If you have an only child ...

[imaginaryfriend]

... are you planning on having more or sticking with one? And can you explain your reasons to me?

I've got one dd, 4.5, and I probably won't manage to conceive again as I was always told I couldn't in the first place - dd was a complete surprise! But it's now or never for me age-wise to make the decision as to whether or not to even try to have another one.

I'm torn in half by the decision and wondered what you guys think?

Ummmm I feel like a bad mother now. I have never really considered DS and his position as an only one. He is now 11 and when he was younger he wanted a brother but one who was the same age to play with. Yes it was hard when he was little, I was ill in hosp whilst preg and then after he was born (it was a traumatic birth). For the first two years he didnt stop crying and didnt sleep. Never ever would I have had another child in case of the same thing happening again. I could not have coped. His adorable delightful childminder (who saved my life - mentally) never took a baby again to look after, not even when her bf needed a childminder .
However I adore my son, we have a great relationship. As for D and I doing things, yes ds does come with us, sometimes he doesnt, we have been on holiday without him, ammitedly when he was younger. He stays with his friends or grandparents and really enjoys him self with a whole different set of experiences. Generally he is outgoing and talks to everybody, sometimes he doesnt, maybe thats just who he is? I dont get hung up on wether or not he has siblings, he doesnt and thats it. Does it cross my mind what might happen when DH and I are old and decrepit? Yeah it does but do I want ds to put his life on hold to look after me, I dont think so.
Spoilt, well you may think so as he starts back at school this week with football, skiing, and golf as after school activities but to me he needs to get out and make new friends (we have just moved 3000 miles away from home) who like the same things as him. So maybe some other parents will thing gosh that boy does everything, but thats my business not theres and ds enjoys his activities.
Lastly, just to kill the thread completly, so I can join that exclusive group, I love my son passionately just the way he is and our family dynamics have made him just that person. So best I dont think about what I cant change even if I wanted to and look at all the good things in my life.