Babies/toddlers not wearing coats when it’s freezing??

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Is it just me or has anyone else noticed any increase in babies/toddlers not wearing coats when it’s freezing out! What triggered this thread is a story Stacey Solomon put up ouT walking Rex today in a pushchair with no coat. I actually see it a lot! I was wearing a jumper, coat and scarf yesterday and still freezing yet I see mums holding babies in just a hoody? I think it’s because people are becoming more aware about not putting coats on in car seats but surely you should put one on when you take them out 🤨 really pisses me off

Well mine are always in coats because they feel cold but many many toddlers refuse coats. And sometimes if it’s a short journey it’s easier to take the coat with you than have a 15 min standoff about said coat. It’s never all that cold in the UK! (I have lived in the East Coast of the US- when it’s regularly -15 on the school run they do wear their coats).

Yes and no- I just had to go to the supermarket, the drs and the pharmacy/ the latter 2 each taking 2mins of time. Every time a coat off to get in the car seat - have to be honest by the pharmacy I just held her without a coat and ran in. Sure she’ll live

@HuloBeraal
That’s true, I have a toddler myself so understand they can be testing but in this freezing cold weather we’ve been having he’d be wearing it whether he liked it or not! And I also understand if your literally running inside quickly - different but to take babies and toddlers on school runs with no coats? Crazy! I just feel bad when I see them when I’m uncomfortably cold myself so they must be even colder!

If they were that cold they would either be crying or ask for their coats! When it was that cold (anything from -5 to -15 on the school run in the US) mine would voluntarily ask for gloves!

I don’t know many babies or toddlers that have enough of a vocabulary to ask for a coat .... im not talking about older children who know they will be cold if they chose not to wear one

I hate this - when you see them in a pram without a blanket/hat/gloves or anything and it’s bloody freezing out. I always feel like saying something like “aaw, I bet your cold!” In a passive aggressive manner! I wouldn’t though as it’s none of my business but no I don’t understand it either. It’s mean.

My DD has always been a hot baby. As a tiny one she would vomit when she got too hot. Now she just complains. She doesn't always want a coat and she'll make it very clear when she doesn't want to wear one. To be honest I think we overdress babies and toddlers in this country - I often see red-faced sweaty toddlers in padded snowsuits etc. Some kids just don't feel the cold as much.

It works both ways to be honest. A lot of people overdress babies as well. And my pet peeve is seeing babies strapped into car seats wearing massive coats/snowsuits.There is no excuse for no hat though.

when it’s cold enough that all adults are wearing coats/scarves, babies/toddlers should definitely have one if not more as they are generally stationary in a pushchair, I’m obviously not talking about mild weather.
I’m seeing it much more recently

@Purplequalitystreet agree and that’s where I think it’s come from, because they don’t put it on in the car, they just don’t have one at all, but once they are out the car they should have one on, if I’m freezing in my coat your poor baby’s freezing in just a baby grow

My DD is 15 months and refuses to wear a hat and pulls gloves off so I guess you'd judge me as a bad parent then

I think a lot of parents overdressed babies and especially toddlers. They do not need to be in a snowsuit when it is 10 degrees.

My toddler can't stand his coat. With my first I would tell him we weren't going out unless he had it on when it was cold outside. With this one I haven't the time for the stand off, so instead I put him in lots of layers. You would probably think he's 'only in a hoody', but he's bundled up underneath it. If it's raining I do make him have a coat on so he doesn't get wet and uncomfortable, but he is miserable from the moment I take it off its peg until it gets hung back up when we've returned home. I am sure there are people like you that judge me for this when they see us on the school run, but that's not important to me.

Okay, you can deal with my grumpy, pukey toddler when you've forced her into a hat and gloves just because everyone else is wearing them.

Why not trust that the majority of parents want the best for their children and know their needs better than you do?!

@frillseeking mmm no because I haven’t mentioned hats or gloves, and obviously that’s different if you’ve put them on and they’ve pulled them off

Wow didn’t realise it’s the norm for babies to go out without a coat, hat, gloves etc when it’s cold enough for you as an adult to wear one and obviously if a toddler protests it’s ok just let them freeze. My mistake

I have to say I used to really like Stacey Soliman but she is really getting on my nerves lately with her Mrs hinch type cleaning and organising

I don't feel the cold much and I often see some people dressed up like they are in a blizzard and others as if on a warm summers day. My son ran warm and at school preferred to wear shorts instead of long trousers even if snowing out. We would walk across a common to school and by the end he'd have taken off his jacket and jumper.
As a baby/ toddler I would wrap him as I felt appropriate but he'd soon protest and be pulling at his clothes, so I stopped wrapping him up so much. People would say something but I knew he was fine.
My daughter on the other hand liked being bundled up.

'Let them freeze' 😂
Slight overreaction! If you're so concerned perhaps ask all of these scandalously neglectful parents you encounter hauling their frozen babies and toddlers around with them
People have given you many reasons, all valid. Did you really not read them or are you choosing to ignore them so you can continue goading?

It's not just protesting, she pulls them off immediately so what would you suggest?

I think people are a bit quick to judge.
I took my baby out when he was about a week and a half old and some random stranger decided to tell me it was "too cold for babies!", even though my son was in several layers with a hat and a blanket.
I actually think he got a little too warm that day.

I'm very nervous about how warm my DS is when I take him out. I don't want him to be cold but I'm also wary of wrapping him up too much.
I could do without worrying about what random strangers think about it too.

DD takes after her dad and runs hot. It's just how she is made. The pair of them will be in T-shirts while I'm shivering in a hoody. I treat her as an individual and dress her as per her requirements, not based on what other children may or may not need.

She is older now so can take her coat off herself, ask for it back etc. But when she was toddling and refused it, I'd just keep offering every couple of minutes and if she got cold she would have it back on. Never really considered how many nosey bystanders were silently judging me.

Some kids are neglected and not provided with adequate clothing, but if you are seeing this a lot then it's far more likely you are just seeing normal parents who are perfectly aware of what their kids need. Honestly, just worry about your own stuff.

I don’t know many babies or toddlers that have enough of a vocabulary to ask for a coat

No but they have a really useful inbuilt communication method... crying.
I see far more people completely overdressing their babies to be honest.... cold babies cry, hot babies die, as they say.

@BringBackLangCleg no I’d never judge a mum offering a child a coat and the child refusing.

I think people have either missed my point or are just trying to defend their lazy parenting. As I said I think it’s due to not putting coats on in car seats. Children young enough to not wear a coat due to safety or a car seat are not old enough to decide what they want to wear. If it’s cold and everyone around you is cold. They are cold too! It’s just laziness. And as I said it was Stacey Solomon’s story that triggered my post, he’s not even 1, why’s he out in the cold in just a baby grow.

I go by the one more layer than me advice when we're out in the car, and usually that is a hoodie over 2 vests and a long-sleeved top.
If we're out walking and he's in the pushchair he's got a blanket tucked around him too, I've no chance of gloves or a hat as he just pulls them off, same with socks, he rubs his feet together until he can kick them off 😂 if I'm wearing him I wear one of dh hoodies and zip that up around us both.

The only time anyone has commented was a random lady in a coffee shop about his lack of hat... I just told her the day he doesn't pull it off is the day I know I'm winning at the parenting thing 😂