HELP!!! Should I report this mum!?!?!

[ilovemydaughterx]

So.. I really need the help of other mums please!!

I follow a girl on Instagram who’s from my town who does vlogs and videos her everyday life. She talks to the camera and just lets her followers know what she’s doing, her tidying, cooking and looking after her two children aged 2 and 5.

She seems like a lovely person but the way she speaks to her children and about her children is horrendous. She swears at them, calls them names, says she hates them, they’ll be crying about falling and she’ll just look at them with disgust and tell them to go away, and has said (I quote) “I’ve sent them to bed at 5 because I hate them and I just don’t want to be around them”. Then films herself drinking 2 bottles of wine EVERY night, getting drunk while waiting for her boyfriend to finish work. And threatens not to feed them tea and gives it to them late if they’re naughty.

But what I think is the worst is she was telling the camera about how she’ll be performing oral s*x on her boyfriend that night in a VERY detailed and vulgar way... WHILST HER 5 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER WAS SITTING ON HER KNEE WITH HER!?!?!

Being a parent myself this just does not sit right with me at all... am I being ridiculous? Should I report it? Would anyone else report it??? I’m by NO means judging her parenting! But it’s all day, everyday and seeing how she swears at/about them is awful.

What part of her seems lovely????

I’m by NO means judging her parenting!

Of course you are. That’s exactly what you should be doing. She’s abusive!!

Call tomorrow!

Meanwhile see if you can save some evidence!

The children are being abused, you can 101 tonight or tomorrow morning. Police have better powers with social media also so they can look in to her pages and accounts. They will also investigate any reports of child abuse.

Schools aren't even running properly so I wouldn't bother contacting them. You could also and or do social services in the morning stating you reported it to the police and give a incident number from the 101 call.

Is there any way you can screen record some of the stuff so you yourself have evidence of it in case she deletes it and there's no proof ?

Yes definitely report to either Police or NSPCC. I'm not one that normally says report things, but this sounds vile.

Welcome to MN. In the future remember that we're not normally soft here and like to say things as they are - abusive bitches and all.

You surely can’t be the only person concerned about this though, if this has been happening as you describe?

As in, others may have already reported, so you will be backing up the information already given ?

UPDATE:

SO, I've just got off the phone to a gentleman from 101 and it's been reported to Nottingham police. I have an incident number and I'm going to send them screenshots and recordings of things she's been putting on Instagram. I'll definitely be able to sleep better tonight knowing something has been done.

To everyone asking why I said "she seems lovely".. I'm sure you all know what social media can be like, and I'm new to this app so I didn't know what back lash I'd get if I were to write what I wanted which would've been "she's an abusive mother who's neglecting her beautiful children and needs them taking off her". So please don't have a go asking why I wrote that. I just didn't want people having a go at me for slating this girl :)

I love wine, but the rest?? Call whatever child protective services you hve available.

I've had to do it once as a mandatory reporter. Very nerve-wracking. I don't think anything came of it, but I was glad I did it so it was on record.

*have

@Samtsirch You'd think so wouldn't you, but she's not changed her actions whatsoever. It's so shocking that almost 2,500 people are still applauding what they call "honest parenting" Grrrrr

@ilovemydaughterx

Sorry about the ugly posters.

With my experience, they asked me for objective observations, but never had to send anything in!

You did the right thing!

And now you can sleep well.

@DamnYankee

I thought that's what they'd do to be honest, but they asked for as much detail as possible, name, Instagram account name, ages of kids, age of her, where abouts she lives etc...

Thankyou lovely x

Honestly DamnYankee did you REALLY think people on here would judge you for saying negative things about a woman who discusses ORAL SEX in front of her 5 year old!??

I can only advise you to learn to stand by your instincts more.

I wouldn't give a shit what some random internet users thought of me if I was going to say mean things about an abusive woman!

SORRY that was meant for OP not DamnYankee

I would follow through with social services. Until recently our neighbour's adult daughter was living back at home with her children and mum. When mum went to work (rotating shifts) very questionable types would come and go.

the children would be stationed outside the house and if anyone approached, would run back inside to report it. Sometimes those kids would be very talkative, other times not.

Word quickly got around that daughter was selling herself and selling drugs from home. She is already known to the police.

Recently I found a school chrome notebook thrown into our property and returned it to school. Had a chat with the principal who was aware community services were already involved with the family. He said the police were not very useful in following up on family issues with children, so it was better to log these things with (our version) of social services.

She has since had the children removed from her care and ordered to rehab. Her Mother is in denial over her behaviour, despite other family members speaking up.

I'm not saying these followers are any better or worse, but a lot of people out there just don't have a social or moral conscience, feel a lot of stuff is none of their business to do anything about, and maybe morally untidy themselves.

You did the right thing, but I would follow it along to ensure social services have been contacted.

@FortunesFave

Unfortunately because I'm a young mum I'm judged my strangers for EVERYTHING. So yes it is daunting but I've done the right thing. No matter what my instincts and morals would NEVER waver regarding anything to do with children or family or anything x

@expat101

Wow, that sounds absolutely awful! How parents and family could allow their daughter/children to be in that situation is beyond me. It makes me sick to my stomach. I'm so glad that something got done about it though! It's unfortunately rare where I'm from so I'm going to ask for updates frequently and send them anything new that she puts on x

*by

If she is drinking 2 bottles of wine every evening she definitely is not fit to look after two little tots. Let alone all the other stuff. Well done @ilovemydaughterx Everytime I see a post like this I think of baby P, Victoria Climbie and all the other little children.

God MN has gone downhill

Seriously?

@managedmis Unless you have something positive or constructive to comment on this post, please don't. If you read through the comments you will know the outcome xx

Take a video or videos of her saying stuff as evidence. She'll delete everything if she knows someone has reported her.

@Thornhill58 Luckily I have all of this and will continue to do so until it stops xx

Well done for caring. Poor little children.