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Is six children too many ?

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mozhe · 21/05/2007 17:09

Someone,( a colleague..but I do not know them well ), just stopped me in the corridor at work...noticing I was pregnant they asked me if it was my first, when I told them ,' no, it's my 6th '...they said,' six is too many ', and strod off....Is six too many ?

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juuule · 21/05/2007 18:59

We had triple bunks SueBaroo Great aren't they?

mamazon · 21/05/2007 19:00

no way. how rude of them.

Im eldest of 10 and i would say that of all teh negative things i could say about being part of a large brood the good far outway the bad.

tell her to mind her own business. how dare she make a judgment like that.

jalopy · 21/05/2007 19:02

Six is too many if you are only planning to take 2 days maternity leave.

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Pollyanna · 21/05/2007 19:02

I would quite like 6 I am having difficulty coping with the 4 I have atm.

I suppose from an eco pov the argument is that 6 is way too many - we should all be reducing the earth's population and all that..

SueBaroo · 21/05/2007 19:06

triple bunks are bloody marvellous in a three-bed semi and four kids,

juuule · 21/05/2007 19:07

There are times when I'd quite like 6...but then I'd need to give 3 away and I mostly think they are all brill

juuule · 21/05/2007 19:10

Triple bunks give hours of entertainment too, climbing frame, dens..all sorts of things.

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Zola78 · 21/05/2007 19:11

In the case of the guy who didn't have his own bed and whereby he felt like a bit of an after thought. I believe that can happen even if there are only two children. The dynamic of the household depends on personalities.

LoveAngel · 21/05/2007 19:13

I would never judge the amount of children another woman had / wanted. (Personally, six is about 4 too many for me, though!).

juuule · 21/05/2007 19:13

You can get happy people from big families and happy people from small families. You can get sad people from big families and sad people from small families. Big family or small family or anything in between isn't a be all and end all indicator of whether you become a sad or happy adult.

Pollyanna · 21/05/2007 19:17

I suppose you do find that alot of people from large families do go on to have 2 children . My biggest worry is the lack of individual attention each child gets. But the reality of the situation is that it is probably me who suffers the most.

mumfor1standfinaltime · 21/05/2007 19:20

6 children is too many for me!

I take my hat off to people who can manage finicially and mentally to have lots of children. I just wouldn't have the patience.

Judy1234 · 21/05/2007 19:21

I know women with six and more. It's fine and I have 5. Unusual for someone to say to your face six is too many.

There are some nice benefits in having a large family and it can also be fun for the children too.

DameEnidONC · 21/05/2007 19:25

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kittyhas6 · 21/05/2007 19:32

Where do you get tripple bunks from??????

nogoes · 21/05/2007 19:34

Six would be too many for me. I think I would forget to pick them up from school and forget their names. My body would be totally spannered, its not looking great after one child, I would be tripping over my boobs if I had to get pregnant another 5 times!

In a waltons type way it would be lovely and family get togethers would be wonderful. Enjoy it, I am secretly envious.

juuule · 21/05/2007 19:42

Kitty - we bought 2 sets of pine bunks, the type that stack. We stacked 3 after taking half the legs off the bottom bed to reduce the height. The other bed we put in another room.
You can get plans to build bunks but the ones we looked at were American and while they were great they were too large for our size of bedroom. There's also a website to buy them ready made but they were too expensive for us.

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mozhe · 21/05/2007 19:55

It definitely wasn't said in a rude way....I think the french,( I live and work in France ),are more direct...ggglimpoo?

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belgo · 21/05/2007 19:56

maybe they just meant 'six - that's a lot'.

oxocube · 21/05/2007 20:02

If circumstances had been different, I would have loved 6 kids. As it is, I have 3

tuppy · 21/05/2007 20:07

If you can cope, why not ? What's hard to predict, though, is how things will be a few years down the line. If some of the children become less "easy" due to hormones, developing personality, etc., then you will have to adjust, but people do. The world keeps spinning and you simply adjust your own pace accordingly.

popsycal · 21/05/2007 20:13

In different circumstances (more money, bigger house and therefore me not having to work and could afford some help if and when it was needed, and if I could have trouble free pregnancies for a change!) then I would have 5.

BUt I think we are stuck at 2 (...or maybe three if I can work on dh )

divastrop · 21/05/2007 21:34

i wasnt going to have anymore after 2.now i have 5.i got some nasty comments when i was expecting number 4 ,like 'are you going to keep it?' and 'havent you got a telly?'.

i stand by what i say to anyone who asks how i cope-2 kids are hard work,after that it doesnt make any difference.they still all fight and argue and im just as stressed as i was when i just had 2(although its the first 2 who still cause me the most stress).

i am one of 2 children,i had to wear my older sisters hand me downs,and we always fought and my mum got stressed.

OtterInnit · 21/05/2007 21:44

if you intend to go back to work when number 6 is 2 weeks old then 'yes' its too many imo

ordinarily 'no'