Babies/toddlers not wearing coats when it’s freezing??

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Is it just me or has anyone else noticed any increase in babies/toddlers not wearing coats when it’s freezing out! What triggered this thread is a story Stacey Solomon put up ouT walking Rex today in a pushchair with no coat. I actually see it a lot! I was wearing a jumper, coat and scarf yesterday and still freezing yet I see mums holding babies in just a hoody? I think it’s because people are becoming more aware about not putting coats on in car seats but surely you should put one on when you take them out 🤨 really pisses me off

I agree with you op!

I saw a little girl of about two out in a pushchair yesterday with her mum. She had a skirt on with socks. Totally bare legs and it was freezing! Her mum had jeans, boots and a scarf on, so clearly aware of how cold it was.

Having said that I have toddlers twins and I can’t keep hats/gloves on them for anything. I often put the hats on their Laos just so people see they DO actually have hats

My DD2 is just like me so whatever I wear for the weather, I will put her in it. So if I'm fine in just a jumper, I know she will be too! However, my DD8m is a cold baby and if I am in a jumper, she will have a coat, hat and blanket in the pushchair and day to day, will wear a long sleeve baby grow, long T-shirt and jumper. DD2 and I are in T-shirt's 😂

@Thismummyruns you just said yourself if they are outside more than 5 minutes they are in a snuggly pramsuit, so no, I wouldn’t judge at all. Plus carrying them in a carrier keeps them warmer than in a pushchair anyway.

And I totally get the hat/gloves thing! I really am not scrutinising everyone. That being said I still stand by the fact if you as an adult need to wear a coat, your baby does!! Shocked at how many people just won’t put one on as their child doesn’t want to... my child doesn’t wanna eat fruit or veg but that doesn’t mean I just give up and don’t offer them!

he’d be wearing it whether he liked it or not! Mine very much not likes it and is stupendously vocal about the not! The judgeyness of some people about means l wave his bloody coat around constantly to try and prove yes he does have one, and no he doesn't want it!!

Ha my two often look underdressed and I've always wondered if someone will start a mumsnet thread about me one day. We live very rurally and practically live outside in the garden during the day so we have proper wet weather gear and warm clothing which they wear as appropriate.

Nipping from the car into the shop for 5 mins and back again I'm not going to wrestle two perfectly warm under 3s into coats and back out of them again just so I don't get judged.

In winter I quite often use thick cardigan type coats (like these from Joules)for keeping warm in car seats.

What bugs me is mainly kids being carted around wrapped up in twenty layers inside a building- poor things must be roasting. I've seen this all year round.

Remember- cold babies cry, hot babies die.

Shocked at how many people just won’t put one on as their child doesn’t want to

Not once has anyone on this thread said the above OP. They’ve all given you valid reasons why their child wouldn't have a coat in certain situations

Unless you’ve asked all of the people you’ve seen that have children without coats why they aren’t wearing them, I don’t think you can really assume it’s because of lazyness. It could be for any manner of the reasons listed above

*my child doesn’t wanna eat fruit or veg but that doesn’t mean I just give up and don’t offer them!
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Same with the coats! I don't force a coat on my toddler when he clearly doesn't want one and is adequately layered up for the weather, but I do offer the option of wearing it to him. Presumably you offer the fruit and veg but don't force feed them. Where's the difference?

My baby has a short vest a long vest, a romper and a fluffy fleece, she also has on a hat and gloves. She's got her legs covered by a blanket plus a buggy leg cover thing as well as the hood up on the pushchair to protect her from the wind. She doesn't need a coat.. it's 10 degrees outside, hardly the depths of winter... Plus it's more dangerous for babies to overheat than be a bit chilly, they'll definitely let you know if they're cold.

If I’m running her into a shop and then back in the car then no because it’s a faff to get the coat on or off. Out walking yes, the whole caboodle/ bar, scarf, gloves and a coat

Babies, yes. Stubborn fucking toddlers will soon learn mum/dad was right about coats. "Oh, yeah...I AM ducking cold after all! Who knew!". Also, kids are different. Two of mine are quite happy sans coats in some weather - no goosebumps or blue lips, fine. Whatever. Whereas middle.one shivers at the slightest breeze so always has 5 layers and a jacket on. Stop being so judgemental.

Shocked at how many people just won’t put one on as their child doesn’t want to

Shocked! Just so shocked!

Sorry, just can't help laughing at you 😂

My 21 week old runs hot. I layered him up to go out in the pram (with a fleece-lined footmuff) last week when it was particularly cold and took him out after to find that his back and neck were all clammy - he must have been roasting, bless him. So this week, he’s been going out in the pram in a vest, t-shirt and jumper. He’s not been cold, had a warm back and neck so I’ve been happy.

But clearly in the absence of a coat, I am a lazy parent for meeting my son’s own, unique needs

It depends I think. If we are going from, say, the car to somewhere a short distance away, I often don't put her coat on because it's a pain to get her out of the car, put it on, strap her in, wheel her for a minute or few, then unstrap her and take it off when we get to where we are going and she just gets annoyed by being manhandled. The pram does have a footmuff thing so she's not entirely exposed.

