep issues.

I think you might need to consider teaching your little one to self settle or 'sleep training' them as it's often called. There are lots of different techniques that you can use, not all of them need to be about leaving your baby to cry for hours, but this is a skill they need to learn and helps them to connect their sleep cycles (which stops the frequent wake ups) xx

@Asianchick6693
So good to hear that you're doing well.
Welcome @tairbear.
I still can't believe how fast time is going.
Nice for things to.come back to normal. A few outdoor groups have opened in our area recently.... buggy walks, mums and baby groups... a meithrin group (a welsh little nursery group). I haven't actually been to any yet! I do need to pull fingers out.
Swim groups are also starting, but my 2 eldest want to come swimming with us so I've held off for a bit. I prob won't do the whole baby lesson thing there.
Glad you're all doing OK.

@NaomiB79 thank you. I will definitely check the Getting Your Baby to Sleep.

How do you take away the pacifier? I think that's what keeps him awake all hours at night. I don't rock my baby . His in his cot with a pacifier and he will fall asleep with it without needing us to sooth him. But I want to get rid of it as I have to wake up every time to put it back into his mouth at night.

Has anyone baby been scratching their ears like crazy ? My boy has scratched and scratched his ears until they are bleeding. He does this all day and night. It keeps him awake at night. I have called the GP their general response is his teething. GP is not seeing patients yet including babies.

@SABDELLAHI We had a similar issue with our little boy until we went cold turkey at 4mo and took his paci away for a week. Mind you, he was already falling asleep without it occasionally so we knew he was able to do it. He was however still struggling some naps/nights, so after the week we decided to give it to him if he's still crying 10 mins after putting him to bed. More often then not he goes to sleep easily without now :)
Not sure about the ear scratching, could he have an ear infection? They're super common in babies and often tricky to spot.

On a different note - has anyone travelled with a baby before? We have a 2h flight followed by a 3h car journey booked in two weeks and I'm terrified, so any advice would be very helpful! Will be just me and baby alone, he's 5.5 months.

@SABDELLAHI my little girl doesn't use a pacifier but from what I've read I think @Yellowbeansontoast's advice is spot on. It's a sleep association so your little one won't fall asleep without it until you break the association (teach them to fall asleep without it). I'm no expert but that forum is helpful. We had a similar issue in that nursing to sleep was the only way my little girl would settle so I had to work on breaking the association. It was tough but it's made the world of difference now. Good luck, hope you find a solution that works for you xx

@SABDELLAHI forgot to say I was also told by my health visitor that the ear pulling is a sign of teething. My little one does it when she's teething but also just when she is tired xx

We have been going to hartbeeps and loving it. I feel like baby didn't miss much in those early months but now she's older she's way more interactive and it's nice to be able to go to classes.

@Yellowbeansontoast how is your little one doing ? How are the nights with the baby? Yes I will need to go cold turkey on him hopefully after Eid. We are all exhausted. My boy has always been a poor sleeper. It's why we introduced the pacifier for soothing him to sleep. Due to pandemic no visitors and being first time mum is was so hard. I couldn't take the crying from 6pm to 10 pm every single day until he was 4 months and then the sleep regression hit. Pacifier was a big help but now I got him used to pacifier and I have to take it away. Which is going to be so hard.

@NaomiB79 thank you ! How is your little one doing ? When do baby's teeth come through?

Has anyone got a bedtime routine without giving a baby a bath and is in bed at 8pm?

@SABDELLAHI I completely understand that, we struggled with bad reflux which is why we introduced it originally. But eventually, we got to a point where we felt it was doing more harm than good as it kept waking him up when it fell out! Nights for us are pretty good - he usually sleeps 7pm-7am with one or two wake ups for feeds (one around 8/9pm and one 11/12am). Although the last few nights have been awful, he's been up every 1.5-2hrs 🙈 not sure if he's teething or the fact he's started rolling over or something else completely 🤷

@SABDELLAHI my little boy has somewhat of a routine, we do the same thing before bed every night so he know his bedtime cues. He is up atleast 2 hours before his bedtime at 8pm. Mine hates the bath so he sits in his baby bath seat and we use the shower on him, he bizarrely loves that! I'm lucky, I have a fairly good sleeper. He is 5 months and 2 weeks, he generally self settles to sleep after a feed and cuddles. Some nights he will wake up once for a feed anytime between 2am and 6.30am, other nights he will sleep all the way through till 8am occasionally even 9am. I think he has high sleep needs like me so sleeps a lot (I'm grateful and hope this continues).

