Most of you are probably very nice, and yes, I have had support from some good people. But unfortunately there are too many people on this site with bad attitudes, probably a tiny minority, but they are the kind of people who who like to post without thinking about the stress that their comments can cause. I know that most of you are likely to be very nice, compassionate people. But the exceptions ruin it for me. Maybe I am too sensitive. But I am only human. And I do not bitch. Not ever. If I ever have, please point it out, as I am bewildered by that comment about me bitching. And if so I apologise.
Nobody knows more about how difficult being a mother can be. Some of you are single with a child. Difficult. Some of you are single with two. Even more difficult. Some, single or with a partner, have a disabled child, Very stressful and demanding.
Some of you have a partner and child or children but not much else in the way of support - inlaws, your mother etc. Not ideal.
Imagine for a moment what it might be like to be single with two children, with no family and few local friends, with old friends only visiting occasionally because of distance. Imagine what it is like to nto have had an evening out for 5 years.
Imagine having a child with an undiagnosed genetic condition which means global developmental delay and tube feeding which takes about 40 mnutes twice a day, on top of normal stuff. Imagine finding out that your child will never be normal. Imagine what it's like when at nearly 5 your child is like a 2 year old.
Imagine doing all of the looking after a child who is like a 2 year old, on your own, no partner, with a 3 year old boy as well. Thankfully with no similar genetic problems but with eczema which requires attention several times a day.
Imgine living in an area with very few local shops, where you cannot buy pull-ups. decent milk, fresh chicken, let alone anything as exotic as avocados (one of the few high cal foods my DD likes) without a long journey to another area.
Imagine not even being able to pop to a wine shop - even that has recently closed down. Not that I could just pop out to it anyway.
Well, if you have imagined well, you may have an inkling of what my life is. I am on my own, with two beautiful children, My DD has severe disabilities, but about to start school, and my DS is 3. We have no help apart from a homestart volunteer who comes for a couple of hours weekly. I don't drive (I know this will make some of you decide I am inferior) and local shops sell nothing really of use to us.
Because of my situation, I am depressed. Without antidepressents i cannot be sure how I would be.
I have been close to suicide at times.
I need to only use net forums where the posters are genuine and compassionate. Mumsnet is so big that it is inevitable that some less savoury people will join and post whatever nasty comments they like.
Obviously some of you think I am being too sensitive, and at least one of you seems to think I am also a bitch. I would be interested to see what examples she could show...
Yes, I am quite sensitive, I have a harder life than most of you could imagine.
Maybe if some of you could try to imagine how hard my life is, you would stop being so nasty.
I have to say most of the people I have encounterd on mumsnet seem fine,and some very supportive, it's just the minority that have ruined it for me.
By the way, if it is a reasonably common occurrence for mums to leave the site because of bitchiness, then maybe the people in question should realise what these forums are supposed to be about.
SUPPORT FOR MOTHERS.