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Crazy ex husbands GF

129 replies

justamum1234 · 04/05/2018 18:07

I'm not sure really where to post this, but here's my dilemma anyway.
Divorced for at least 6 years and remarried. Ex husband also in long term relationship with GF. GF has always had problem with me. I think because me and ex have 2 DDs together. 10 & 12. Ex has always been the weak kind. Not assertive.
Anyway they are due to take dds to Kos in summer hols, but gf has said they need to cut their hair. My dds have told me they don't want their hair cut. They are trying to grow it. So I text ex husband to say not to cut their hair and I get the text below back from the gf. I think she has a screw loose. What does one do with this ?

"That's fine. In which case I will need to cancel the holiday. Ask them if they are sure about this. As when this was discussed before the deposit was paid they were fine with shoulder length hair to swim everyday. Let me know by tomorrow morning at the latest. Only the deposit will be lost."

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bastardkitty · 04/05/2018 18:28

I've reported too OP

DextroDependant · 04/05/2018 18:30

I would let them cancel the holiday, your Dds will be dodging a bullet not going on that holiday.

byanyothernamerose · 04/05/2018 18:30

What are her reasons? Is it some kind of religious thing? Can you call your ex ASAP to find out what the hell is going on? This makes no rational sense??!!

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justamum1234 · 04/05/2018 18:31

Thanks. I just reported the post

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LexieLulu · 04/05/2018 18:35

Just say no, it's pathetic and no one can dictate your child's hair to you.

Text EXH and tell him this is childish

NannyOggsKnickers · 04/05/2018 18:37

This sounds very much like a control thing. If you have talked to your DDs and they do not want a hair cut then she is being pretty awful to make it a condition of a holiday. That is controlling and manipulative behaviour. I would find it very stressful to be put in this position as a 10 year old girl.

What is she like with them usually?

NannyOggsKnickers · 04/05/2018 18:38

Forgot to say: you are totally within your rights to stand firm if your daughters feel like they do not want to cut their hair for the sake of a fucking holiday. Tell her she can cancel it.

AuntieStella · 04/05/2018 18:38

What do your DDs think of this?

If they prefer hair of their choice to threats such as this, then at least the response is clear. When making that response, do point out that this was the first you'd heard of this. Do your DDs remember this 'deal' in the same way, or indeed at all?

GummyGoddess · 04/05/2018 18:39

Does she think they look too much like you? They can just have their hair plaited so she's being ridiculous. What do your daughters think?

YearOfYouRemember · 04/05/2018 18:43

Could the girls do each others hair after a swim as it seems obvious the girlfriends doesn't want to? No mention of daddy doing his DD's hair.

RandomMess · 04/05/2018 18:43

Yep batshit!!!

Loyaultemelie · 04/05/2018 18:45

Shock I think after that I'd want the holiday cancelled rather than let them go away with someone who clearly has unresolved issues

Penfold007 · 04/05/2018 18:45

Do your DDs actually want to go on holiday with this woman? I'd struggle to trust her with them, her tone is very unpleasant. I have bum length hair and plait it before swimming.

HollyBollyBooBoo · 04/05/2018 18:48

Let her cancel it. What a pathetic threat to make, how controlling towards 2 kids, it's blackmail. I honestly wouldn't even respond to her again.

You can't stop who your exH sees and goes on holiday with but I'd be very unhappy with my girls going on holiday with this woman.

smellslikecrab · 04/05/2018 18:49

Don't reply to her, how dare she! Your daughters are old enough to decide how they want their hair and be able to look after it.
It is non of her business and I think you need to be very clear that her demands will not be met, if she cancels I would be relieved TBH!

LemonadePockets · 04/05/2018 18:52

I’d be worry they come home like the Mitchell brothers.. pair of skin heads Confused

She sounds bonkers. Call her bluff!

TryingToForgeAnewLife · 04/05/2018 18:53

I would have serious reservations over allowing my DC abroad with someone who is seemingly so unstable, (that hair that is an inch to long in her opinion) would cause her to flip so dramatically

AllPowerfulLizardPerson · 04/05/2018 18:55

I'd expect girls of 10&12 to manage their own hair, but even in the unlikely event they don't, there is still plenty of time for them to learn and practice (either to do their own or each other's)

If it's weird pool filter rules, then they wear swimming caps.

But I'm not sure I would trust her not to force them to cut their hair once they were away

AnneLovesGilbert · 04/05/2018 18:57

I wouldn’t reply to her. She’s mad as a hatter.

If you want to, contact your ex and tell him to let you know if he’s cancelling the holiday.

I’d assume there’s something else unrelated going on and she’s looking for an excuse to cancel anyway and is using this as an excuse.

Very bizarre.

FairyCrumbs · 04/05/2018 19:00

She sounds very coercive and controlling.

fontofnoknowledge · 04/05/2018 19:02

I am a sm. There is no rationale to this behaviour except control. They are 10&12 . If they can't brush their own hair after swimming then there are serious issues (am assuming no additional needs) . There are so many ways round this if SM is being a loony about brushing long hair. 1. They agree they brush each other's hair. 2. Their father has two hands I presume , and can complete the task without an instruction manual. 3. There hair gets tangled and they have to sort it when they get home. Send lots of conditioner.

I would call her bluff . This is not something that is in my remit to demand of my step children. It's almost a human rights violation ffs. !! Just No !

ilovewelshrarebit123 · 04/05/2018 19:03

Yep she's batshit crazy!

My DD age 10 has hair down to her bottom, she washes, dries and styles it herself.

She also dances 8 times a week so has to have different styles for that. I never get involved, if she wants it long, she sorts it.

I'd call her bluff to be honest, she won't cancel it over a haircut!

fontofnoknowledge · 04/05/2018 19:04

Do they swim at school? If so I bet the teacher doesn't brush it.

cupcakesandglitter · 04/05/2018 19:05

😂😂😂 the audacity of some people honestly

Thebluedog · 04/05/2018 19:07

I don’t think I’d want my dds to go on holiday with someone who is like this.

Call her bluff

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