She hates hats but if we were going for an actual walk of any distance then she would be in a jacket or more likely her starsnug as she does sometimes deign to have the hood up when she wouldn't wear a hat.

DS 10 months wears warm cardigan in car, with hat added as we go in and out of places if needed. If he is going in pram for walk/school run etc he has parka, hat and blanket plus thin foot muff. he takes off gloves and throws them so we dont force that issue as he generally keeps his hands tucked in.
Never wears a snowsuit as sweats.

No wonder I’m seeing it more and more, the amount of people justifying it 😂

So what your toddler kicks off, ffs snowflake generation or what, your a parent you get them to put it on, simple! Wonder why so many adults wear coats as ‘it’s not that cold’ ‘we run hot’ what a load of bollocks and yeah I’m judging EVERY parent wrapped up carrying a baby not wrapped up. Not even replying any more 😂

Never wears a snowsuit as sweats.

And it also doesn't tend to snow. Where we are at least. I do think the weather's actually been very mild this winter, I've often been out and about in a jumper. It's just not that cold.

Dd is 2 and runs EVERYWHERE. She gets warm! If she wants to take her coat off she'll tell me and we do it. Same with socks, anywhere we go, off come the shoes and socks. She wont sleep with a duvet either (or socks!) and wakes up with chilly toes but it doesn't bother her. The biggest problem is when she sticks her little ice feet on my stomach in the morning.

And btw OP:

YOUR = possession. E.g. YOUR crappy judgement of parents you know nothing about.

YOU'RE = you are. E.g. YOU'RE fighting a losing battle.

I’m judging EVERY parent wrapped up carrying a baby not wrapped up

You do that, OP. Ultimately, your judgement doesn't matter one iota, but if it makes you feel better, sure. Stick your fingers in your ears, tell yourself you're right about this one and that everyone who disagrees with you is wrong (even if that's most people). You do what you've got to do to get yourself through the day. I wish you peace, because it sounds like you need it.

I find the trick to get a child that does not like to be told what to wear is to let them choose.Get two or three coats and ask them which would you like to wear today

But i know what you mean i once saw a toddler in a top,leggings no socks no shoes either in heart of winter .Her mother was a neighbor but also a addict i desperately wanted to give her some of my daughters old things but i didn't know if it was safe to engage with her

If i can give to those that have not i would gladly give unfortunately it can be seen as unwanted attention .I recently gave some clothes to one of daughters new classmates.I got to know the parents and saw they had a new baby and just asked if they needed anything.I find its better not to judge but to ask and offer what you can

Obviously the responses you've had on here with "the amount of people justifying themselves" (aka having a different experience and baby's with different needs) aren't agreeable to you. I'd suggest either:

a.) get over it and accept that your baby's temperature regulation isn't universal to all kids,

or

b.) pick it up in real life when you see it, and good luck with that 😂

Honestly I think this whole thing is crazy. Obstinately ignoring everybody who has a different experience to you makes me wonder why you post in the first place, unless it's to set yourself out as superior in the parenting stakes. Your child needs a coat so those who don't wear one aren't adequately attired? In this mild winter? Ok hun!

I mean, my toddler would happily be outside in a tee shirt, but then he would also be happy playing in the road, eating dog shit and a whole host of other stuff that as parents we prevent them from doing, for their own good.

I can't always keep his mittens on but there is no way in hell I'd let him be out without winter jacket and hat on. On occasions we have genuine melt downs about it, he is zipped into his cosy toes and pushed.

My DD will put a coat on but she will not wear a hat or gloves no matter how cold it gets. There is no way to force a 2 year old to keep a hat on their head.

If someone wants to passively aggressively ask her “ahh aren’t you cold” in front of me they can get fucked tbh.

Thismummyruns Wed 29-Jan-20 20:53:46
I have never put a coat on my 8 month old for the exact reason you've stated- the car seat thing. I've yet to find a coat for her that is warm but not padded like the Michelin man.

Instead, I layer. You can't see the layers but under that fleecy, thin all-in-one is a baby grow and then a long vest. This is only when in and out of the car and in the pram in the shopping centre.

If we are outside for longer than 5 minutes and it's particularly cold, she's in a snuggly pramsuit but I then baby wear her in a carrier.

She's a bugger for tearing off her hat (it's off in seconds and in her mouth) and don't even get me started on socks... she wears baby grows everyday for that reason.

I hope I'm not judged daily for the layers people can't see.

lol dont get me started on the hats omg .Mines about to turn 8 months and the hats its either

pulled off
thrown
over eyes
munched on
screamed at

and good luck with the mittens hahaha

I got my daughter a unicorn onesie for the car its like a fleece go's over clothes but not thick like a snowsuit great for those quick trips in the car or shop trip.Just like this one