Would you allow 9yr old to buy Gucci?

[mamatocaptainchaos]

My son loves fashion. He always like to look good bless him.

Anyway; he wants to buy a Gucci fedora hat which is £150. He has saved up £200 from pocket money.

What are you opinions on this?! Partner says it's up to him! I think it's madness 😂

It's not a fedora- I got it wrong. It's a bucket hat. Not sure if that's better or worse 😂

As he's the one doing the saving up I would say yes, let him buy it. Bless him. My 8 year old saves up for toy tractors, he's not into fashion at all. Learning to save is a great life skill.

I think your ds he saved for it and really will not regret buying the hat then it’s his money, his choice.
Life is tough enough at the moment and it’s just a hat. Let him have it.

@mamatocaptainchaos

It's not a fedora- I got it wrong. It's a bucket hat. Not sure if that's better or worse 😂

Worse, by a long way.

He will look Straight Outta Compton.

@LivingOnTheVeg and @Fortunei

I have just asked my 8 year old if they know what it is, despite it not being something either myself or my partner are into and his words "its overpriced clothes and tat, a pair of dirty sneakers can go for up to £1000"

I would guess the tat part is from me at some point.

Fashion is not evil

Of course not. At that age, and as a teen I was drawing, spending hours with my Granny's old Vogues and making clothes for my dolls and later for myself.

Having a ubiquitous Gucci had indicates an interest in labels, not an interest in fashion.

I would let my son.
He's saved his money, it's his money. And if it does get ruined/lost then it's a valuable lesson in taking care of your stuff!

Learning to save is a great life skill.

Yes as is not falling for consumerist pressure.

If it is his own money that he has saved up then I think he can buy a ridiculously expensive hat if that's what he wants. It isn't harming anyone. Tell him your concerns that it might get ruined or he may regret it etc. And if those things happen it is a lesson to him for the future. But I think the fact that he has managed to save £200 is good self control, and clearly he is able to manage his money which is great for a 9 year old

@Fortunei

Where does 9yo get the idea of fashion brands? Who's influence is there? And how come £150 is acceptable for a 9yo to spend on an unnessesary item. There are a lot of worrying signs there.

Where does a 9yo get the idea of Fortnite? Who's influence is there?

Lots of kids spend their money on things like Robux and Vbucks.

So what?

As it's his pocket money he's saved up, I don't see the difference between spending £150 on a hat and him having spent a fiver a week on sweets, comics and fortnite widgets or whatever over the last few months and it would be a good illustration/lesson about saving up for bigger treats compared with spending his money as soon as he gets it.

However, it's probably also worth talking about how designer items aren't necessarily better just because they are more expensive and if he spends all his money on the hat, that's all he has and if he loses it it's gone. Plus he might grow out of it in a few years.

Maybe try to encourage him to get into more 'alternative' brands which are still interesting/different, but far cheaper than ostentatious ones like Gucci. WHat's his reasoning? Does he just like the hat, the brand or does he see it as an attractive brand.

What would he rather have - the hat or £100 and a cheaper but still very expensive hat?

Lots that you could talk about with him, before you say no simply for the reason that £150 on a hat is ridiculous unless you're very well off. It could be a phase, or it could be the start of him having very expensive tastes that's going to cause him difficulties with prioritising and money management for decades to come, unless he gets a very high paying job.

hat

I am guessing YouTube and roblox.
This is more worrying than the hat tbh. It sounds like you’re not monitoring his internet usage which is imperative especially at this age he could be exposed to all sorts.

Ah, seen the link now. Not a fedora but still looks like he'd be tipping it and saying 'm'lady' to innocent women in the street.

@1940s

Spectrum and ADHD drip feed as usual

What do you mean by this? ‘Spectrum’

However, if he thinks he's wearing it out to play he has another thing coming!

He wears it under Mum's supervision alone!

@42goingon90 😂😂😂

I'd let him if he's a big hat wearer. It's hia own money and he won't outgrow it too fast. But if he didn't regularly wear hats, I'd push him towards something like a belt or wallet

@TatianaBis

But he wants a Gucci Fedora specifically

He thinks he does.

But clothes don't have to be designer to look good and make you feel happy. That's something many women learn with age.

If he wants a fedora because he likes the style - then another fedora will look just as good. If he wants a Gucci one because it has some magic glamour to him - that is an illusion and he may as well learn that now.

Lots of kids want the brand name stuff.

They want a Barbie. Not a Barbara.

They want a Smiggle pencil case, not an Asda own brand.

www.ebay.co.uk/itm/Genuine-Gucci-Bucket-Hat-Size-Large/265050337000?hash=item3db63b2ee8:g:Th8AAOSwuldf~Hsv

OP, this is new with tags and only £51.

@SmallPrawnEnergy why is that worrying?!

Roblox- you can buy Gucci clothes for the avatar
YouTuber's- because they wear it!?

How am I not monitoring his online usage?

If it really makes you sleep better at night, I can check every single thing he searches, every website he goes on and for how long. I think I am monitoring it thank you!

Hi OP.

I think it is relevant how much pocket money he gets because if got all this money in the last week from birthday, topping up a lot from Christmas and only really "saved" a couple of weeks of pocket money in a pandemic when it's hard to spend it anyway then my answer would be very different to say, his birthday was last summer, and he has steadily saved up since then.

The other thing that comes to mind is, did he identify this as a savings goal? Him": I want that hat mummy". You: "you'll need to save up for it then"....If so, this is great parenting not a fail at all!

If he has accumulated the money recently and is just looking to spend it because he has it, I wouldn't let him. To me it's the equivalent of looking through an Argos catalogue and just picking nice shiny plastic things when you're 5.

You dont learn the value of money from people stopping you spending your money. You learn the value of money by buying a £150 hat you have saved up for then regretting it or losing it or even loving it and being happy that you spent the money on it. Kids need to experience things to learn its his money let him buy it whatever happens after will be a life lesson one way or another.

A hat isn't something you outgrow, so from that point of view there are worse things he could buy.

I don't spend much on clothes - even my wedding dress didn't cost £150 - so it's not a purchase I would ever understand but if it makes him happy and you are confident it's not a whim he will regret within a couple of weeks, why not?

They want a Barbie. Not a Barbara.

🤣🤣🤣 Brilliant.