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mother left her children sleeping in the car and went shopping....one of them woke up....

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ruddynorah · 10/06/2007 17:53

i work at a huge out of town m&s with an enormous car park. this woman left her small baby and her 3 year old daughter asleep in the car. she locked the doors and left the windows slightly open (it was very very hot) and went into the store to do some food shopping.

while she was shopping, the 3 year old woke up, unlocked the car door, got out and started wandering around the car park. so there she is, bare feet, half asleep, dummy in her mouth, looking for her mummy... when another customer saw her and brought her into the store for us to look after and find her mum.

the 3 year old tells me her baby sister is still asleep in the car. so we did a tannoy for her mum (at that point not sure if she actually was in our store or the asda next door, or the boots...or that the girl had given us the correct name) and the security guard went into the car park to look for this car with the door possibly wide open and a baby asleep in it( or maybe awake by then).

so i'm standing there with this 3 year old feeling slightly shaky at how awful the whole thing is, when the mother turns up with the security guard. she's gone to her car with the shopping to find her 3 year old missing. the security guard found her shouting for her daughter. she's apparently mildly concerned, but not terribly. she sees the look on my face and says... 'i know what you're thinking and it's not like that actually, i only left them for 5 minutes to get a few bits so don't look at me like that, how was i to know she could unlock the car?!' and off they went

i'm not quite sure how i was looking at her, my head was just racing with...what if someone had run this tiny child over, or what if she'd wandered off and no one stopped her...or what if someone reached in and opened the car door and took her... silly, silly woman. doubt she'll do it again.

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adath · 11/06/2007 20:56

Sorry have to disagree about the petrol station thing. For me there is no contest, I leave my 2 in the car and go and pay. I hate doing it but the risk of taking a baby and toddler across a busy forecourt just does it for me. More people are knocked down on petrol station forecourts than there are petrol stations that explode. Pay at the pump is rarely an option for me as the nearest petrol station that has that is about 20 miles away.

maisym · 11/06/2007 20:59

get someone else to fill up the car.

If I have to go into to pay I fill up & then drive to the side of the petrol station parking and walk in safely with my kids.

fortyplus · 11/06/2007 21:00

I rarely took mine shopping or to get petrol - much better to leave them with a friend to play then return the favour another time.

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handlemecarefully · 11/06/2007 21:23

"...is no consideration given to the fact that directly underneath cars in petrol stations are huge enormous fuel tanks?? All you need is some idiot to come hurtling into the forecourt, collide with another vehicle and hey presto you have a firework display?"

umm yes, happens every day!

Are you for real?

That could happen whilst you are sat at the pump with them, having returned to your car and fumbling with your seatbelt before you drive off.

fgs there are plausible risks and there are one in a million eventualities. Sheesh!

handlemecarefully · 11/06/2007 21:24

Sorry for my tone, but I do think that is rather a ridiculous scenario...

ViciousSquirrelSpotter · 11/06/2007 21:29

I am amazed by all these people who appear to have troops of servants available to do their shopping, petrol filling etc.

It's another world isn't it...

Blandmum · 11/06/2007 21:34

hmc, plus, if the underground petrol tank goes up, being in the kiosk isn't really going to protect you and you dcs much

expatinscotland · 11/06/2007 21:35

I don't, Squirrel.

And I have the shit life of a working poor who answers a phone during the day and whose husband works evenings and weekends.

It's entirely possible to shop without ditching your kids in a car!

Yes! It's true!

It's called online shopping and pay at the pump or fueling up at weekends!

It works for millions of folks in a similar situation.

And best of all, you don't have to worry about your kids getting out of the car and wondering around in the car park, getting heat stroke, putting down the handbrake and rolling the car, etc.

SpacePuppy · 11/06/2007 21:35

I would've called the police and let her explain to them why she even considered, let alone leaving the children unsupervised and in the hot car!!!

Aitch · 11/06/2007 21:36

who's got servants? some people have said that they fill up when their kids aren't there, that's all. it's not about another world. it's obviously going to depend on how much you use the car or if you can do it while your children are occupied...
dd is eighteen months old and i've never yet had to fill up with her in the car.
nope.
i must just use the car less than you right now, no need to get all class war about it.

