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Would you allow 9yr old to buy Gucci?

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mamatocaptainchaos · 16/02/2021 14:21

My son loves fashion. He always like to look good bless him.

Anyway; he wants to buy a Gucci fedora hat which is £150. He has saved up £200 from pocket money.

What are you opinions on this?! Partner says it's up to him! I think it's madness 😂

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Hoppinggreen · 16/02/2021 16:21

@TatianaBis

Here's a chance to teach him you don't need designer tat to look good.

My son bought a fedora in a shop in France for a fraction of the price. I have to say it did look brilliant. But a Gucci one would not have looked better.

So support his desire for a fedora, educate his desire for designer nonsense.

But he wants a Gucci Fedora specifically
QueenOfPain · 16/02/2021 16:22

*lid

EthelMerman · 16/02/2021 16:22

He’s saved up for it, you should let him buy the hat and with the expectation that he looks after it and that you will not be replacing it if he lets it get damaged.

I struggled with this when Eldest wanted to buy some in-game items for a game on his phone. But his dad was of the view that we should let him learn to make his own decisions about money.

I do still express my views if I think something is a particularly bad purchase but once I’ve said my piece I also try to step back and let both DSs make their own decisions. And now they’re teens if they want something they know to save up for it.

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IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 16/02/2021 16:23

Yes. Mine are free to spend their pocket money and any gifted money as they choose. If they save for a bigger item then they learn the value in saving for things you want.

chasingmytail4 · 16/02/2021 16:23

@mamatocaptainchaos, I can totally relate to your dilemma. When my youngest was about 12 he asked for a Gucci item for Christmas. I just don't 'get' designer wear and couldn't bring myself to buy it, but was mindful that his siblings were getting the presents they asked for. We compromised. I gave him an amount of money and promised a shopping trip to a Gucci outlet shop in the new year. I encouraged him to choose something he wouldn't grown out of. He spent £150 on a belt. £150!! I would be unlikely to spend more than £15 on a belt for myself. Four years on that belt is still loved and worn regularly. I can't even remember the gifts we gave his siblings. Maybe you could suggest similar to your son, he will get more for his money in an outlet store (when they open again), and he may love that hat for years. If he doesn't, he will know not to waste his money in future.

Lalliella · 16/02/2021 16:24

Is he Manny from Modern Family?

I would say no. There are plenty of other ways he can learn the value of money without squandering such a huge sum. Plus designer gear is a bit emperor’s new clothes really. A con.

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user1469544430 · 16/02/2021 16:26

To those saying he is shallow to be sucked in by fashion, isn't he wiser to bypass fast fashion and buy something that will actually retain some value? Yes he could buy 100 primark items with that money - crap that would end up in landfill.
Also he saved his own money for it ffs.

LivingOnTheVeg · 16/02/2021 16:26

I’m more shocked that a nine-year-old knows Gucci! I think I was still after Barbie jeans at nine. Blush

Wellthatwassilly · 16/02/2021 16:26

Absolutely not. What a ridiculous idea. I wouldn’t spend £150 on a piece of branded fashion tat for myself, never mind a 9 year old.

You need to ask yourself some serious questions about the shallow, superficial materialistic values which this child has evidently been taught. Poor kid.

Why are people so nasty on this site!!

TatianaBis · 16/02/2021 16:26

This people that don’t get fashion just don’t get it and might as well have lot commented

Who says people don't get fashion? I love clothes, I've worked in fashion to some extent - modelling when I was younger - vile world - but didn't dim my love for clothes.

However I would still not allow a 9 year old spend £150 on a Gucci hat.

If you're investing money in a piece of clothing it needs to be something that will last. That's what I teach my kids.

If I spent £150 on a hat it would be a classic I can wear for 10 years. Children's taste changes with the wind. That's why it's a waste of money.

StealthRoast · 16/02/2021 16:28

Also i allow my dd (10) to embrace her own identity and style and she chose several items for her recent birthday that I would never have chosen for her- namely 2 bucket hats ( which are huge at the moment ) one is pale blue and one is a frog one in green and she totally loves them. She was given a limit and chose all of her presents on Amazon and I just paid for them.

Gone are the days when I could pick and choose what she wears. I try and remember what I was like as a little girl of the same age and the same for her big brother who is almost 18 though he is an angel compared to me at that age.

Phphion · 16/02/2021 16:28

If he's into fashion, I would steer him away from the Gucci fedora simply because its fashion moment is unlikely to last beyond this summer at best. In the fashion world, there is nothing more tragic than last year's fashion.

Fortunei · 16/02/2021 16:29

Where does 9yo get the idea of fashion brands? Who's influence is there? And how come £150 is acceptable for a 9yo to spend on an unnessesary item.
There are a lot of worrying signs there.

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mamatocaptainchaos · 16/02/2021 16:30

@Fortunei worrying signs? 😂😂 utterly ridiculous.

Some of these comments are totally unreal. I can't believe it!!

What an earth am I readying, it's so funny!!

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Enb76 · 16/02/2021 16:31

If he has saved up the money for it then I would let him - it's a learning curve. I wasn't allowed to buy a particular coat with money that I had saved up myself instead of spending it each week on fripperies and I have never forgotten the injustice of it.

ThatsGoodCakeLove · 16/02/2021 16:31

@fortunei
Worrying signs?Confused

Ahmnotacat · 16/02/2021 16:31

No, absolutely not. And he clearly has too much pocket money and too much free access to online influence.

TatianaBis · 16/02/2021 16:31

But he wants a Gucci Fedora specifically

He thinks he does.

But clothes don't have to be designer to look good and make you feel happy. That's something many women learn with age.

If he wants a fedora because he likes the style - then another fedora will look just as good. If he wants a Gucci one because it has some magic glamour to him - that is an illusion and he may as well learn that now.

intheenddoesitreallymatter · 16/02/2021 16:32

Tbf, after a quick google they have an excellent resale value on ebay.

I would, because if you tell him no then he'll never save up again!

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mamatocaptainchaos · 16/02/2021 16:32

Again; who are you to say we give him too much pocket money?

Some of these comments are outrageous!

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intheenddoesitreallymatter · 16/02/2021 16:33

If it's the straw one please may I have it when he's done?

42goingon90 · 16/02/2021 16:34

I would not allow my child to buy a fedora, Gucci or not.

Sparklingbrook · 16/02/2021 16:35

I would let him. It's his money, he can buy what he likes.

TatianaBis · 16/02/2021 16:35

@42goingon90

I would not allow my child to buy a fedora, Gucci or not.
Good lord why not?
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