Rushing to move baby into their own rooms or to sleep on their own...

[Safesleeping]

I've seen so many posts recently about putting babies in their own room and such a young age so the parent/s can sleep better. So many comment "my baby makes to much noise at night" "my baby needs to learn to sleep in their own". Its so sad, your baby needs and wants to be around you, there is the 6month rule for a reason.

Why do you really need to push your baby out at such young ages? Did you not think about these things before having a baby? I really hope nothing happens to these babies that are being put into their own rooms because mummy needs more sleep...

@Megan2018

Totally agree *@Safesleeping* Mine is still in with me at 14 months.

I hate the way so many people on here frame their babies as “problems to be fixed”.

Eh? I've never read any post that has done that? Can you give an example?

What I have seen lots of (which is not surprising since this is a forum for parents!), is parents asking for advice on how to solve problems that they have with aspects of having and caring for a baby. This is not the same as saying that their baby is a problem that needs fixing!

I hate the way so many people on here frame their babies as “problems to be fixed”

You make it sound like anyone who posts on here asking for advice is cold and uncaring

I'm with you OP. Guidelines exist for a reason. I didn't move my first Dd out til 10 months and my current newborn will probably stay in with us a lot longer.

Bibabbles: Situations many may have thought of as safer - even medically recommended (front and side sleeping, anyone?).
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That's a blast from the past? When mine was born, 41 years ago, all mothers were told to put babies on their fronts and most of us did! I remember mine used to put one cheek to the .... whatever, pram or mattress. He didn't have his nose and mouth obstructed and his legs were tucked up, bottom in the air. Now that is frowned on for young babies though once they roll over they often do it themselves.

How ideas change!

I'm actually learning a lot of new info reading this thread,and I'm shocked. I didnt know my baby was supposed to be in the same room as me while napping. I didnt do that for the first six months, my babies were always left in a separate room to nap!

I didnt know my baby was supposed to be in the same room as me while napping

They are not! It's just current "guidelines", which actually are different in every country in the world. They aren't "supposed" to be anything. I feel so sorry for mums today, far too many "rules and guidelines". Just makes the whole experience way too stressful, when the risks are minute. I put mine outside in a pram for most of the day if the weather was good. That's "supposed" to be good for them too.

I agree with you op

It's not actually guidance to be in the same room while napping, nowhere says that, it's just on MN people go on about it.

What has been pointed out by one of the big bodies (Lullaby Trust I think) is that SIDS risks apply to all sleeps, not just overnight sleep, which is fair, and if you can have them in the same room as you then fine, we generally did at that age. I would not go and shame a mum who needs to put her 12 week old somewhere separate from a rambunctious toddler sibling, for example, or who wants to get on with some jobs popping in and out of the room her baby is napping in. Or, god forbid, have a nap herself, using a monitor so she hears when the baby cries!

Gosh OP.
My mum put me into my own room the day I was born and was proud of it.
Is she a shit mum?
Maybe guidelines change with the times?
They might change again maybe? Ever thought of that one?
Current parenting style now might well be considered shit in the future. So why not use your brain - if you have one - and just do what feels right to you, and stop getting off judging other people.

@BertieBotts the NHS advice is same room for all sleep - naps and night sleep - til 6 months

www.wchc.nhs.uk/content/uploads/2019/12/SaferSleep_0-3months.pdf

Ok here we go. Who puts forward an opinion or guideline? Even a professional is just a person with an opinion who decides it should be the rule, then every one blindly follows.
Both mine went into their own rooms at 6/8 weeks after I could no longer breast feed. It had nothing to do with 'mummy needing more sleep' but two other reasons.

1. Up to that age a baby has no idea where it is sleeping and doesn't even know it's in parent's room. Keeping it much longer in your room means it knows where it is and who else is in the room, therefore when it is moved it will experience a sense of abandonment and very possibly fear. This will lead to even worse sleepless nights and if previously sleeping all night you can kiss that goodbye. Being in it's own space that it is used to from the start means no disruption to sleep pattern.
2. Being disturbed cuts both ways and a baby is more likely to be disturbed by the parents snoring, sex or even movement and is probably why it wakes in first place.

As for tragedies, they can happen wherever the baby is and if you are sound asleep you will not know if a baby next to you had stopped breathing.