How long would you leave your 6 month old baby with your mum for if you wanted a break?

[Naetha]

Apologies for the slightly hypothetical question, but how long would you leave your 6 month old baby with your mum for if you wanted a break?

As a first-time not-yet-mum I just don't have a clue how long is considered too long. My mum very happily offered to look after kiddie-to-be a couple of times in the first few months, and I was hoping that we'd be able to get away for 3 or 4 days for a festival we always go to. Does this sound reasonable? Obviously it depends on the circumstances at the time as well, but for example, how old was your baby when you went for your first weekend away?

Meant to say (was thinking about this when I was up in the night! how sad!) that I don't think my pattern is either normal or commendable. Time away is good, partners that can cope for whole afternoons are great, ditto grandparents. It just hasn't worked out that way yet for us.

Dosen't it depend on your relationship with your Mum and how well the LO knows her? My Mum has been hands on with my LO from day one and looks after her whilst I work 3 days a week. She has more fun getting spoiled by her nannie than with boring old me.

I took my dd to Glastonbury when she was only 3 months old and she was fine. She spent all day in a sling and I was even able to buy 'baby' ear protection for all the noise. Probably wouldn't have been so easy if I wasn't b/f ing tho'.

The first time I left her o/n was for a friends wedding when she was 5 months. I was fine in the evening but in the morning we had to RACE down the motorway coz my boobs hurt so much! (and when I fed her I think I nearly drowned her!).

Other than that I only had a couple of nights out 2-3 hours at a time until she was about a year old.

You need to see how you feel when your lo arrives - but look into taking her/him with you - you can still have a good time.

weve not been away since ade was born (hes 8 months) but my mum has said if we want a weekend away she will be more than happy to have him.
i think it depends on hat you and your mum are happy with.

cade not ade

ds is nearly six. he has just had his first sleepover and I have had my first night without him. He was fine but I missed him terribly.

My SIL left her four month old with her MIL for a week while she went on holiday. Her MIL was absolutely shattered when she got back and said she would never do it again . Dn seemed fine but didn't seem to recognise SIL for a couple of days.

i had my first night away from my dd when she was 4 weeks old! As long as your happy with hthe person they'e staying with (it mas my partners mum for us) then i ay go 4 it! All mums need to regain a sense of "themselves" when they've had a child. i've been going out every sat night for quite a few weeks now. We stay in the house next to dd;'s grans so if there are any problems we're right next door, it just means we can go out, enjoy ourselves and get some sleep at the end of the night. Plus she loves it there - she gets spoilt rotten!

Personally I have only left my children with my parents for a night at a time with one exception, when we were moving abraod, DS was tiny and stayed with me, DD was 2 and a half and stayed with my parent for 3 nights - longest 3 nights of my life!! But she was fine, it was more about me coping not her!!!

Blimey. I had a 2 nighter away from ds when he was about 4 months old. It was BLISS - we slept the ENTIRE time. We had about 3 weekends the first year, then a bit of a break as he was very very mobile and very very uncatchable.

I'd book the tickets if you think you otherwise might not be able to. Clearly a lot of people really don't want to leave their babies at that stage. Just wanted to say that quite a lot also feel more than ecstatic to do so for a bit!

coosyfloosy hope that wasn't a dig at me????!!!!!!!

As long as your mum is prpeared to do it / you are happy. 3 days is fine. My mum had ds for 2 nights at 6 mths. It is probably you that will be rushing back

GOD no, [horrified emoticon]! Sorry, I actually missed your post as I was skim-reading, and it just seemed that most people had decided not to leave their dcs at 6 months or less, so I thought it couldn't harm just to say that some are quite happy to, and that I was. Sorry if you felt got at.

I had left ds with my mum overnight before, can't remmeber how early - 9 weeks for a wedding, I think.

You can't plan now. You don't know how you will feel.

choosyfloosy - :D was just checking. mild hormonal moment sorry.

i am going out for the first time on Saturday night and leaving my ds age 9 mths with my Ma. I am dreading it. Almost don't want to go. And we are only going from 6 - midnight!

nothing wrong with it but prepare yourself to miss them - me and dp went to Budapest for three nights when dd was 9 months old (had just stopped bf-ing) and my God I was miserable - think it is really hard being away from a young baby - nowadays I would jump at the chance (she's 20months)!