Desiderata · 11/06/2007 21:37

lol at Handlemecarefully! Yes, with a name like that you might want to watch your tone

Any how, short and sweet: leaving small children in the car while you go shopping is a twunty thing to do.

expatinscotland · 11/06/2007 21:38

Aitch is coming to live in our spare bedroom in Argyll as our servant.

ViciousSquirrelSpotter · 11/06/2007 21:39

I think online shopping is extremely expensive expat. The cheapest I've found is Tesco, but they're still too dear on a regular basis. Which do you use?

ViciousSquirrelSpotter · 11/06/2007 21:41

Obviously I was being ironic.

I'm just becoming increasingly irritated by people saying things along the lines of "get someone else to do it for you".

Please. That is such a stupid thing to say. Of course everyone would get someone else to do their shopping for them if they could. And their cleaning.

expatinscotland · 11/06/2007 21:43

For food shopping, I use a place called the farmer's market every other Saturday. I go there on a bus with the DDs in tow.

For bits and bobs, I go to a Scotmid/Co-op about 5 minutes walk away or DH goes during the day w/DD2 whilst DD1 is in nursery.

For clothes, I visit charity shops during lunch or on Saturdays - it's cheap entertainment, too, as they also have cheap toys.

For petrol, DH goes on his own whilst I am home w/the DDs or I go to pay at the pump at Sainsbury's.

My children's well-being is worth the fiver it costs in delivery charges for many things, not to mention the petrol costs you save.

expatinscotland · 11/06/2007 21:44

We don't have cleaners or servants. But somehow we still manage without ditching the wee ones in the car, which seems a very, very strange thing to me as I grew up mostly in shitholes with kidnapping and carjacking problems.

Aitch · 11/06/2007 21:45

i shop locally, we've a butchers, veggie shop etc nearby and do a supermarket shop when i drive past one.
isn't tesco's online a fiver? surely you're offsetting petrol costs (and, lord knows, quality of life) against that? my mum rates asda, actually.

expatinscotland · 11/06/2007 21:46

I've found two farmer's markets in our new locale! Can't wait to check them out . I've even found a farm shop to patronise on holiday next week.

Cammelia · 11/06/2007 21:47

Its the concept of little children as a nuisance that I object to. Trying to justify leaving them alone in a car or a house or bloody anywhere is simply reneging on your responsibilities. And then pretending you're doing your children a favour by not waking them up etc etc.................this is def one of my parp subjects

Aitch · 11/06/2007 21:48

that wasn't ironic, though. i'm just getting a bit tired of everyone coming over all Citizen Smith whenever the argument's not going their way on MN. nothing to do with you, VSS, it's happening all the time on here and it's a real bore.
PS. expat, we have rather similar lives, dd and i visit the toys in the charity shops very often. oxfam's prices are fucked-up, man...

octo · 11/06/2007 21:52

Mad woman - I'm all for home delivery - in fact think they should drop the delivery charge for families

A friend of mine learnt her lesson very well not long ago - was in car on her own drive with engine running - got out of car to do something - engine still running - her two year old got into front - and somehow - no idea how - drove the car forward into the garage door - pinning her to it - massive dent in garage door and luckily she still has shins!

ChorusLine · 11/06/2007 22:06

RuddyNorah - was this the Alcotes Centre? Just your description sounds as if it is.

handlemecarefully · 11/06/2007 22:17

Basically I find anyone who doesn't agree with me to the letter queerer than fish!

adath · 11/06/2007 22:17

Well I do my shopping online but when I do go to the shops I wouldn't leave anyone in the car even dp as mch as I am sure he would like me to. I don't have the pay at pump optionunless I drive 20 miles each way to get it and dp cannot drive so I have to go. As a rule I generally try to get petrol when I am on my own but I live in the deepest darkest highlands so have to cover long distances sometimes to take 2 children to hospital appointments a 50mile round trip, swimming 10 mile round trip all these things add up and sometimes fuelling up during the day is unnavoidable.

MerryMarigold · 11/06/2007 22:23

Oh P-LEEEEEEEEEEEEASE. Filling up with petrol and going to pay - which takes min 1 minute and max 5 mins - whilst you can usually see the car from the queue, is HARDLY the same thing as what this lady did.