HELP!!! Should I report this mum!?!?!

[ilovemydaughterx]

So.. I really need the help of other mums please!!

I follow a girl on Instagram who’s from my town who does vlogs and videos her everyday life. She talks to the camera and just lets her followers know what she’s doing, her tidying, cooking and looking after her two children aged 2 and 5.

She seems like a lovely person but the way she speaks to her children and about her children is horrendous. She swears at them, calls them names, says she hates them, they’ll be crying about falling and she’ll just look at them with disgust and tell them to go away, and has said (I quote) “I’ve sent them to bed at 5 because I hate them and I just don’t want to be around them”. Then films herself drinking 2 bottles of wine EVERY night, getting drunk while waiting for her boyfriend to finish work. And threatens not to feed them tea and gives it to them late if they’re naughty.

But what I think is the worst is she was telling the camera about how she’ll be performing oral s*x on her boyfriend that night in a VERY detailed and vulgar way... WHILST HER 5 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER WAS SITTING ON HER KNEE WITH HER!?!?!

Being a parent myself this just does not sit right with me at all... am I being ridiculous? Should I report it? Would anyone else report it??? I’m by NO means judging her parenting! But it’s all day, everyday and seeing how she swears at/about them is awful.

Fab work. To care is such a fantastic quality. Trust your instinct and grow in confidence. Hopefully the little kids will be safer in the future. 😘😘

Who can you report this to.. I don't know anything about Instagram and sheep people followers, and things... It is just so sad, that some people do all this kind of stuff on social media. There must be reasons why people post personal things, but can never understand why they do it.

1forAll74 loneliness and desperate need for validation because they don’t get it from elsewhere. Probably becomes addictive and so they switch off their logic and it becomes their desperate survival mode that pushes them to do things illogically.

I assume this mum was abused as a child or neglected severely.. turned to the internet for emotional support but doesn’t realize how awe full it is for her to be like this because all her life this was her norm.

However she needs therapy and her kids don’t need to suffer as a result. Someone needs to break that cycle and obviously it isn’t gonna be her . Authorities should

@Thornhill58 Thankyou! That's really lovely of you to say xxx

@1forAll74 I reported it to the police tonight on the number 101 (just in case other people in the UK want to contact them too). They have all details, a case number and I'm sending them evidence. I'll never understand it either. I'm just so glad I followed the account xxx

God that is absolutely vile. It breaks my heart I have a 5 year old beautiful little girl and she looks up to me everything I say and do she admires we talk about all the lovely things in the world rainbows and unicorns I try and make her childhood magical to think that her 5 year old hears that breaks my heart I could cry.

Well done OP. You did the right thing. Like o said you can follow up call to social services if you wanted and give them the reference number, those two agencies will link up.

With regards to a previous OP that said the school said the police were useless, I think that was a bit harsh. The police will document evidence, and if it goes to case conference the police will attend to give evidence if they have any. So they are not "useless" they just don't do the same as a social worker, but their input or perceived lack of it is not them being "useless" they just do a lot more behind the scenes.

She seems like a lovely person

oh yes, sounds like a gem

I’m by NO means judging her parenting!

why not? She's a shit parent clearly.

Glad you called but seriously, the fact that you had to get opinions is worrying. She's clearly abusive.

UPDATE!!

So I had a call from the officer this morning saying they've visited the girl and there was no signs of neglect for the children. However surely emotional and verbal abuse isn't visible to an officer who's at the house for 20 minutes??

So they're suggestion was for me to unfollow her so I don't have to see it. I'm so shocked honestly...

'She seems like a lovely person'

Really?

Right well that’s shite. Phone Social services. Tell them you have all the videos.

That's terrible, I would like someone else suggested contact social services and give your evidence.

I agree op; call social services. Neglect isn’t the only form of abuse ffs! I’m shocked that the police think that’s a reasonable response.

Your local authority will have a child protection officer. I think you need to take this further as it is abuse. Well done so far. Perhaps the police officer hadn’t been informed of the issues by his/her manager?

Call social services. The police may not be able to do much if there's no signs of abuse or neglect when they arrive, but social services will be able to keep an eye and keep reporting every time.

Unfortunately, often before anything is done there has to be concerns raised repeatedly.

Report again, to Social Services.

she speaks to her children and about her children is horrendous. She swears at them, calls them names, says she hates them, they’ll be crying about falling and she’ll just look at them with disgust and tell them to go away

Emotional abuse

“I’ve sent them to bed at 5 because I hate them and I just don’t want to be around them”. Then films herself drinking 2 bottles of wine EVERY night, getting drunk while waiting for her boyfriend to finish work.

Neglect.

And threatens not to feed them tea and gives it to them late if they’re naughty.

Emotional abuse and potentially neglect again.

But what I think is the worst is she was telling the camera about how she’ll be performing oral sx on her boyfriend that night in a VERY detailed and vulgar way... WHILST HER 5 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER WAS SITTING ON HER KNEE WITH HER!?!?!*

This is a form of sexual abuse.

I think you should. Not only is she being abusive, but she is neglecting her children by constantly posting online and telling them to go away. It stays with you for years being told to go away.
What age are they?

And god only knows what might be going on that she doesn't put on IG.

What's the Instagram account? I'll report her

Am shocked that the police don’t appear to be taking it seriously. Those poor children.

I would report to social services. That is disgusting parenting. Make sure you have the screen recording of her IG posts as she may now delete them.

My concern would be that the abuse will still go in but not be shown. She may just get better at covering it up

It’ll be interesting if she mentions the police visit on her Instagram. It’s very likely she will remove all the videos so make sure you have them all saved for social services.

I'd go to Social Services instead. Send all you have in an email.

I'd go to social services. Or do you know the local health visitor? I have a close friend who's a health visitor and she has to deal with this a lot

If a parent came into my school and told us, as teaching staff, that this was happening, we would be required to report it. Serious safeguarding issues there. Please please please report it. Local school they go to. Social services. NSPCC. Someone!

Those poor kids. It's heartbreaking.

Report to SS (number will be on your council's website) - but it is unlikely that anything much will be done, unfortunately.