April babies...part 2

[KristinaM]

Here it is

I haven't tried expressing yet Fennel . Still plan to try, although don't know yet if dd will have ebm or formula at the childminder's.

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It was so stressful trying to express and failing yesterday, even though normally I find it very easy, I can see why it's not everyone's cup of tea. I spent half the working day nipping in and out of the disabled toilet (people must think I have an unmentionable disease ).

Fennel - that's bizarre - I was thinking exactly the same thing this morning! Sat on the train with a bunch of teenagers and it struck me that they must still have parents forking out tons of money for their clothes - aarrggghhh! I know it sounds silly but this really hadn't occured to me before. Must open savings account for ds's....(can't afford to at the moment - every penny goes on day to day living...).

oops - seeing your last post Fennel mine could have read that I was thinking you have unmentionable disease..!!

dot!
Well, the 'aquababies' class went very well. DD looked as if she had been in the pool forever - she enjoyed the singing and moving through the water. She managed not to burst out crying when she went underwater too! We take ds swimming regularly - I'm looking forward to all going as a family.

Now that's a shame HD. I can't do Tuesdays and I was really hoping to take dd to aquababes!
Fennel are beginning to stress??
Another one of my colleagues has just come back from mat. leave (I have suggested Mumsnet But she just looked at me oddly ) has her dd in a nursery with a webcam!!! She can see her crawling about at the nursery. I don't know if I would appreciate that.

MrsD - you can do aquababies on Fridays too!

Mrs D ? do you mean am I stressed? not really more than usual, but I think the expressing variation is due to baby being a variable feeder. while I struggled to express all day she took only 2 bottles not her usual 3 at nursery. so we were actually in sync but I didn't know it!

Wow - what a bond you must have with dd3 Fennel

HD - indeed! will start wittering on about the miracle of breastfeeding

am actually getting quite into the bf, finally... only took me til midway through my third baby.

That's amazing Fennel. Why do you think she feeds variably? Dd is like that even mixed feeding. Although nursery have her into a two hourly routine now - breakfast 9.30am, bottle 11.30am, lunch 1.30am, bottle 3.30pm and I usually have her at home for tea at 5.30.
After a great start at nursery though and the staff love her, I think I am beginning to struggle. The initial excitement of going back to work is wearing off and I am beginning to miss dd, but only because I still can't help myself thinking she is better off with me If I am honest I am enjoying my own time back again but I don't know if it's because dd has a cold and she's probably teething (she never cries much) but in my heart I don't think she's as happy as she is at home with me. Please somebody tell me this is not true and it's MY problem!
I am still feeding dd morning and evening - I love that. I think I'll be doing it for ages. I love bringing her into bed with me when she wakes at 6.30am, she'll feed for half and hour, then we all go back to sleep for an hour. She wasn't very chuffed at being woken at 8.30 to go to nursery this morning though

Mrs D - that's really weird 'cos I'm feeling exactly the same today... Have enjoyed being back at work for the past couple of weeks, but today I'm feeling all sad about not being with ds... But I think it is us - I think they're absolutely fine - my ds is with dp so I'm 100% sure he's happy and looked after, but I'm still missing being with him . I think the inevitability of being back at work for the next x years has probably just started to hit home.

Mind you, I think with me this has quite a bit to do with PMT, which I'm still getting used to having again..!

Really miss bfeeding ds - it's been 3 weeks since I gave up and I wish I could have kept going with even 1 feed, but it didn't seem practical and he just wasn't getting enough from me...

Oh dear - getting v. sad - think I need chocolate...

Hurrah - have just cheered myself up by booking a few long weekends in Oct, Nov and December! Mrs D - see if you can do the same - I feel much happier now I know I've got a bit of leave coming up - given me something to aim for..!

Good idea dot. I've just had my second period since dd was born. Five weeks since the first.
Anyone else? How about you Kristina? You've been quiet rencently?

hello all
have also just had 2nd , not too bad , was expecting something rraly nasty ! but no
completely non mums related , for those of u who do not know , I lost my nan about 3 mths after ds was born , now my g-dad has moved in a new lady 2 mths later
has caused mass confusion in the ranks , compared 2 the rest of my madcap family being a new mum is positively restive !

poor you Dolbear.
I've had a few periods now as I'm back on the pill. Ds seems to have settled in to nursery well and being part-time is a breeze compared to being full time. Would love a holiday though

mrs D - all 3 of mine give the impression they like being at home with me best. but I am fairly sure they also all like nursery (or school for dd1) as well. and the times at home are more special for us all because we have the variety.
does your nursery think dd is happy? what is she like when you take her and pick her up?

as for the variable feeding, I think she's just hungrier some days/weeks. her naps are very variable too.

