HELP!!! Should I report this mum!?!?!

[ilovemydaughterx]

So.. I really need the help of other mums please!!

I follow a girl on Instagram who’s from my town who does vlogs and videos her everyday life. She talks to the camera and just lets her followers know what she’s doing, her tidying, cooking and looking after her two children aged 2 and 5.

She seems like a lovely person but the way she speaks to her children and about her children is horrendous. She swears at them, calls them names, says she hates them, they’ll be crying about falling and she’ll just look at them with disgust and tell them to go away, and has said (I quote) “I’ve sent them to bed at 5 because I hate them and I just don’t want to be around them”. Then films herself drinking 2 bottles of wine EVERY night, getting drunk while waiting for her boyfriend to finish work. And threatens not to feed them tea and gives it to them late if they’re naughty.

But what I think is the worst is she was telling the camera about how she’ll be performing oral s*x on her boyfriend that night in a VERY detailed and vulgar way... WHILST HER 5 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER WAS SITTING ON HER KNEE WITH HER!?!?!

Being a parent myself this just does not sit right with me at all... am I being ridiculous? Should I report it? Would anyone else report it??? I’m by NO means judging her parenting! But it’s all day, everyday and seeing how she swears at/about them is awful.

Here you go...
nottinghamshire.familyservicedirectory.org.uk/kb5/nottinghamshire/directory/site.page?id=wZM5nwSK1K0

Here is the details of the people to call in your area.

Lovely person
Why not name her on this thread? It's not like you have any loyalty to her, and it's not like she'll know who you are. If this is all true then why wouldn't you say?

I’m amazed at the police. Surely they have to pass it on to SS even if it doesn’t reach the police threshold for action.

Call social services OP, it breaks my heart to think of children being mistreated in this way. Why did she even bother to have children if she hates them?!

This kind of abuse can cause lifelong problems for children, despite this the police probably don't care because they can't prove anything illegal but a social worker hopefully would see what's going on. The Instagram page alone would be enough I would have thought. My worry is if that's what she's like when the world can see, what happens when she isn't filming.

Yep, ring social services

Why not name her on this thread?

Lots of reasons. One is that it would effectively out her children, who have a right to confidentiality.

Oh wow OP, that police reaction is awful.

I’d also report to social services. There may not be anything ‘illegal’ per se that the police can act on but social services will hopefully see the bigger picture.

You are judging her parenting and that isn't a bad thing. It's fine to judge someone badly, when what they are doing is in fact bad. We all make judgments of people every day, I've no idea why it's suddenly such a bad thing.

As others have said, I think you should call social services about this family if the police won't help. Keep a log of every incident you observe.

What’s her account?

I can't believe this thread is still going!

So they're suggestion was for me to unfollow her so I don't have to see it. I'm so shocked honestly...

So, stop watching the abuse?

I bet there'll be a new "vlog" on how shocked she is to get a visit from the police

Yea absolutely

Of course you should report to childrens services. You don't need us to tell you.

This is disgraceful and of course should be reported.

Police officers know eff all about this stuff. Their main role in child protection is to remove children from the home when a social worker tells them to. All the investigating is done by childrens services.

There's a bit of this about isn't there? Jokes about mummy drinking in the afternoon and moaning about the kids etc. The unmumsy mum does a bit of it and some of it's quite amusing but this person has clearly gone way too far. No common sense and probably without realising it she is abusing her children. The sad thing is most of it she will be doing or saying just for followers. I would report her

Wow. That puts my guilt about occasionally shouting at my kids (eg if they've drawn on the walls) in perspective...I would be paying a visit to a police station and showing them.

Sorry didn't see your update. The police reaction is not great at all. I'd ring social services as others have said

Report to social services. The behaviour of the mum is sickening.

I am thinking how has she gone so long without being reported

Because of the 'you can't judge other people's parenting' culture'. And let's be honest, that has flourished on MN. I've seen all sorts of shoddy 'you can't judge unless you've walked a mile in their shoes' defences of dodgy behaviour. Posters often get jumped on for any suggestion of judging. I can understand why OP thought that would happen.

Those children are being abused. Please report it.

I also think you should put her name on here.

Oh FGS! Do not put her name on here. People asking you too just want to have a nosey at her Instagram and salivate over the grottiness of it all.

FFS, don't post names. That will put you in more trouble than her! plus it will rightly get deleted.

Use the proper channels as you have been doing. You want this properly investigated, not a trial by social media.