Would you allow 9yr old to buy Gucci?

[mamatocaptainchaos]

My son loves fashion. He always like to look good bless him.

Anyway; he wants to buy a Gucci fedora hat which is £150. He has saved up £200 from pocket money.

What are you opinions on this?! Partner says it's up to him! I think it's madness 😂

@Soontobe60

Does he want it because it’s Gucci? If so, then he’s a victim of advertising telling us we can only be cool / look good / be popular if we buy a particular brand.Sad that a child has been brainwashed in this way.

^ This.

Have you actually asked him why he wants it?

@TwelvePaws

A 9 year old doesn’t work and has no true value of money. Plus designer items at 9 honestly I would be interested to hear what OP child wants in 3 years time.

But he has saved up. My kids only learnt the value of money once they were able to make their own decisions, good and bad. That’s how they learn. And if he wants more in 3 years time, if OP won’t buy it, he’ll have to wait and save for the items. It’s a good thing for children to save money for something that they want

Exactly this.

@Sumwin1

But the 9yo has saved up and is buying this himself.

People buy 3 year olds iPads and nobody bats an eyelid... nobody comments and says things like the 3 to has no idea of the value, and it will be interesting to see what they want at 6!

A 9yo saves up for something and spends his own money on something he's wanted for some time...OMG WON'T ANYBODY THINK OF THE CHILDREN???

It's a bloody awful hat but yes, I would let him. My kids can buy what they want with their pocket money, it's their money.

My dd turned 10 a few days ago and this is like something she would do. She chose to spend £45 on some in game thing for one of her favourite games. It’s her money and she doesn’t need a thing so why not?

If the op’s ds has saved his own money up and wants to buy a designer hat ( that he will presumably wear? ) then I wouldn’t have a problem with it. I buy my dc expensive items of clothing and they treat their stuff very well.

My first instinct would be to say no. But in a way if he's saved it up by not buying other stuff. It's a difficult one. On the other hand if I was a relative and though my Christmas /birthday money was going towards a £150 hat for a nine year old I wouldn't be pleased.

@HerNameIsIncontinentiaButtocks

Also... Fedora. Just no. It's a total incel type cliche nowadays, and if he does get it he'll he horrified when he finds out.

I don’t think a 9 year old needs to worry about judged for being celibate. What a weird post

Hell no.

I would think I'd utterly failed as a parent if my 9 year old was so shallow.

@raspberrycoulis
How on earth does that make him shallow?

@Soontobe60

Does he want it because it’s Gucci? If so, then he’s a victim of advertising telling us we can only be cool / look good / be popular if we buy a particular brand.Sad that a child has been brainwashed in this way.

Errr..

Fairly sure every other kid wants to play Fortnite/Smiggle stuff/Lego/bratz dolls/Barbie/FIFA/Disney etc

The majority of kids are victims of advertising telling is we can only be cool/popular if we buy a particular brand or item.

Some will always be more aspirational and seek to better themselves

That is true, but wanting a Gucci hat is not an example of "seeking to better yourself".

@RaspberryCoulis

I would think I'd utterly failed as a parent if my 9 year old was so shallow.

Your child covets nothing?

If he really wants it and you know he will take care of it then I don't see the harm, it's his money. If he gets bored of it I'm sure you could make a few quid back on ebay.

I would think I'd utterly failed as a parent if my 9 year old was so shallow.

Oh ffs. The other way of looking at it is that you could feel proud, a little lad has wanted something and saved up to buy it. Good for him. And it doesn’t mean he’ll want to buy designer brands forever. How many adults are still into the same things they were into at age 9. 🤷🏻‍♀️

DS is nearly 9 and if he asked I would say no, but purely because I know it would get damaged, on the other hand he is saving up for an expensive lego set he really wants (over £200) which I know he will look after and stare at and use.

If you think he will look after it and explain that by taking it out, he is risking it being nicked and to look after it well, I would

very, very young to have been suckered into the evil of fashion.

ask him if he thinks Gucci wears a hat with your son's name on it.

Fashion is not evil

Here's a chance to teach him you don't need designer tat to look good.

My son bought a fedora in a shop in France for a fraction of the price. I have to say it did look brilliant. But a Gucci one would not have looked better.

So support his desire for a fedora, educate his desire for designer nonsense.

@murbblurb

very, very young to have been suckered into the evil of fashion.

ask him if he thinks Gucci wears a hat with your son's name on it.

9yo are suckered into all sort of "evil" things.

Ever heard of Fortnite?

@ThenCatoJumpedOut

Fashion is not evil

Fashion is the sister of death. Leopardi

@RaspberryCoulis

I would think I'd utterly failed as a parent if my 9 year old was so shallow.

That’s quite nasty and unnecessary

FFS, these comments are infuriating OP. I don’t know how you’ve kept your kid on. We’ve had every possible slur on your family/parenting/child/social class etc.

This people that don’t get fashion just don’t get it and might as well have lot commented.

The OP has explained her son has ASD and is currently very into fashion and researching designers, etc. This is lovely and the world of fashion (high street/fast fashion aside) is absolutely fascinating. The catwalks with beautiful clothes, how they develop their collections, the wonderful rich history and the people they’ve dressed in the most amazing outfits you’ve ever seen in your life, it’s not shallow or lower class or being advertised too or any of that. It’s a legit passion and might develop into a career for him, not just some hat he’s seen on a kid at the bus stop.

My grandma was born in 1930, went to university in Paris and later to one in Sheffield to convert to teaching, she worked as a head teacher in a school throughout her working life and was a fierce feminist, who taught me all about misogyny and the patriarchy, and some of my fondest memories are of sitting in bed with her on a Saturday morning looking through all the papers and magazines at celebrities clothes and how wonderful some of the outfits were. Fashion is wonderful.

Can he afford it?
Will it make him happy?
If yes then let him

@TatianaBis

Here's a chance to teach him you don't need designer tat to look good.

My son bought a fedora in a shop in France for a fraction of the price. I have to say it did look brilliant. But a Gucci one would not have looked better.

So support his desire for a fedora, educate his desire for designer nonsense.

Designer clothing, whilst not an interest or desire of mine,isn't nonsense...