Is six children too many ?

[mozhe]

Someone,( a colleague..but I do not know them well ), just stopped me in the corridor at work...noticing I was pregnant they asked me if it was my first, when I told them ,' no, it's my 6th '...they said,' six is too many ', and strod off....Is six too many ?

yes, if it makes you rude.

actually I don't think people do attack WOHMs so much .. maybe there's the odd scathing post but they are always rounded on by the majority of posters and it resolves that 'what is right for you and your family' is all that counts

which is very unlike the pseudo-intellectual / politicised / misunderstanding of feminism claptrap that some posters continually expound

or maybe its all down to perspective again

both are equally rude IMHO

and those who do not respect others do not in turn necessarily deserve respect

and the wonderful thing about tiggers, is tigger's a wonderful thing...

oh bugger .. I'm assuming you are turning into mega-nag, then giving up, then mega-nagging and he's retreating into some dark cave of 'its not really happening' .. or is that just our household?

To answer your question mozhe, I don't think that having 6 children is too many dependent on their quality of life. I don't just mean finances but time spent with their parents etc.

Ultimately, the decision to have 5 or 10 children is that of you and your husband. I think people are far too opinionated these days. If you have more than two children you either you got pregnant by accident or you are selfish and have no idea what you are doing.

The only person that I know with 6 kids is my mum ! It's nice being part of a big family now, but as a child it was difficult.

Dificult how cornsilk?

I've just had my 6th, 6 weeks ago. My eldest is 8. I got some negative reactions at the start of this last preg, but I told the people it was a wonderful thing and it is.

Since the birth everybody I have come across thinks it's an amazing thing and that the kids are really lucky to have all their sibs.

I am not having anymore because I know that I am now at my limit as far as being able to parent my children effectively is concerned.
I personally couldn't spread myself any thinner and (imo) still be a decent mother.

It's a completely stupid comment to have made.
If you have the money, the support and the emotional capeability to have many children then you should have as many as you can look after PROPERLY.

I reckon that people who make such offensive comments are really saying something about their inability to parent many children.
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Sx kids is fab, go on, have 7

Six is too many.

If you are a herring.

Zola 78- Always had to wear older sister's clothes and uniform. Lots of sibling fighting and arguing and mum was always stressed.

cornsilk, you can have a fam of 2 or that and that would be the case!!

I think that when the number of children outnumber the parents, the dynamic of a family must change. After that, I doubt it makes a whole lot of difference. Once you get beyond 4 I suppose there might be an expectation that the older children support the younger children and fill in the gaps that two parents possibly cannot offer - unless they're super-human.

How rude of them to make such a comment!

Surely how many kids you have depends on how many you can:

cope with
conceive and carry
afford
want

Its entirely personally and none of their bloody business!

I've got 3 and several people made rude comments when I got PG this time, like "haven't you got enough children?"..

How very, very dare they?

I spoke to the youngest of ten the other day.

I said wow, as you would.

But then asked him how he'd liked growing up among so many siblings.

He said, sadly, "I never had my own bed".

I think that you should only have as many children as you can provide beds.

Unless you're a herring, in which case don't be silly. Herrings don't sleep in beds. You're thinking of whitebait.

Yes - it's the case in our house!
As I said, now, it's great to have lots of brothers and sisters, we have some wicked drinking sessions and weddings are great. I think my mum found it hard because she is generally a stressed out person anyway.

Kittyhas6 - do you know your postcode shows up on your profile. Is that wise on a public Internet board?

I also know a family with 2 boys 8 and 6 who chose to share a bed!

no!! don't know why it's there, better check it out, cheers!

This chap was sad - he said his parents never had enough time for him and he was always thought of last because there were nine siblings who could shout louder and punch harder. Nice bloke though.

Kitty - no problem. Gorgeous photos by the way.

Thanks, I've sorted it now

I have lots of children, by choice. As far as affording it goes, we'd be a lot richer if we had fewer.

No, 6 is not too many if that is your choice.

Triple bunks are fab.

Not enough. If you want a cricket team.