Did anyone else do progressive Christmas presents?

[TheFSMisreal]

It seems like I'm the only one. According to Facebook atleast. My son is super excited to earn his next lot. There must be others though right?

Never heard of it. And if I had, I wouldn't have done it. I have enough trouble getting everything together for Christmas Day, if I had to buy a load of stuff and keep getting it out for the next few weeks (?), if not sewing things onto things, I'd get no rest at all!

What if they read the first book, don't enjoy it and don't want the rest of the series? How do you make them tidy their room?

What if they would like another book but would prefer the 1st book from a different series? Is that progressive or regressive?

What if they ask for a new outfit for their doll for their birthday but they haven't met the pre-conditions? Do they not get a birthday present at all, or do they get something which isn't a doll outfit?

I do kind of like the idea for year round behaviour management (assuming youve given up on the whole ‘intrinsic rewards are best’ thang). But as a Christmas ethos it doesn’t feel a bit meh.

Argh can’t type! It does feel a bit ‘meh’!

You could extend it to the adults in the family too as a reward for their

If you came on here and said that your DH based your Christmas present on your behaviour over an entire year and adjusting your present based on your behaviour towards him on a day in June. Or maybe when you pissed him off by turning down a shag in February. Or snapped at him over forgetting the bins in April, we would all be screaming at you that he's an abusive controlling bastard and to leave him.

Yet this kind of behaviour towards a child is somehow ok.

Why? Just why? What is point of this? Who has got time for this?

So they’re not really presents and they’re not for christmas.

What if they read the first book, don't enjoy it and don't want the rest of the series? How do you make them tidy their room?

What if they would like another book but would prefer the 1st book from a different series? Is that progressive or regressive?

What if they ask for a new outfit for their doll for their birthday but they haven't met the pre-conditions? Do they not get a birthday present at all, or do they get something which isn't a doll outfit?

Yes all of that. It doesn't make sense to me. At best it's bribery for good behaviour. That tends to backfire but it's something plenty of parents do they just don't give it a wanky name and sell it as a parenting style.

At worst tho... I don't know, it's all a bit not there yet DS. As in you know he'd love eg a Spider-Man dressing gown but rather than give him that at Christmas you go out of your way to choose a less desirable one. I'd see that as a way to make a child feel never quite good enough, never quite deserving, always has to do a little bit more.

OhCalamity what are you on? 😂 You cant put your partner in the naughty corner because shockingly you dont parent them

Erm, I think you've missed Calamitys point there .

PerspicaciaTick he has 5 to choose from. You're pulling that our of your arse. Birthdays have nothing to do with it 😂

It’s actually quite usual to get a doll for Xmas then at different times during the year to get a few accessories if they want them. It’s not ‘progressive presenting’ it’s just normal

The buttons thing is a bit strange but probably a bit normal too, you go into a shop and see a button and they like it so you buy it and see it on the coat for them. It probably more of a treat or a little present a bit like buying them an ice cream because they want one. Im not sure where the progressive present title came from.

verystressedmum no it's not when they want them

So he is not allowed to ask for additions to any of his progressive Christmas presents when it gets to his birthday? Because he is only allowed the progressive bits of his presents as part of your reward structure? And he is only allowed to choose from 5 series of books because those are the ones you have preselected?

I am still not getting why you would do this to your child? But so long as you are enjoying yourself...

So explain it to us OP, you've not been very clear at all. What's the aim of this? What's your thought process when choosing his Christmas gifts?

I like this idea, if I am good and drink all my wine and eat all my chocolates will I get more??? Seriously though I agree this is just weird, presents shouldn’t have conditions

PerspicaciaTick no, either read what I written or bore off. You're just annoying duck.

Whyarealltheusernamestaken I think that's progressive alcoholism though it sounds preferable to me!

What you've written hasn't helped, most of us are none the wiser ffs! Again I ask what's the aim here? What's you're thought process in buying his Xmas gifts? Maybe you can post a link that could shed some light. I'm starting to wonder if this is all just a bit of goady fuckery...

Heaven help me, I have read everything you have written. It isn't helping because you aren't explaining how it works or why you think it is a good thing.

And I'm not the only one asking for clarification, which you seem unwilling or incapable of giving.

Oh, CantSleep put their finger on exactly what I don’t like about it
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I’d see that as a way to make a child feel never quite good enough, never quite deserving, always has to do a little bit more.*

PerspicaciaTick darling you are going around I circles and i cba to chase you. Learn to read or go away

I've read your posts AGAIN Op and I'm honestly none the wiser. Because you haven't explained it!!

No idea why your fixating on Perspicacia she's just as confused as the rest of us.

CantSleepClownsWillEatMe I buy him things he likes ... You want links to the presents?