Did anyone else do progressive Christmas presents?

[TheFSMisreal]

It seems like I'm the only one. According to Facebook atleast. My son is super excited to earn his next lot. There must be others though right?

No presents are just that. A gift, you choose for a loved one with no strings.

Rewards, incentives and presents for good behaviour are a parenting method which can get expensive.

Ah, I get it...
It's giving a dressing gown but making him wait 2 weeks for the cord, giving an electronic game without the batteries, giving one sock but making him wait a fortnight for the other. Right??? 😣

Guys can you all stop being difficult with the op! It is quite obvious what progressive prenting is. It has been going on for two thousand years! First, baby jesus got lambs brought to him, but as he proved unable to look after them the shepherds took them back. Some time later, he was brought gold and told he would get frankincense and myrrh when he had mucked out the stable...

I love the irony of the OP criticising 'this generation' whilst at the same time being spectacularly rude to people who asked her to explain what she meant.

My children might have been spoiled a bit at Christmas but they sure as hell aren't rude to people.

In the words of many a great scot...did ye aye?

As an aside, clothes are shit christmas presents. I never understand when people give their children clothes at christmas. Buying clothes for your children is basic parenting. Not a special gift. What if he needed a jumper in november? Did he have to wait for christmas to be warm?! Madness.

Sort of like a Pandora bracelet then?

Sounds like progressive presents is just a way to name something - EVERYTHING must be named nowadays don't ya know!

I often buy ds a set of 5 books - then buy him next in series when he's read them. Normal - no?

I'll buy something like a modular nerf gun and then add to it throughout year and Christmases and birthdays. Normal -no?

Normal to buy a baby and pram and add clothes and sets etc over the years. No?

Lots of kids like to change buttons on clothes or sew on those preprepared badges - no?

The only difference I can see is that most magenta don't hold these things to ransom for good behaviour. Most parent effectively and raise kids who are generally good and sometimes misbehave - like kids do!

And they buy the things for their children because they want to - they don't use materialistic things as a conditional love tool.

Sounds crap.

However I agree with not tonnes of gifts through the year. Mine get gifts at Easter (small gift) birthday and xmas

I buy clothes through the year. Clothes aren't a gift unless it's teens wanting certain clothes imo.

Your son is likely to grow into an adult that buts a fuckton for his own dc at Christmas and get the twitch all through December. And then post pictures of The Present Pile on FB.

I also imagine he'd spend it at his in-laws house .

I’m sat in bed drinking coffee and trying to imagine if I tried this ahem ‘progressive’ approach here

The withering look I would get from my girls when I informed them that if they tidied their rooms I’d pimp their new Top Shop coats.

I'd never heard of this but it isn't something that I'd ever be interested in. It seems to be a fad for some parents (mothers!) who can't let go of Christmas for whatever reason, and so they have to keep dripping it for goodness knows how long.

All it does is dilute and diminish the event itself. That's my opinion anyway. I won't be doing it but knock yourself out, OP. Only please pick a less wanky term for it.

I feel quite sorry for the OP. She was obviously really pleased with herself and felt that king of warm, glowing worthiness that most of us get from occasionally making our own playdough or summat, and thought she'd share it with us, possibly so we could say "Ooh" and "Ahhh" and admire her.

OP, I admire that you are thinking very hard about how to do the best for your child. The rest of it is utter wank, but well done for trying.

My idea of progressive presents is taking dd to the toy shop so she can spend her Xmas money and I get to keep my pennies in my purse. No buttons here for us, i hate sewing with a passion and I would rather replace something than sew a button on....

I do something slightly different with books. DD had most of the Harry Potter series, I told her that she wasn't getting the Deathly Hallows until she'd finished all the others. That's just good economic sense. It wasn't a reward.

Ducku1a DD gets clothes for Christmas because she likes them. She has enough clothes, these are extras that she wants.

I get giving DC little treats and rewards occasionally throughout the year. I get buying them the next book in a series if they enjoy it and deserve it. That is not new - I used to get a new Jennings or Enid Blyton book (cost half a crown or 12.5p in new money) if I got more than 7/10 in the weekly spelling test at school. I can understand that if you buy a toy/craft set/Lego/games console for a Christmas or Birthday present you might add expander packs or accessories over time. What I don't get is why this should be linked back to Christmas.

Are you saying OP that you choose gifts that you can enhance and expand on over time? That sounds like common sense to me not 'progressive gifting'.

Well I have had 8 hours sleep since I first read this thread and it makes no more sense to me.

My son is a bookworm and has recieved books fir Christmas from a series.. they are not progressive they are part of a series he has read so far and enjoyed.

He also has had a whole series of books. just because I thought he would like them and read them at his leisure ... I worry about your attitude to books they are supposed to be fun to read not a chore to receive something else.

Can I ask did you make this name up yourself? My DS also tidies his room because he is told to.

As for giving a dressing gown which I had one and loved but for a child doesn't seem that great a present esp if it is not the mickey mouse one he wanted.

Is this an American tradition/idea/thing by any chance?

The way you are explaining it is coming across as
My boss pays me a Christmas bonus, he then pays me throughout the year more bonus for working, when I’m fact it’s not a bloody bonus it’s my wages!

You aren’t gifting anything after Xmas you are doing rewards which is what most parents do with with actual toys or with pocket money. My kids get pocket money and as such are expected to do some chores, keep rooms tidy, do a certain amount of swimming lengths etc etc they then get pocket money that they then save or spend on what they want.
They often spend it on things that go with stuff they got for Xmas eg a new outfit for an out generation doll, or a new Xbox game etc.
That has nothing to do with Xmas, they got thier presents then, this is just normal parenting and expected good behaviour with the odd reward if they do something really good

I feel so sorry for your little one. You are sucking all the joy out of celebrations for him.

I think op sounds like a wanker (1) for.doing it in the first place and (2) for calling it progressive presents.

@pieceofpurplesky 🤣🤣

@TheFSMisreal are you from Earth?

Buttons would not be an incentive for my kids