Hello all - missed you a bit (but not as much as I missed my 2 littlies whilst in Rome). Just got back this evening and walked through the door at 6.45pm - was thrilled that baby ds was still up because sometimes he zonks by 18.30

Had ecstatic hugs with 2 year old dd and then turned around to see baby ds sitting on my mum's knee but actually straining and pulling away from her as if to get at me for a cuddle. His face was a picture of sheer delight and I was soooo touched because at 5 months I didn't think he cared that much. I enjoyed the break but its great to be back with the two most important people in my life (dh is only ranked 3rd!!!)

Well congrats to Dot's little one for being able to sit, and Yorkiegirl I am impressed that your dd is showing interest in the starting position for crawling.

Mrs D - if your baby doesn't seem unhappy or distressed in any way then she is fine - really, believe me . You're just feeling maternal guilt; I'm still feeling it regarding leaving my older dd at Day Nursery and she has been attending for 20 months now (since she was 6 months old). Mum's always feel guilty about something; it comes with the territory . It sounds very reassuring that the Nursery nurses love your dd - she probably gets lots of cuddles and attention.

Btw - I stopped breastfeeding several weeks ago, and I haven't had a period yet..... Blimey, hope I'm not up the duff!

ds1 goes to nursery 1 day a week, and always says he doesn't want to go, but actually gets spoilt rotten there - there are only a few of them in the room and he's quite shy, so he's forever sitting on someone's knee and getting cuddled! If he doesn't eat his lunch (he's a v. fussy eater) they always make him something different - usually a sandwich 'cos they know he likes them! They're fab and I'm v. happy and assured that even if he does protest a bit about going, he's well looked after.

Would like to send ds2 there for a day a week when he's a bit older but at the moment it's more about not having the money to than not wanting him to go - if I ever get another pay rise he's off!

Blimey HMC - don't even say it! Do you think there's any chance you are??? (GULP)

Hi all, I've been offline for a day or two - our broadband went down (don't know if this was related to our smoke alarm going off at 3.45 in the morning on Tuesday night...). Missed checking in on mumsnet yesterday - I usually have a look to see what's happening, even if I don't post.
HMC, did you have a nice time in Rome? Nice that both your dd and your ds were pleased to see you . Dolbear, what a mad time your family are having. Have you met your grandad's new lady friend? Re childcare etc, I think everyone has an attack of the guilts whatever they choose to do. But we all do the best we can. Remind me of this MrsD, when I am back at work and feeling sad about my dd being with the childminder!

I scared the life out of poor dh when I told him I wanted another baby last night. I think he's very worried about the force of my maternal instinct
HMC - a friend who is pregnant with her 3rd found out when she went back to work after mat. leave. When she went to her locker some tampons fell out and reminded her that she hadn't had a period in a very long time. So she did a test and hey presto!!!
As for the nursery thing. When I went in to pick up dd yesterday, she was lying on the baby gym and the others, who are all sitting up, were in their highchairs. I crept over to dd and called her name and much to my dismay she just looked past me, I called again and she looked at her hands. I know she can hear because she nearly leaps out of my arms every time the dog barks. I don't know why I was so hurt because she is so laid back The thing is she was all smiles and giggles when we got home. I have never seen her crying at nursery and they tell me she never does, she's so quiet. One nursery nurse told me she makes her want another one and they all want to take her home. She does get noisy with me in the evenings though, but that's because she is tired. I think I'm jsut being paranoid, I can't really explain how I'm feeling at the moment, to be honest.Maybe your right HMC, I am just feeling guilty.

Did you enjoy your time away HMC?

Mrs D - ds1 went to nursery for 2 days a week at 5 months and he used to blank me when I went to collect him. I think sometimes just the general noise level and so much to look at makes them a bit quieter. I used to be extra embarrassed, not being his biological mum - I used to think the staff were thinking we hadn't bonded... He was like this for a good few months - now he runs into my arms shouting "Mummy!" and it's actually the loveliest time of the week for me 'cos he's so excited to see me!

Try not to worry - honestly - I'm sure she's OK - it's just us who suffer...!

I'm trying not to be all broody, as we're definitely not having any more - I just loved the whole little baby stage soooo much, and now it's going I'm already grieving. But then I remember how much I hated being pregnant and my horrible labour/birth and it puts things back into perspective!