@tigerbreadandtea Mine loves Hartbeeps too, thank you for telling me about it! He is fascinated with the other babies and is just a little sponge taking everything in. He recognises 'Row, row your boat' now and will smile as soon as I start to sing it.

I'm actually looking to sign him up to a second baby sensory class too, it'll keep us both busy and I can hopefully meet more people.

@SABDELLAHI We removed the dummy about a week ago now, cold turkey & it was so much easier then I thought it would be. I think we depended on it more then he did!
I got him an Ollie the owl (for white noise) & have been using that since removing the dummy, his sleep has improved so much. He would be so unsettled whilst sleeping, searching for his dummy constantly, now if he starts moving Ollie the owl automatically starts playing white noise & he settles straight away.
We don't have a set bed time routine, he has a bath every other day, he tends to sleep 7-7, waking twice for a feed, occasionally he wakes just the once.

I agree, when I used to give the dummy if Elsi woke, i would be up and down more giving it back to her when she lost it. I've not been giving it to her at all recently.... to be fair, she hasn't really woken and needed resettling.... but she has been a thumb sucker since very early on so settles herself this way.
In this last week, I wake to find her completely 180° to how I put her down!!

Guys I am so so tired and drained today my lb did not settle very well last night kept waking like every 5/10 minutes and i dont no why I'm just so drained today cant be bothered to do anything at all

@Kj1010 oh no.... growth spurt? Teething?
I hope you haven't done anything today and just relaxed best you can. When you're up all night, it's exhausting isn't it?

We’ve been going to baby sensory and my baby girl loves it. I’ve also enjoyed having somewhere to go and even tho the Mara you sit on are spaced out it’s nice to chat to other mums too.

I’m still EBF and have t left baby for longer than 45mins but tomorrow I have to take my older daughter somewhere that isn’t practical to take baby so we going to try my mum having her - for 3hrs!!! I haven’t had much spare time today and the only chance I had to express milk I only got 1oz so going to have to try first thing tomorrow but will feed and feed her before I go and have a carton of formula just incase.

I love seeing my baby grow and develop but also feels a little sad to think she is no longer a tiny baby. Have started using pushchair seat and today said to partner we will probably have to pack away the carrycot soon and it did feel a little emotional!

@Jwl45 he defo teething as he constantly putting hands and anything in mouth dribbling is terrible he gets literally soaked red cheeks biting down etc and growth spurt I'm not sure he is 22 weeks on Monday he was a little restless last night but my oh dealt with him so I could sleep as I had to get up early to get my daughter to judo training so that was nice just not having to deal with him tbh

@Pinktruffle glad to have helped. Has anyone else already been asked about having their second baby, if this was your first born? I am shocked! I just politely smile and say I have my hands full as it is.

How are others feeling about their post partum bodies? I'd like to lose half a stone, I didn't put loads on but I have definitely gained on my hips and stomach.

Oh gosh really @tigerbreadandtea?! I haven't been asked yet but I have been thinking about it, I'm 38 this week so know I need to get a move on but I feel like I want to wait atleast a year yet. I don't know if it'll be possible as I had IVF to have my boy. I have to wait till at least November as I had a C-Section.

My body is ok, I haven't weighed myself yet but I'm back in my old clothes though my bottoms are all a little snug. About an inch above my scar is bothering me though, it's numb since the section and it feels as though feeling is slowly coming back and its uncomfortable. I've been doing scar massage which I think has encouraged the feeling back but I'm not consistent with it.